me and him started out as very good friends, he liked my friend, asked her out, she said no. i had a boyfriend, who stood me up on vals day and i ended up spending valentine with my friend. he cooked for me, we talked about our past relationships, and a week latter he calls me and tells me he is attracted to me.
i like him too, but my girlfriend is upset, and she doesnt want us to date . according to her, he asked her out first and she rejected him. is that enough reason.
we are dating now, and my girlfriend doesnt talk to me anymore.
2006-06-29 13:24:55 · 13 answers · asked by jiomylove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with quite a few of these replies. It does seem that she may be was playing hard to get, but it is her loss - harsh I know. But you're not doing anything wrong, nor are you in the wrong - not in the slightest!! You certainly didn't break a code. You weren't to know, and did what you felt was right, when you said you would go out with him. Your friend should may be have done what you did, if she was truly interested, and said 'yes', instead of playing games.
Your friend should just be happy for you, and not let it get in the way of your friendship. I'd be initially stunned by it, but it wouldn't be worth losing a friend over - so hopefully she will realise after some time that she shouldn't let this get in the way of you two, not if it's a friendship worth keeping. If she doesn't see this, it's sad to say, but is she worth bothering with? Have you tried speaking to her since? You don't want or need any 'ill-feeling' to get in the way of this relationship. Hopefully, she will come round, and know that she's not being fair on you.
I wish you all the best either way, and I hope it works out : )
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2016-04-22 21:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by alesia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend didn't want him but she doesn't want anyone else to have him either, she wants him to be sitting at home pining over her. The fact he has moved on is upsetting for her she has lost her biggest fan and she probably feels awkward at the thought of having to spend time with you both.
Your girlfriend should be mature enough to realise that you dating him is totally ok after all he isn't going to be there all the time, you could try being her friend when he isn't around but if she isn't mature enough to compromise then you have to ask yourself how much value did she put on your friendship?
2006-06-29 13:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an ego trip from your girlfriend. She didn't want him and then decides that no-one can have him? Or just you because... what? We all like to feel wanted, but its best to reciprocate, or stand aside.
Glad you're dating the guy, I hope it works out and think you make the right choice. It'd be a pity to let someone else dictate the other relationships in your life, especially when they don't really affect their own to you.
2006-06-29 13:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by dignifiedcollapse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong! I just went through the same thing. I lost a lot of friends because of it! Who cares? If they were my friends, they would have wanted us to be happy. We (he and I) were friends with everyone. Unfortunately, what happened was friend (the girl) is in love with him and asked him out. He told her that he wasn't interested in anything except friendship. He actually pursued me for about a year. When I finally accepted, everyone had a fit. We went out a few times, had a few weekend trips, and decided we weren't right for each other. Now all our friends aren't our friends anymore. Like I said before, if they were our friends to begin with they would have wanted us to be happy. YOU GO FOR IT!
2006-06-29 13:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by boo66_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your terrific buddy if she could merchandise on your relationship this guy? As for why that's undesirable, that's like rubbing her face into the reality that a guy she relationship is relationship her terrific buddy. there are such a brilliant number of alternative men around that that's pointless to this factor your terrific buddy's ex.
2016-10-31 23:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by powelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru the same thing that your going thru and trust me you are in the right, your friend didn't like him enough to date him at the time, she might have changed her mind about him now just because someone asked you out doesn't mean that their off limits to everyone that they know. My miss right was a great friend of a friend of mine and he wasn't happy about it but knew we would be a great couple so he left our friendship, later i told him that if we were as great of friends as we thought we were that a relationship with one of our friends shouldn't mess that up but if it did that it was his lost because we had a lot of history, and that we would be better friends once he got past the jealous stage. We are friends still but it will never be like it was, but myself and her a great and getting better everyday, mostly because of what we had to go thru to get here.
2006-06-29 13:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Richard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her problem for turning him down even if she was playing hard to get he's moved on she needs to aswell. Give it time she will come round I hope it works out with guy you may lose her for a while but she needs to grow up.
2006-06-29 13:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is being pathetic.. She didn't want him so obviously no attraction there. You two are attracted so what' s the problem. Seems to me its her problem not yours. so good luck to you both !! enjoy!! You sure she was really a friend??
2006-06-29 14:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by rebelgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it isnt up to your friend if you date someone or not but dont let boyfriends come in between you and your best friends!!!!
it'll kick you in the but later on in life!!1
im warning you
2006-06-29 13:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋