Exactly what should i do to step up is what i am asking.?

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This question is in regards to"am i being to overtly protective"? Because i don't think i am!( for those that responded 1st and did not understand the question my apologies) This question right here is in regards to a prior question i had posted. someone responded and said step up. Thats a great thing for her to have said but i needed a little more info than that. Go to my profile to veiw my question. Yahoo 360 something like that. Step up is not an informative educated answer.

Answer 1

I'am so sorry that I replied with the answer just step up, it's sounds like it's such and easy thing to do, No Way. You do have your hands full, and this problem is not an easy one for you to solve. All I was trying to say was that he is also your son, it doesn't matter who he lives with full time he still remains your son. The father has responsibilty's to aknowledge and follow your rules also, (you are the Mom) If he chooses to ignore your feelings, your fears of your son getting hurt or worse than as a parent of this child you need to take it one step further and change custody, so that you have more control over what is allowed and what isn't. Like I said before this is a very hard question to answer. I'am a grandmother which is not an easy title to hold. My daughters in-laws were not being resposible grandparents and were putting my grandchild at risk when they had her for week-ends. I couldn't stand by and say, well it's just 2 days out of the week let's just hope nothing happens bad to her. I stepped in and with some work took away their right to have her at all. She was at risk being with them and I didn't want something to go terrible wrong and lose her, knowing I didn't do everything possible to protect her. I t wasn't easy and I wished that I didn't have that problem to deal with but I have a very happy, loving 16 year old grand-daughter now . I did what I thought was best for her, and that's all I'am trying to say to you. Do what you think is best for your son. If the father thinks everythings ok and you think it isn't than change it if you can. I hope things work out without to much pain for you and the dad opens his eyes and see's where you are coming from. Being a Mom without having their child with them all the time is hard
enough, through divorce my son stayed with his father and my daughter came with me. To this day 36 years later it still hurts me that I didn't have him, but his dad took very good care of him, so I didn't have to go through what you are going through. I hope things work out, i really feel for you.