Is it true that when you break up with your first love, you won't find the same passion again?

Question

I am reaching my 2O's, and i broke up with this guy- our relationship lasted a good solid year, and we were passionate about each other--wanted to marry each other, have kids etc... Ive read articles where people talk about 'never forgetting their first love', and thinking about it often-even though their married. i dont want that, and i want to find the right right guy soon, is it true that first loves are so difficult to forget/ or get over...even when you find someone else to love? Help!

Answer 1

Hah! Balderdash! take my word for it sweetie. Although you may think this was the best...and as time goes on those will be there but faded...you'll find a guy who makes you wonder what the hell you were doing all this time.
Believe me.

Answer 2

You can love again after your heart's been broken, but it's usually a different experience. You've usually learned valuable lessons from your previous relationships, so when you fall in love again, it's a more careful, better informed, and more mature. I know that sounds a little boring, but those types of relationships are the ones that last. I agree that you can't really define love. It's a slightly different feeling for every person. However, I think we're all born with the ability to feel when we are truly in love. You don't need to be able to define it with words, you can feel it.

Answer 3

You shouldn't rush things about getting a new relationship. Not good.

No you will never find THAT passion again because it came from ONE person and each person is unique.

You will find passion again though. Give it some time. No you will not forget, but forgetting is different from moving on.

Plus that was a year of your life with good memories, why forget it? Just because things end badly doesn't mean you have to forget, but its not healthy not to move on.

Everyone dies, moves, or leaves. You have to just think about it as the same thing. These people came into your life to make you happy and once they did that its time for them to go. You have to learn lessons from people and once those are learned then they don't have a purpose anymore so they have to move on as well.

Answer 4

It depends on how bad the broke was sometimes you get over it so good and u and the person remain good friends .Some times we always though that that first was the best but when we find through love we throw it away . Because we think that we cant find love again . The worse thing to do is Tobe very careful of looking for love in the Ring place I mean that we want to have the same type of reship that we have before but it dint always so because no one is alike

Answer 5

You are so young and you will change so much in your twenties. You will find passion again. It will be different because it may be with a different person or people, but you will find it. And a year or five or ten years from now if you still feel the same way about this first love, and he feels the same way, you might be able to rekindle that relationship again. It will be difficult to get over, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

Answer 6

They are often unforgettable, but not so much because they were super duper incredible, but because they were the first, so all those feelings and emotions were new. We often remember the first time we do something or feel something. That doesn't mean it's going to overshadow every relationship we have thereafter...unless we let it.

Chances are you won't ever feel that SAME passion again, but that's not to say you won't feel equally as strongly about someone, just in a different way or for different reasons...you may even feel more strongly for someone...people are individuals, so you're not likely to ever feel exactly the same about any two.

Answer 7

definately not true, especially if it happened during the teens years. at least, its not true for everybody and not true for me. im over 30 now and have finally found someone AMAZING and i have never felt like that before - not even during the highly hormonal teen years. my first 'love' was a relationship that lasted 6 months in my grad year and everyone thought we were great together and would get married, etc etc. i really cared about him. but then he cheated on me and i found out about other people he cheated with. i forgot all about the love at that point - why would i bother? i had other bfs before that, but i dont even call my first long relationship 'my first love' cos i was only 15, i didnt know what the heck love really was. he cheated on me too. ill gladly forget about them and like to think of my bf now as my first real love :) and hopefully we will remain together so i will never have to 'get over him'. otherwise, i can admit it would be damned hard!!! but still, he is not my first 'love', i was married and lived with another guy for 4 years. what i had with them is basically nothing compared to what i have now!

Answer 8

I married my first love, and believed for a long time that I would never love anyone as strong. After our relationship deteriorated, I found that I just never loved anyone again in the same manner. Strength of the love didn't play into it.

I'm now getting remarried and my love for my new husband is just as strong, but it's a more mature love, the kind that comes from the experience of knowing what NOT to do.

You don't forget your first love. You learn from it.

Answer 9

Yes. In scientific cirlces this is called habitualization. In the real world, we call it the law of diminishing returns. In other words you are going to feel less intense levels as you feel/do the same things in subsequent cycles. What's great, is that love is an intense emotion and it can come back strong ... however, just like happiness you often don't know you were in love until you no longer are.

Answer 10

No. I am old enough I honestly don't remember who it is I thought I loved first. But I really think how I feel about my husband now is truly unique and special. We could have never felt this good at 20. And we didn't meet untill well after 20 also.