what do ya'll think and be very honest i wont report you.?

Question

what do ya'll think about a married couple that wasnt to have about 20 kinds?
i am 21 yrs old and my husband is 25 yrs old and we already have 2 sons

sorry i ment. what do ya'll think about a married couple that wants to have 20 kids

no i am not on drugs neither is my husband. we both just always wanted a big family.

well my finacial situation is good we own 2 busnesses. so we have the money and its not to prove we can reproduce. we just always wanted a big family and are kids would always have someone to play with instead of worring about them having to make friends

i have alot of common sence and yes we have conciderd adoption. and we are thinking seriously about it.
and we are very religous. my husbands grandps is the preacher at are church and his mom and dad are the children's church leaders/teachers/preachers

who said anything about collage. it dont do much for alot of ppl thay go to collage and than thay do nothing with what thay learned i know many ppl that went trew collage and work at MCDonalds. and like my step dad he went all threw collage to become a history teacher (lets just say i know alot about history also) and he works in a factory hes not a teacher most ppl i know that go threw collage end up doing nothing with it. and me and my husband didnt go trew collage and we are doing just fine and i aint gonna make any of my kids go to collage when thay are 16 its there choice weather thay want to stay in school or not. i droped out in the 8th grade and almost everything i learned i dont use what are u gonna use most stuff u learn in school for any ways other than math launge and spelling. and maybe some sience

okay like i said once before who cares about colledge thay will be working for are companys so. and whats the whole big deal with colledge anyways more ppl that go to colledge never use the knowledge i know to many ppl that went to colledge and ended up ding nothing with it so i will not force any of my kids to go if thay dont want to. when thay turn 16 it is there choice if thay want to stay in school or not i will not force them but if thay want to go to school more i will not condone them

Answer 1

Okay, well, I actually grew up w/ a family who had 15 kids. They were planning on having 26 kids (one for each letter of the alphabet). They ended up getting to the letter "O". Anyway, the mother ended up having some severe health problems and passing away when their youngest child was 4 or 5 years old, leaving the father to care for the 13 children left at home by himself. Just remember that having children wears your body down completely, so if you plan on having all 20 yourself (without any multiple births or adoptions) you run substantial risk of having severe health problems. Also, it is not just a parent's job to provide financially for a family, but to teach and nurture them.

I myself come from a blended family of 13 children (I'm the youngest in both), 9 of us were raised together and my husband is the oldest of 8. SO, I am not opposed to large families. If you can handle it, I guess the more the merrier. My mom was 38 when she had me, worn out and not able to play and have as much energy and time as she did with my older siblings.

If you are a religeous person, I would suggest that you and your husband ponder and pray seriously about this dicision. Remember it is not only you have to consider, but the lives and upbringing of little ones. Children deserve a good loving home w/ parents who love them and teach them well. If you feel you can do this for that substantial amount of children, good luck!

Answer 2

Go for it! What an amazing ability us men and women have to reproduce! My husband's cousin wants 13+ kids and she is now working on #8 (the oldest is 10). Her kids are all best friends. The oldest is amazing with babies because she has had so much experience with her baby brothers and sisters. You find a 10 year old that has the patience and know-how to rock a 3 month old to sleep. She did it with my son!

Don't let anyone tell you what to do. You are a stong and mature person to think of your children before yourself. It is amazing how selfish people are these days. THERE IS ALWAYS ROOM FOR ONE MORE! And after you bear a child for 10 months, you will never look at him/her and say, "Gee, I wish we would have never had you." Every person in a family has so much to add.

Good luck. You are doing the right thing!

Answer 3

Having 20 children would be VERY taxing on your body. And I am talking about carrying as well as delivering. It can be done though. My great grandfather was one of 23. He came to America in his late 20's and later had brothers and sisters that he never met back home in Germany. My suggestion would be that if you can afford to support them all and are emotionally and mentally able (not a slam, here so don't get defensive - it is just that children are very demanding), have some of your own and adopt some as well. Think about all the kids that don't have anyone to love them and here you are with so much love that you want to have 20 children to love. And remember, some children are born of the body - all children are born of the heart. Good luck. With that many children you will definitely need it. That and a large support system.

Answer 4

Honestly, I think it's great but it may be really bad for the woman's health. I would like to have 5 kids and then eventually adopt. We already have 2 children that are very loved and very taken care of. My thing is, both my fiance and I came from big families and I love it. We will be married before we have our other children. We're also waiting until he and I both finish school. I'm going next year and then he'll go after I finish. If you can support 20 kids financially and emotionally, then go for it. Who is anyone else to tell you not to do something that makes you happy? Good luck

Answer 5

I think you are crazy. By the time you get all those darn kids out of your house you will be getting ready to die.. Not to mention putting them all through college?!?!? I don't care how many bussinesses you own nobody can afford that..
And I am sorry but if you have twenty kids they are all going to hate you because they will all be fighting for parental attention..
You must be smoking crack..


Also may I say I run across a lot of your answers on here (you have even answered a couple of mine) and I think you are totally full of crap. You are either a housewife with no life or a 13 year old who needs summer to end so you can go back to school and stop wasting your time on Y! answers....

Man you can't even spell college.. IT SHOWS THAT YOU DROPPED OUT IN 8th GRADE!!!

Answer 6

What you want to do is up to you. I do have to say that that many kids would be hard to care for no matter what you financial situation is....but it can be done. I watched something on t.v. not to long ago and this lady and her husband had like 16 kids and one on the way or something like that......anyways I think that it is all about what you think you can handle.......Myself I am 24 and I have 4 kids and want 1 more because i have always wanted 5 kids. I dont care what people say to me about it and you shouldnt either.....if you think you can do it then do it but consider it carefully because that is an awful alot of children and a lot of time and care and a lot lot lot less time for yourselves.

Answer 7

Having that many kids would be a big responsibility. Ask yourself can you and hubby support that many children without public assistance? Can you show each child love and respect? Will you allow the older children to have a normal child-hood without demanding too much of them as far as responsibility for the younger children? if you can honestly answer yes to these and other similar questions then by all means.. have as many as you like. A family isn't a set number...but a family should be about respect and love for one another.

Answer 8

i love the fact that you want a big loving family . but, 20 are you sure? do you run these businesses because i don't know how you will do it with them. you would need a nanny or help from family . what kind of house do you think holds 22 people? i also love the fact that you want to adopt . i appald you there. that's a great thing to do and a very unselfish thing to do. i also like that you's are religious..but,really 20 kids are alot. what about 12?

Answer 9

Do some research on the Duggar family. I think they are up to 17 children now, they are debt-free, and they seem to be doing great. Some people say the physical toll on a woman's body is harmful but I know a lot of very large (10+ kids) families and most of the moms say each pregnancy/delivery gets easier and easier.

You said you are religious. Do what you feel is pleasing to God. If you feel that He is calling you to have a large family, by all means, do it. And have fun. :)

Answer 10

Have you considered adopting? That way, if you really want to have that many kids, you can have them without increasing the population of our overcrowded planet and also, possibly help some needy children.

Also, a good psychiatrist would be a plus. 20 kids. If there are no mental problems in your family NOW, there soon will be trying to keep track of that many munchkins.