Ok i posted my first question up today about what should i do if i gave it up to my b/f three months ago and i found out i was pregnant yesterday and my b/f dont know. Ok i told my mommy and she kicked me out today so know i'm here with my b/f and he just tells me that hes been with my best friend for almost three months and i tell him that he can be with whoever he wants as long as he comes back to me at night. I know its stupid but i'm only 17 and he was my first and my first b/f and i love him. Know what should i do!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-29 12:54:30 · 12 answers · asked by shyea2007 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
I'M SORRY TO SAY THIS BUT WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH UR MOTHER? WHAT KIND OF MOTHER WILL NOT STAND BY THEIR BABY GIRL? ****!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND ABOUT UR MAN ****** KICK HIS *** TO THE CURB. IF HE WAS UR MAN IN THE FIRST PLACE AND F***KIN UR BEST FRIEND, THEN Y NOT LET HIM BE BUT BY HIMSELF. THAT MAN MAY NOT AMOUNT TO ANYTHING F***KIN AROUND LIKE THAT! GIRL LEAVE HIS *** AND GO GET TESTED U NEVER KNOW IF HE MAY HAVE SOME KIND OF VANERIAL DISEASE THAT CAN HURT THE BABY! IF U WANT I WILL COME OVER THERE AND TALK TO UR MOTHER AND SMACK SOME SENSE INTO HER THICK *** HEAD! GIRL, IF I KNEW U I WOULDN'T LEAVE U OR LET U GO ON WITHOUT ME HELPIN U! GAHHHHHH! I HATE THE WOMEN THAT DON'T STAND BY THEIR KIDS IN ROUGH TIMES LIKE THIS! U NEED TO HAVE A TALK WITH YO MAN AND TELL HIM HE BE THERE OR COUGH UP SOME CHILD SUPPORT. NO BABY SHOULD HAVE TO GO ON NEEDIN THINGS. IT SHOULD ALREADY BE THERE FOR HIM/HER! U TAKE CARE AND I WISH I COULD HELP U OUT MORE! TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND U WILL SEE THAT THE LORD WILL SHOW U THE WAY!
2006-06-30 12:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 11⤊ 8⤋
First of all, if the guy is sleeping around, you're very likely to have an STD. When you start going to the doctor, ask them not only to check for AIDS like they normally do, but chlamydia and HPV as well. These two are the most common STD's and usually appear with no symptoms in women. Unfortunately, you can't tell if you have herpes before you get blisters, there just isn't a test for that. At least I don't think there is. You could ask your doc.
Second, go to a women's shelter to get set up with a place to live. Your boyfriend obviously doesn't love you and if you think you'll be able to stay with him the rest of your life you're kidding yourself. The women's shelter will also set you up with forms for Medicaid, Food Stamps, HUD, and TANF. The state will require you to apply for child support from your b/f, which he has an obligation to pay. He'll probably be pissed about this, but it's pretty standard and if he's going to be a father he needs to stop being immature.
You might want to consider adoption if you think a baby is too big of a responsibility right now. Millions of families in this country can't have kids and are waiting to adopt, but unfortunately most of them have to resort to foreign adoptions because so many girls like you get abortions and there aren't enough babies to go around.
Finally, get yourself together. I know you're scared, depressed, and really overwhealmed, but you can get through this. Keep your head on straight. You have to think about yourself and the little life inside of you. I doubt your bf will be responsible. So take care of yourself. Quit any smoking, drinking, or drugs. Eat right and get plenty of rest. Don't stress out too much. Your mom will probably turn around eventually. Grandchildren have a way of mending moms & daughters. From now on, use protection when you have sex. Respect yourself. You're going to make it through this and it'll make you stronger. I believe in you.
2006-06-29 20:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear. You will need some good friends to stand by you through this. You should also get professional counseling. You need to think about where this will realisically leave your life 20 years from now and imagine yourself then and what will you wish you would have done now. Remember that eventually if he leaves you, you will eventually move on and find someone else who loves you and wants to spend his life with you. Keep this in mind when you are making decisions that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Personally, I say dump the guy and your best friend. Both of them are viciously abusing you since they know that you will put up with it. You are doing what you are doing because you are being driven by emotional pain and now that mom has booted you, you are also up the creek w/o a paddle and need a place to sleep and something to eat. They are not being good to you and if either of them loved you, they would not be doing this to you. Hang in there and email me if you need to talk to someone. Good luck.
2006-06-29 20:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a family member to live with until after you have to baby and then work and hope to find a good man to marry that likes kids.....
I wouldn't stay there. You got to find someone in your family that will take you in or go back home. I know it sucks but don't stay with him and he's messing with someone. If he cared anything about the child you were carrying he wouldn't be messing with another girl.
I'm not being mean or rude but honey you can't do that and it's not going to make it....
I wish you luck!
âº
2006-06-29 20:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh ur in deep... i realy dont know wot to tell u... just hope and pray that ur mom gets over her anger and takes u back... so that u can dump that loser boyfriend of urs and claim money for everything ur b/f is worth to support ur unborn child.. and always remember the first rule of dating.." Dont have sexs with a guy u havent been dating for, for atleat 6 months"....
2006-06-29 20:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the ****, you told your b/f that he can be with who ever as long as he comes back at night, are people getting dumber, if he knocked you up then he supports you and the kid untill yous both get your life together, **** your mom for bein like that im soory about your life, dont let him **** it up further
2006-06-29 20:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by skippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him! Eeeww especially if he was WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND! Go find a better guy for you. You are worth more than that.
<3,
2006-06-29 20:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by sxenerdx <3s her sweet baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, go to planned parenthood. They will be able to sit down with you and give you some good advice, and possibly even talk to your mom with you.
2006-06-29 19:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first leave him if he can't respect you then don't have relationship if he going treat you like that, sorry he does love you he is just using you. go find a counseller to talk to someone
2006-06-29 20:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f*ck him. he aint sh*t. go find somewhere else to stay, save up and get your own spot and get his a*s for child support. he would not be a good influence on your child. what kind of example would he be setting for your child? he'd be showing him/her that its ok to be disrespectful to women
2006-06-29 21:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would Commit suicide ! Just kidding ! I don't know
get a life !
2006-06-29 20:18:15 · answer #11 · answered by ChiefNickNameadvancer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋