my aunts husband wants to have sex with me, i have told him no a couple of time, but he still wont listen. if i tell my aunt she will leave him.
DO I TELL HER OR NOT?
2006-06-29 13:50:01 · 10 answers · asked by jiomylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You keep out of his way and tell him that if he carries on you will tell your aunt because she deserves better, if you can have someone with you when you tell your aunt and do it lovingly and carefully. Your aunt has a lot of time and dreams invested in this man and you are about to ruin them but she still needs to be told because if he is trying this with you then you are most likely not the first and sexual diseases could have been given to your aunt without her even guessing.
If she does leave him she will be fine, it is always better to know the truth even if she don't thank you for it now deep down she will know why you did it and thank you for it.
2006-06-29 13:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This depends on your age I guess. If you're below the age of consent then tell you aunt and the rest of your family. If you're above that age....
Sounds like a creep anyway. If you needed extra-maritals then at least do it outside of the family. It will cause a rift in your family if you do say something. Make sure you have supporting evidence if you do open that door as these things can be turned on you. Also just threatening to tell and the guy knowing you can prove it might make him think twice.
You won't be the cause of your aunt's pain, but the messenger, your uncle's the cause. I think if I was in your situation I'd seek a confidence in another family member you respect and trust.
2006-06-29 22:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by dignifiedcollapse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Can you talk to your Mum? This is a serious and worrying situation for you, and you can't handle it on your own. If you are young, you need to talk to an adult you trust who will handle this for you, and maybe even avoid getting your Aunt involved. One warning to this man to leave you alone or else your Aunt will be told, should be enough. If you are under 16 years of age, his approach is illegal. Even if you are older, turn to someone whom you can speak to confidentially without any delay.
2006-06-29 20:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should definately tell your aunt because not only is he trying to sleep with you he is willing to cheat on your aunt which in both ways is not good and so he is playing with two minds, and bodies. I dont think he is worth staying if she leaves him that would be best.
2006-06-30 00:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummm it's a difficult question.
If you tell your aunt, there's still a risk she'll not trust you...
You first really need to be carefull, then i propose you to slap him the next time he'll ask you. Maybe you're not a violent personn, or you can be afraid but you need to show him you're a strong personn. If he continues, tell him i'm you bf and i'm gonna kill him if he continues.
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2006-06-30 04:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by GATTI S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he asks, tell him if he ever asks u again u will tell your aunt. if he asks again, tell her but i have a feeling he wont. be strong and clear and let him know u are serious.
2006-06-29 21:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one, I think you need to talk to another member of your family about this then the two of you talk to your "uncle" but be careful as he will deny it all. also try not to be left in the same room on your own with him.
2006-06-29 21:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by littlebrother1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should aviod to be alone with him and try to tell your mum or any adult who is reliable.be careful!!!
though you aunts will be hurt,it is better than she has a such ba**rd husband.
2006-06-29 23:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ice_ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she leaves your uncle, presumably he will be even more desparate to have sex with you.
2006-06-29 20:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by kevyn_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up and get a life!!
2006-06-29 20:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋