How is it that some men are able to walk away from an unwanted pregnancy with no emotional attachment?

Question

No "men are dogs" answers, please. I already know that. I'm looking for real answers.

Let me correct myself. I know not all men are dogs. I just didn't want that to be an answer.
And to be clear, I'm not the one the man walked away from. I was curious because this happens so often.

Answer 1

Because unlike the mother, they don't have a living thing inside of them. Women are automatically attached to their children, physically and emotionally. To men a pregnancy is often unreal until the baby is actually born. If he walks away and convinces himself that it is not real before the 9 month mark, he has no emotional attachment. They do this by believing the woman is lying, or that the child is not actually his. Or they get scared, walk away and soon "forget" that it was ever mentioned. As long as they dont' have to face up to it they can walk away.

Answer 2

I'm going to have to stick up for the guys here. Men are not all dogs. My boyfriend is 19 and I am 7 months pregnant with his baby. He has not even missed one doctor's appointment, he talks to the baby and feels her move. He is even working a lot of hours so I don't have to work while I am pregnant. I know it's not just out of love for me because we were only together for 4 months before I got pregnant. He genuinely loves his daughter and wants to be in her life. Sure he is scared but that doesn't mean he is going to run off on us. Some men do get attached during pregnancy.
I think it's all about what kind of guy and realtionship you choose. If you are just sleeping together and have no actual realtionship or have just had a one night stand than the chances are greater if you were to get pregnant then he would just walk away from you. Women in that situation should have taken steps to avoid pregnancy...
Some things are not always the men's fault and some of the blame has to be given to women. If you do not protect yourself sexually then you will have some emotional damage because of it.

Answer 3

Because men have a different emotional standard then women. Women are connected to the baby and they feel that...men on the other hand seem to worry about themselves more. If they aren't the ones pregnant why should they care? They can walk away from responsibility just like that while the girl can't. A man isn't a man is he shows emotion duh...I blame society...for teaching boys to grow up hard and cold and inhuman. Thank God not all guys are like that..but some...just are.

Answer 4

Unfortunately biology has made it necessary for the woman to bear responsibility for any pregnancies, unplanned or planned.Sometimes people only want sex not a relationship not commitment. The reality is that the baby who results from these liaisons does not get a voice.Both males and females should be on equal footing if the want intercourse or commitment but that is not the reality.Since the female is ultimately the one who takes the most risk , in every sense of the word, the female needs to take back control of her body and insist that not only she but her partner use protection 100% of the time.DNA tests have made it more difficult for "men" to walk away from their responsibilities as the father, but no DNA test can make you a responsible father. The long and the short of it is "No glove,no love"

Answer 5

That is a good question and one that my sister-in-law is facing right now. I believe that one reason is maturity. If the man is young then he thinks he doesn't have to do anything because it will mean he can't do the things that he wants to do. He doesn't want to face the fact that he is a father and life changes. The woman's life changes and that is all good and well for the man just as long as he doesn't have to change. It could be though that he is in denial. He doesn't see it so it can't be true. He doesn't feel it so it can't be real. Not all men are dogs. They just mature slower than women do. Good luck.

Answer 6

Honestly I think it's because they were not emotionally attached from the beginning.The relationship or whatever was going on had no meaning to him so why should the child that was created from it.A BOY is going to be a BOY and that's it,it's up to us as women who need to stop allowing them to use us as sleeping bags BOYS walking away from children is nothing new and if we as women don't get it together it won't ever be something old.We have to pick and choose a MAN better than we pick which outfit we're going to where to the club or what hairstyle we're going to get on Friday.I use BOY because a MAN doesn't turn his back on his responsibility learn the difference.

Answer 7

guys and girls emotions are very different . Guys have no attachment to the baby like a women does and so a guy gets freaked out as soon as he finds out his girl is preganant (this is if you guys are not planning to have a baby) . On the other hand a girl is like omg i have a life in my stomach and right away attached emotionally . and at the point the guy turns off his emotions and just because numb to the fact that he has a baby in this womens stomach . NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS !

Answer 8

I think it's easier for men to do that than women because I don't think men are born with the maternal instinct like we are. Sure men want kids and (most of them) end up being good dads, but it's a learned thing... Does this make sense? It's making sense in my head, I swear. LOL :)

Answer 9

they have no emotional attachment to the child. the child is not a "part" of them. i know there are men that will argue that it IS a part of them... but really, their sperm doesn't mean anything to them... they masterbate and wash their hands for god's sake... it's the same thing to them. NOT ALL OF THEM of course, some men are decent... but not all. but, that is why i think it's easy for them to suggest abortion, adoption, or walk away hoping child support doesn't follow them... it's not a decision they are making about a life that exists inside themselves. have you heard the saying "no one will ever love you like your mom?" i think it's TRUE! children learn soon enough who they can count on for emotional stength and support. and i'm NOT man bashing, i've been married, divorced, remarried... i love my husband, gesh i loved my ex-husband but their fathering skills are not the same as a mothers!

Answer 10

Not all men are dogs, that's true. Just the ones you're attracted to, apparently.
Start changing your lifestyle and hanging out with a better class of men.