my 2 year old doesn't listen to anything i ask her to do. can you give me advice?

Question

she will be 3 in a few days. if i ask her if she wants candy i don't need to ask twice. but when it comes to sitting down to eat or coming in from outside or if i tell her no to any of her desires she really freaks out and screams full force. sometimes she even tries to hit me. it is hard because i don't spank her so i end up raising my voice. timeout doesn't work because she will make herself scream until she pukes. i have just started to use disapline in the last few months. before that i let her do whatever she wanted as long as she was not in danger. have i waited to long? is there still hope?

Answer 1

There is always hope. While you may not want to spank, sometimes you have to. Whoop her as* when she does that sh*t and it will stop. Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all, you already got her spoil. By letting her do whatever she wants. That makes it hard, when you bring disapline into it. Cause you are breaking the routine, that she has been use too. It's normal for a two year old to act like that.
She don't understand what, disapline you are trying to give to her. After all her mind if still developing, maybe she see this as a way of mistreating her. Bring the disapline in a little at a time.
Keep saying no , over and over again. Then she get use to hearing that from you. Also till she understand that no means no. Then slowly bring more of it in. I know it harsh , when children are going thru terrible twos. Good luck .

Answer 3

You need to start being firm immediatly. If she won't eat what's infront of her tell her she's not eating. If she throws a fit, walk away and ignore her. She's doing it to get your attention because she's used to not having rules. Do not use candy as a bribe, use something other than that, something like an allowance is great (5 cents for doing this 1 cent for eating that etc.) But you HAVE to stay firm, do not talk to her like she is a 3 year old, talk to her like she's an adult (to an extent), tell her that her behavior is not reflecting what you would like to see. And next time she screams until she pukes hand her a rag and say "clean it up." It's mean yes I know but it's going to help you in the long run. Otherwise you're going to have a worse problem later on!! Time out is a good punishment, but not to her room, the middle of the kitchen, a corner, where there isn't any stimulation or entertainment.

Answer 4

I am sorry to say but if she is almost 3 and you JUST start to disapline her int he last few weeks, you are in for alot of trouble!
I have a 3 and 4 year old and once they started walking and talking I disaplined them. Even then I am still having probelms with them.
It isnt impossiable but its going to be hard to get control of her!
Have patience and alway do what you said you are going to do just be presistent with her and sooner or later it should get better! Plus the terriable 2's arent fun and they can last up until 5 or 6 I have heard!!!!
Good luck!!!

Answer 5

there is still hope. I have a 3 yr old and we have already made the front page of our local paper. He is a terror sometimes. I have learned that the more i talk him through his punishment the easier it is for both of us. He has to stand in a corner but its was alot of work to get him to do it so i got on my knees behind him so he couldn't go anywhere and started counting. I make him count with me. I started off just counting to 10 then went up to 20. It is helping him learn to count and we are spending time together and he's learning a lesson all at the same time. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

There is still hope. At this age it is okay to discipline by spanking. Just don't do it when you are mad and make sure that she understands what she is being disciplined for. She has to be aware there are consequences and she has figured out how to bypass you with your current system. Be Consistent with both praise and punishment!

Answer 7

My dads girlfriends son is like that.I cant stand.All I do is simply say dont do that if it doesnt work I sit them down and try my best to make them understand about displine it works for a while.You could kind of bribe them.Like i will give you some gum or candy if you listen to me.Or ill say no more candy or treats then they listen lol.Hope this works for you.
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Answer 8

yes you did wait too long but there is hope... there is always bribes of candy tell her if you sit down and finish your dinner you can have a peice of candy but ONLY if you eat your meal.... with the kids i work with if time outs don't work that does there is also the threat of there will be no candy if you don't stop doing this or that or if you do this or that

Answer 9

try different methods of discipline. my father was in the marines, and when i was being bad, he'd make me do the grueling exercises that they had to do in the marine core (nothing to hard at first, a lot had to do with running laps and of course, push-ups.)
i know your girl is still very young, but when she is being disobedient, you can't show any weakness. you have to have a firm voice, and make it known to her that your serious. once she's gotten the clue and behaves, reward her with small things like letting her watch a movie of her choice. another way to punish her is to take away something she likes, then give it back to her when she obeys, but telling her that you will have to take it away again the next time she's bad. but you always have to remember, the second you seem to have a weak spot, kids will take advantage of that and throw fits.

Answer 10

i have a year old brother so i know what you are going through. you should never let them do what they want to do that is where you made a problem. know they feel like they have control. you need to start yelling at her so she knows that you are not playing with her.