My x husband and i share an 11 year old boy. He has primary residency. (which means he mainly lives with his Dad) His dad is ok with our son riding his bike all over the tourist town we live in. The town is fairly small, but it is a tourist town. So anyways our son seems to think its just dandy for him and his friend to swim out over their heads unsupervised. (his father is working and i cannot go out everyday due to my napping toddler). So My big thing was don't go swimming with out an adult. He keeps swimming.Without an adult. He and his friend even had to be rescued in the Alantic Ocean because they took a small boat out. They didn't even have oars. When he comes to visit me I have rules. I say check in every hour and a half. They didn't follow that rule. It had been 6 hours b4 i heard anything. I called his dad and he didn't know where he was either. I feel like his dad gives him too much freedom. I feel like if he can't follow my rules mabey he shouldn't come over. What to do?
2006-06-29 11:30:35 · 4 answers · asked by doesitmatter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Seems like you and Dad need to come to some agreements you can both live with to present a united front. Dad is way out of line, giving his son so much freedom.
2006-06-29 11:32:46 · answer #1 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely ARE NOT being over protective. That is just being a responsible parent. Evidently his father feels guilty so just let's him have full reign. He needs to grow up and take some responsibility for his son. It would be a hard decision to lay it out and say follow my rules or don't come back. Later when he's older he'll understand, but that doesn't help you now.
2006-06-29 21:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by angnc2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way are you being to overly protective. Dad needs to wake up and look at the things on the news that is happening to our children. If he doesn't agree I would centainly try and get my son back before you do not have a son. I'am sorry when it is to late doesn't help. People who think it will never happen to them are the ones with regrets later. Your the Mom it's time to step up and protect your most presious gift, your child. They are one thing that you cannot replace.
2006-06-29 18:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by davidjudyrices 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something in the middle, you seam over protective, dad doesn't seam protective enough.
2006-06-29 18:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋