I do daycare for my brother and my kids can't stand his kids. I am not sure what to do.?

Question

My nephew has been kicked out of 4 diffrent day cares and i don't want to just give up on him like every one else has he is only 6 years old and at the same time i don't want my own kids to be unhappy. How can i help my 5 kids understand i cant give up on my brothers kids?

Answer 1

Your first priority is your own kids, but try to figure out why your nephew is being kicked out of daycares. It seems like a pattern, and daycares generally don't kick kids out unless it is a last resort, that is their income. Maybe the reason is something you can work on with your nephew. Just make sure the reason is not something that is harming your children, like aggression or bullying or something. Plus you probably don't want your kids to pick up bad habits if that is the issue. Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like he might have ADHD, if he has been kicked out so many times. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain that is very real. My stepson has it and he had a lot of problems with other kids. He was very aggressive and bossy, and had a mouth that just wouldn't quit. He was kicked out of daycare too. You might talk to your brother about getting him evaluated by a professional. It is not normal to be kicked out so many times. My stepson was also suspended from school multiple times. Because of all the problems with his behavior, we had him checked out by a neurologist. She gave him a thorough exam and tried him out on a 3 week blind trial of Adderall (he was 8). They did 0mg, 5mg, and 10 mg - he did much better the week he was on the higher dose. He has taken medication regularly since then (he is now 14). He now takes a higher dosage in an extended release form. Sit down with your brother and give him some tough love - this kid needs help. Your brother is not going to want to hear it, and no doubt he is going to have some level of denial about it, but his son needs more help than he is getting right now. He probably doesn't have any friends, or the ones that he does have behave as badly as he does. He is headed for trouble if this thing isn't nipped in the bud now. This child needs help, do not let your brother put it off.

Answer 3

Make sure you are dealing with the boys problems. Does he need to see someone about his bahaviour. Is he hurting your children, if so then your children come first. If he is wrecking their stuff put it away in their room and ban your nephew from the bedrooms. I would be looking into why his behaviour is so bad. Explain to your kids he needs your help but they do come first but he is only a little boy who needs help

Answer 4

I guess you could try to set up really fun activities that they will all enjoy and that way they can have fun together and maybe start to get over the fact that they find him annoying! Since your kids are his cousin you could always explain the importance of being there for family

Answer 5

im sorry but if your kids are unhappy they are unhappy, your brother will understand, or you could sit him down and tell him the guidelines, if he follows them he will get rewarded, if he doesnt, give your kids a treat and leave him out, he will get the memo very fast, or treat him like he acts (age wise) if he acts like a 3 yr old put him in timeout...total isolation, he will soon learn tht misbehaving is no fun

Answer 6

kids will be kids and fight, make up and fight again so all you can do is teach them not to fight each other but help each other fight others; families you can fight together will stay together.

Answer 7

hmmmm.............give him a time out!! or just be trueful with your brother and tell him that you cant take him anymore.

Answer 8

don't