Why does god want me to be so lonely?

Question

I broke up with my girlfriend almost a year ago. I don't have a new girlfriend or any other friends for that matter. I go to AA meetings regularly, but haven't made any friends there that weren't also her friends.

I hate being so lonely all the time. A long weekend is coming and I dread being all alone for four days.

If god loves me, why does he want me to be so lonely?

Answer 1

Don't blame GOD for your undesireable nature. Get up off your can and improve yourself. Then go out like a man and get a woman.

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Answer 2

God doesn't run your life, you do! You decided to get out of your bed this morning and brush your teeth, not God, same thing with finding a partner.

Don't put the responsibility of finding somebody on God or Jesus or Zeus, he gave you a brain so you can make your own decisions and run your own life. Ignore the people who say if you have God in your life you will never feel lonely... that is blatant idealism. They should try living alone. Going to church ever Sunday won't help, and you obviously believe in God and still feel lonely so go out there and be active in your search for a partner.

Answer 3

He doesn't want you to be lonely...He made Eve so Adam wouldn't be lonely...He does the same for us- He's working on bringing solid friends to you, I'm sure.

I don't have many actual friends to speak of, so I'm lonely nearly 24/7...that's where God comes in. He's with you no matter what! You're never alone! You can talk to Him whenever, about whatever- He wants to hear from you. He always gives me comfort in my time alone. Your mortal friends (like mine) will come when God thinks your ready for the next wave and the new challenges that will come as we grow.

If you're really desperate, try a church group of some kind- Youth Group, Bible meetings, prayer sessions...etc. You'll find all sorts of wonderful people to talk to that actually care about you...who knows, maybe your intended girlfriend is in one of those groups already?

Pray about it, spend some time just talking to God (about anything) and see what He gives you next. :-)

Answer 4

How do you come to the conclusion that God wants you to be lonely? If you are lonely, it might be because you haven't gone to the trouble of trying to make new friends.
I'm happy to hear you are in A.A., and I hope you are dong well with it.
Are you part of a church, maybe? I know I've made alot of my friends in church, especially in my Sunday School class. No promises that you'll find another girlfriend that way, but there's always a chance you might find a wife.
I know some others have said it, but it bears repeating...if you have Christ, you are not alone.

Answer 5

Aww, Bill, you may not believe this but we ALL feel this way at one point or another in our lives. Here's a story I don't often share: once I left a long-term, happy, but lackluster (unpassionate) relationship for a man (boy, really :/ ) who said he could not live without me. He fooled me good. The minute I was single, he was gone. I felt sooo alone. Like I had lost everything and my heart would never mend. What pulled me through it was accomplishing goals on my own (diet and exercise are cliche, but really always a great place to start), my family and friends (you say you have no friends but there must be some family member or colleague in your life who you can share a conversation and a cup of coffee with) and hope. Pursue all your dreams fully (travel, work on that novel, whatever) and love, in one form or another, will touch your heart again. Best wishes! ^_^

Answer 6

It isn't "God;" it's YOU. Please go on with your life. I've felt that way in the past and was suicidal. Fortunately I made myself live from day to day and work my way up from the abyss. I'm happy now and wonder why I wasted so many years. Try concentrating on someone or something else you can do to help and you'll think less about your own situation. Don't be alone for the weekend. You can only be alone if you choose to. GO OUT SOMEWHERE. Talk to strangers. Laugh, even if you have to fake it. It WILL get better. Please hang in there. Let us know that you got through the weekend with at least one positive little thing.

Answer 7

It is not God's plan for His children to be lonely. Sometimes God does things to get our attention when He wants a closer relationship with us. For you to be expressing such feelings leads me to question your relationship with Him. God should be the most important person in your life. If you spend time with Him daily and effectively let your light shine in the presence of others you will not be lonely. In His word He says,"seek ye first the kingdom of Heaven". He promises that if you do this all things (love, money, joy, peace, etc.) will He give unto you. Fast, pray, read the word and fellowship with other Christians. Jesus is your best friend. Who else do you know who would give their life to spare yours? I can't think of anyone that I would take a Roman scourging and crucifixion for. Join a church or church group. I hate being lonely too, but God will heal all hurts if you seek Him above all else.

Answer 8

God doesn't want you to be lonely. God wants you to have great abundance in life so he can experience it through you. Go to a different AA meeting. Go out and get involved in things you used to enjoy doing before you met your ex. People find people who are enjoying what they are doing much more fun and exciting to be around. And you have to stop tellling yourself negative things. Focus on the positive and you'll notice more of it in your life.

Answer 9

Stop wallowing in your own self pity and go out and be a friend to someone. What are your interests? Join a group and extend yourself. There are many activities on this long weekend that welcome all comers. Try to be a part of the group.

Also, stop blaming God. When all is going well...you are a wonderful person. When all is going bad...it is someone else's fault.
Take some personal responsibility for our own life and affairs.

Answer 10

Because you need to find peace with yourself my brotha! Put the bottle down. Pick up a hobby and get into it. Play golf, fish, run, or bike. Get involved in yourself and the lord and all will be ok soon. Someone will want to talk to you and date you because you are so in tuned with yourself. Take care of yourself and the right woman will know you can take care of her. That's what they want. They want to be taken care of. You will not meet your new woman in the AA meetings, those women only have problems. You want to work on being and staying healthy.

Answer 11

How do you try to connect with people?

Have you tried going to a church that has small groups? They are always fun, and they are a great way to meet new people who have similar beliefs.

Maybe God is just trying to work in you. Maybe He needs for you to work more on your relationship with Him. Believe me, it is not the end of the world to not have friends. I like keeping my friends to a minmum, to complicated, and I am to busy trying to handle my own life, with kids and husband and all.

Just try using this time you have seeking God, and growing in your relationship with Him. Remember there is a time and season for everything, and maybe this is the time you need to grow in Christ first, then once He feels you are ready you can then move on to forming relationships with others.

God Loves YOU
Heather :)