As a woman I put effort into my appearance when I meet someone new. I usually end up meeting some guy dressed in cargo shorts or blue jeans and tennis shoes. Just because or meeting is casual I don't think a guy should show up like he is just running errands and stopped to meet me. You wouldnt' go to a job interview dressed in shorts even if it was something casual like mcdonalds . Why do guys just show up in sloppy jeans and tshirts? I know I know, everyone will say it doesn' t matter what they are wearing but come on , first impressions are important. If someone showed up for an interview dressed sloppily, they probably wouldn't get the job even if they were a great worker. FIrst impressions do matter.
2006-06-29 12:23:45 · 14 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think Jazzy1 gave the best answer. Personally, I think cargo shorts are boring and tasteless; but on the other hand, if I'm going to meet someone for the first time that I only know from being online, I wouldn't consider the first meeting a real "date". I'd meet for coffee or something, and leave everything casual and informal so that if we didn't hit it off, we wouldn't be stuck with each other for a long time and have to pay for an expensive meal we didn't really enjoy. I'd consider a "first date" to come AFTER the first time we met.
2006-06-29 23:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you interview all your dates as if they are applying for a JOB!? If so, I can just imagine the supervisory/boss type relationships you must have with your men and it sounds like you've been on a lot of 'interviews' when you say "why do guys ALWAYS show up"? Yes, first impressions are the lasting ones, but where exactly are you meeting these guys? If they show up at a fine dining establishment with baggy jeans and a t-shirt then I see your point, but if it's at a casual dining restaurant then so what? If he's clean (clean shaven, clean nails and hands, clothes) chances are he'll be a good date and the conversation will reveal more. Check out your fellow diners also. They sometimes set the tone similar to not showing up at a costume party dressed for a slumber party! Relax and enjoy LIFE!
2006-06-29 13:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by jazzy1! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not dating the right guys. Many men are very acutely aware of their appearance. Some guys even are hung up on their looks. I would agree with you that first impressions are very important. If a guy or a girl don't make it past that first impression then chances are the date isn't going to really want to delve deeper and find out more about the other person. Funny yes looks aren't supposed to be everything but they are.I always think its better to present my best when meeting others for the first time. Its better for someone to want to know you more than to give yourself a couple of strikes right off the bat. Let others decide they like or dislike you for something other than something that you have complete control over. ( I would never show up at a wedding in sneakers nor would I go to the beach in a tuxedo) Good luck with your next date maybe he will show up looking like a million bucks and make you melt the whole time your with him.
2006-06-29 12:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by El Mexicano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first impressions do matter but when someone is on a date that is not fancy (like going to a fancy restaurant), he should be himself. Think about it, if he show's up on the first date all dressed up and then never again on the dates that follow, would you think you were deceived? Same thing goes for you. You shouldn't put so much effort because then the guy might be falling for something that is strictly appearance-based. You need to deemphasize physical aspects and concentrate on the personality aspect of a person. As long as he doesn't show up in pajamas, it's all good.
2006-06-29 14:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by starr 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on where the two of you are going on the date!
One should dress according to where you are going and what activities are planned. For a walk on the beach a t-shirt and shorts are fine. Maybe you are not dating the right guys for you.
2006-06-29 12:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on the date (if it was one, as opposed to a chance encounter.). I would hate to wear a suit to an afternoon picnic in the park. I agree first impressions are alot. I usually try to go to a nice restaurant first, so I can look as nice as possible.
I will dress up if you want to go out :-)
2006-06-29 12:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Dumbass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on what you are doing for the date. I think casual is good for first date, makes things more relaxed and good for each to be their own person and not make false impressions. As long as his hair is combed, teeth brushed and comes with sincere eyes and nice smile. I don't think it should matter.
2006-06-29 12:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Laney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what your date is. If your going on a picnic or amusement park, sure, but if not, your right, they should dress to show off. After all, this girl could be the one you marry. Let her find out your a slob later on, when it is too late.
2006-06-29 12:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeans
2016-03-26 22:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he didn't let me in on his plans, I would assume we might go out to dinner or a movie....in which case, no, shorts would NOT be appropriate, in my opinion.
If his date plans were something like a picnic, or beach, or a sail....he better be letting me know, so I can be dressed appropriately!
2006-06-29 12:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋