Am I mentally ill?

Question

For the past two years I have had a problem. I have been obsessed with wether or not a person likes me. Some days my thoughts would be completely consumed- why dosen't she like me? Did I do something to make her feel that way? Does she do things on purpose to get to me or am I imagining it? I got embarassed around my family because I felt that everytime I was around them I talked about it. Now it's shifted to someone else, except I dont wonder if they like me or not I just try and figure out if they have hidden motives, etc. Even when try to get it out of my head I can't because it seems silly even to me. I love to go running but had to stop because I would constantly look in the mirror and think I gained weight and I would weigh myself 5 or 6 times a day. If the scale said I weighed more than the day before I'd keep getting on it untill it went down. When I read magazines or flip through tv channels I have to go back and see if I missed something. What in hel* is wrong with me?

(I constantly think everyone has hidden motives)

Can someone have ocd and not have rituals like washing their hands, etc?

Thats the problem, I CANT stop worrying about it. Its like its stuck to my brain and I can't pick it off.

My father has anxiety disorder

Answer 1

This sounds like schizophrenia or obsevissive compulsive disorder or both. I would recommend seeing a psychologist.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are suffering from paranoia - the feeling that people are out to get you. I would say that you are being oversensitive possibly caused by a feeling of insecurity.

I see that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder has been mentioned in some answers, but I really do not think that is correct. People with OCD do things like checking the front door is locked 20 times before they leave the house because they feel that if they do not follow their 'ritual' then something terrible will happen.

Your confidence is low and I imagine so is your self esteem - but you are not ill - mentally of pyhsically from what I read. Try and be stronger - you can't be liked by everyone - so just accept it. I don't know if you have been hurt or let down badly by someone, but if you have, it is time to move on. Go running, go swimming , fly a kite...do whatever makes YOU feel happy. If you are genuinely unhappy with your weight then go see your GP and tell him how you feel...he won't bite y'know. He may even tell you that your weight is fine. Believe me, my wife and her 2 sisters go on about their weight all of the time - but they do not take it all that seriously. It is something that people do - moreso women, as they are under constant pressure from the press and media that if they do not look like a tick with clothes on then there is something wrong...NOT SO! If I had a dime for everytime I have fallen into to the trap of answering the question all guys dread to be asked 'Does my bum look big in this?' then I would be a millionaire....

Be happy with yourself and to hell with the rest of them......

Answer 3

I do not think your mently ill, but i think you have some unsolved issues within your self, and your not happy with your self, and is why you worry about what people think so much and your weight, and in time this will be a big issure and interfear with your life, I can say this cause I am you or you are me. I go to mentle health I see a case worker and a theripist and belive me they have help me out alot!! do not know how old you are , but i waited till my kids were grown and has effected alot of bad choices I have made. do not wait to seek help now. for a better life! they have a way of getting you to see thing from another point of view and they are great! give them a try, and all these promblems you are dealing with will one day be part of your past. you will see the sun rise again. please ponder on this I know right where you are coming from.

Answer 4

Hmmm....now I am not a doctor, but sounds like you may possibly have obsessive compulsive disorder. Probably the best thing is to talk to a doctor or counselor and they will help you figure out what is going on and maybe some possible treatments to help you so your life is not consumed with these obsessions. I dated a guy for over 4 years with obsessive compulsive disorder.

Answer 5

It's possible to obsess over something and not perform compulsive rituals. It takes time, but you can break that cycle of obsessive thinking by stopping yourself and letting go of the thought when you first realize what you are doing. Remind yourself that this is not a good or productive thought. Replace it with something else. It's like dieting; it sounds easy, but it' difficult at first.

Answer 6

I wonder about peoples motives too. That's why I surround myself with Cats. They have no motives. All they want is to be fed, to be rubbed, to be left alone, to sleep on something soft and to poop in a clean litter box.

But seriously, don't torture yourself. Some friendships are only meant to last for a season. My best friend has moved on to another. Yes, it hurts, but that is life. Friends come and go.

I read one of your other questions about Witchcraft. Did your problems begin soon after you became involved with the Occult? If so, stop. My brother has known people that started having mental problems when they started dabbling in the occult.

Answer 7

There will always be someone somewhere that doesnt like you or approve of you or your behavior no matter how hard you try and how pretty you are etc. Look at the way people treated JESUS CHRIST. He was our SAVIOR and he was treated like crap. He says. When you think the world hates you, remember they hated me first.

Look chic. You have to try to train your mind and thoughts to be the other way. Somehow you trained your mind to think like you do now..so why cant you just redirect it? sounds easier said that done I know..but chill....you will overcome!

Answer 8

I don't think anything is 'wrong' with you. Everybody cares what other people think about them. You just seem to be a little obsessive about it.

If it bothers you, then seek some therapy. Although I think that is something that you can solve on your own.

Answer 9

I would say no, we all have times when things just all
catch up with us at once , gets mighty hectic , just slow
down , solve your problems a little at a time

Answer 10

This is a good news bad news situation. You're NOTmentally ill in the clinical sense. However, your obsessive and compulsive self-consciousness (actually dwelling upon and internalizing your self-concept ONLY from the esteem gained from others) is fast approaching that point. What ordinary people call 'crazy' is mental illness which mean that processes which are part of the mind-body connection are now out of control. What you are facing is a neurosis . . . the time when the mind first starts to betray itself. Again there is good news and bad news. The good news is you are not beyond taking care of yourself and the bad news is you haven't done a good job of it so far. 99% of us have at least a tiny bit of neurosis, you've got quite a bit more. Time to act positively to get happy and competent once and for all.

The best news: YOU are in charge. The little fearful voice of worry and fear that you hear is called your ego and it is NOT you, but just a frightened little remnant from your early life that thinks it is you. But what or who hears this voice . . . and who drives your car when you go for long drives and suddenly realize that you don't remember driving . . . or when you're brushing your teeth or in the shower answers questions you may have forgotten you were thinking about? That 'who' is the real you. You will see these problem areas drop away as you learn to allow the real you to take back control of your life.

Here is what you must do for yourself:

First some simple healthful things . . . .

1. Throw the scale away.

2. Get a tape measure and measure yourself once every 2-3 weeks ONLY.

3. Renew your running and other exercise.

4. Take 5-6 deep (diaphraghm or belly breathing) breaths, allow yourself to relax and say this to yourself 100-200 times a day, "What other people think of me, is NONE of my business. I love and approve of myself. Day by day, in every way I'm better and better."

5. Allow yourself to look in the mirror only 10-12 minutes daily.


OK, here's the rough part:

After saying your 'mantra' ("What other people think of me, is NONE of my business. I love and approve of myself. Day by day, in every way I'm better and better.") Go to the mirror and repeat this seven times a day (part of your 10-15 minutes so get it done quickly if you want to have time for obsessing LOL. "There is one life. That life is GOOD. That life is PERFECTING. That life is GOD. That life is my life shared with God, here and now. I am an expression of God. I choose to express good, I am good. Amen."

While you are saying this or while you are doing your mantra, you will hear a little voice (your scared little ego) denying everything you say as you say it. Don't fight the voice, just allow yourself to notice the weak little monkey voice and continue on without pausing on your "UNITY" affirmation (There is one life, etc.). From now on as you go about your day to day affairs your mind has one over riding main job: to notice when the weak little monkey voice of your ego tries to control you and then to gentle put yourself back on target becoming the divinely-inspired person you were born to be.

At first this will seem impossible, because the weak little scared monkey of an ego is afraid that once the more divine and more relaxed you takes control, it will no longer continue to exist. This is correct in a way. What happens is eventually your ego will be a stronger more relaxed persona, at times still troublesome, but kind of like a 'kooky' companion that you love and whose eccentricities you notice with a chuckle in your heart. Anyway, just don't rush the process, just RELAX and enjoy and notice what's happening. When you are running, look for the 'quiet' moments and pretty soon your entire run will become quieter and quieter as you take back control of your mind. Soon these moments will come to dominate your life and you will truly and deeply love yourself and then one day you will realize you've never been happier. Create some worthy goals and go after them slowly step by step. Good luck.


oh, PS: if you find yourself becoming 'compulsive' about the mantra and about the unity affirmation . . . that means your monkey' is trying to come in by the back door. Ego thinks that it is you, but of course, you are much greater than that weak little scared entity. So what do you do? Again just notice, relax and notice that your mantra and your unity affirmation are starting to get a 'desperation' about them as the ego tries to prove its worth by 'taking over' this process. No sweat, just slow down, relax and let the whole event be a relaxing and joyful event rather than some desperate race to 'get yourself well.' It's no big deal, most egos are troublesome, yours is just a little bit more awkward and annoying then most . . . breath deep, relax and allow joy to enter your body with every breath.

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