My son thinks being told no is funny?

Question

whom by the way is 13 months old thinks it is funny when he is told no. I think he is aware of what he is doing, cause while he is doing it he looks at you to see what you will say or do. Anyway how do you emphasize the word NO and make him believe it. And I do not believe in spanking.

I do remove him from the thing is he is not suppose to be doing, but he screams like a banshee.

Answer 1

I don't believe in spanking either. Just be firm, say no and remove the item in question or remove him from the situation. He will get it eventually after being firm and consistent. Kids only respond to consistency, I work in a daycare with preschoolers and I have a daughter who will be 5, I know what you are going through!

Answer 2

Same boat!!!
Mine is also 13 mon but a girl. she does the same thing. I really have to scare her for her to get the point, at which she cries, so I reserve that for when she may hurt herself-not just cause she is going in mommy's purse again. She will laugh if I tell her no, or she will stop whatever I asked her to stop doing- and the moment I divert my attention, she is back at it. I ususally just take her away from the situation-or the object or whatever. It helps, they are easily distracted at this age, so it should work okay. They are just getting the concept of no, just because they understand somewhat does not mean they can conceive of consequences at this point. Removing them will reinforce the "no" word said. Wait a few months, as I see it, then start more firmly disciplinig...either time outs or if you believe in spanking (I do not). Any punishment at this stage is pointless, they wont make the connection.

Answer 3

I don't use NO as much any more. I save that for emergency situations. Use other words to direct him to something else. It he is insistent, remove him and place him in a safe spot, a playpen for example. I don't believe in spanking either. I also don't think you should raise your voice and yell unless it is something like running out in the street. That way the child will know that you are serious when you have to yell. I am facing the same thing with my 12 month old but I had 3 kids before him so it doesn't stress me out any more.

Answer 4

Been there!

My son did the same thing and it made me nuts! I kept the stern face and the "mommy voice". When he was really bad, I put him in time out. Now, at 2 he gets it. He doesn't laugh anymore and all I have to do is the mommy voice to get him to stop whatever it is he is doing. Now, this doesn't work 100% of the time, but it works most of the time.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

i had the same problem with my daughter, and we are still working on it. but our problem was talking in church and trying to run around (even where the preacher stands oh my gosh) my father told me that when i used to do that as a little girl he removed me from the situation, and put me in a situation that made sitting in church quietly more fun. apply this to your problem by: but him in a "time out" or place that is no fun, and sternly say no and then leave him there for a min. (like how super nanny does it) this makes it more fun to be out playing and around you, and he will recognize that what he does wrong will end him up in time out. and just perservere through the screaming! i know i hate it too, but let him scream and he will get over it soon enough. just dont cave in, you have to be consistant or else he will know nomatter how long he screams you will eventually give in.

Answer 6

You son is able to get the response from you, attention, even if negative, when he touches something that elicits a "no." Try to minimize the attention he gets. Say no, and then no eye contact and remove the child as appropriate. make it an almost non-communication other than stating "no." Also, you may want to explore how often you and your child are getting one-to-one time. Perhaps this is your child's way of getting more of "mommy's time."

Good Luck!

You are doing one of the toughest but most rewarding jobs in the world, parenting! : )

Answer 7

My son is 14 months and he thinks the same thing.I believe in spanking but I don't think that warrants a spanking anyway.My pediatrician tells me to all ways be consistent and persistent.

Answer 8

My kids went through this same phase. Isn't it frustrating?!?

This is what worked for me. I tried saying things besides "no" when the kids were doing something wrong. For example, if my son was in the kitchen headed for the hot stove like he wanted to touch it, I would say "hot!" and redirect him. If he wanted to stick his finger in the socket or something I'd say "OUCH! That will hurt!" and redirect him. It will probably seem like all you ever do is redirect over and over and over but he WILL get the hint eventually. Try to keep your cool, he will be able to tell if you're getting frustrated or stressed out and that might make it more funny to him. Good luck.

Answer 9

finaally i dont feel alone my son thought it was funny when i would say no, i dont spank either. i took the no one is looking or the circus act method. when he does something wrong i say something other then NO like are you sure you want to do that or your goin to get hurt. even better is when you pay attention but dont let know your watching. they do it for attention so try to be strong in your mind and dont give in. its hard i know but i am sure your a very good mother.

Answer 10

hes not really old enough to be reasoned with, I would sugest if you've told him no and he doesn't stop then tell him no again, if he still doesnt stop or he giggles then put him in his play pen (keep the toys out) and ignore him for a few minutes (not long just long enough so he realises being ignored isn't fun), he should realise that no means no before too long and should help stop him doing bad things for attention (which it sounds like he might be doing)

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if hes screams when you put him in the pen or when you take something away then again ignore him until he calms down, you don't want to reward negative behaviour