Ok, I guess actually I'm looking for your opinion.......My marriage recently ended, and I'm not looking for another relationship...not yet anyways. But, I'm a 35 y/o woman who enjoys an active sex life. I'm not into one night stands.....so, I've found a guy that is attractive, good in bed and our friendship is based on fullfilling each others sexual needs.....NSA. I find that skipping the drama of the relationship has given us the freedom to do/ask for things we may not have from a "partner". I'm having a great time.....but, wonder if the next man I'm involved with judge me for this.....would you?
2006-06-29 12:35:07 · 11 answers · asked by onip2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW.....I was married for 10 years, and never cheated. This is the only other man I've been with in 10yrs. So whore?? Not so much. Feel free to disagree with me....just don't fall off your moral high horse.
2006-06-29 12:44:52 · update #1
I have no problem with two consenting adults agreeing on a "friends with benefits" relationship provided that they are willing to do the responsible thing should a child accidentally be conceived.
It is still absolutely necessary to keep an open, honest line of communication to prevent misunderstandings down the road.
2006-07-02 17:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think judging people for the past or the future is wrong in a relationship. Shouldn't you love or have relationship with a person based on who she/ he currently is ? So if the next man Judge you because you had a "different" relationship, then he is not the man for you. Don't worry too much. You should do things that you are comfortable with and not hurting anyone.
2006-06-29 12:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kent N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friends with benefits are a good thing. A lot of people are afraid of commitments these days. As long as everyone knows the rules then there should be no hurt feelings. If one person has stronger feelings than the other than that should be discussed so that no one gets hurt. I have had my share of friends with benefits relationships over the years and have never lost a friend because of it when you both know the scoop. But there are also people who are my friends who i would never sleep with because I would lose their friendship. Everyone concerned has to know the rules. We all have needs and sometimes need that itch scratched.
2006-07-01 19:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! In some times in your life you need the sort of relationship that you are having right now. It doesn't mean that you can't have another kind of relationship later on when you feel differently. You are doing the right thing - have fun and enjoy it.
2006-06-29 12:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Markie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can purely talk for myself - i like putting around adult men because of the fact they are plenty greater open and straight forward approximately issues. they do no longer often have alterior motives (once you're basically acquaintances-in the event that they are attempting to attach to then you definitely it fairly is yet another tale). are not getting alongside or have plenty in common with females myself. OH and that i'm no longer permiscous - basically don't have plenty in common with females
2016-12-14 03:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by shaughnessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do it all the time----if he judges you for it---then hes not the man for you-----but be carefull if you are in a friends with benifits situation here are some bad things that can coem out of it
------you coudl become more attrated and attached to him
------or visa vera
-----if he is sleeping with other woman---he could give you a std----this is how one of my friends got AIDS----seriously watch out---he didn't think it would happen to him either
----just be careful ok!
2006-06-29 12:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is ridiculous!!!! Don't you have any morals. If you can't control your sex drive you are a whore. Who is going to want to marry a whore. I won't want you if you are that sexual active. Don't you have any pride in yourself...you tramp.
2006-06-29 12:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
and you must to learn to live with your consequences
there is no free lunch in life and free sexual escapades does mark you as a tainted women like it or not
2006-06-29 12:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Sweety if the next guy finds out ask him if he was home masturbating?
http://www.total-knowledge.com/~willyblues/
2006-06-29 12:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what you are doing is fine. and just don't tell the next man you're involved with!!
2006-06-29 12:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋