Do you think women should stay at home the moment they have children?

Question

What is your concept of a wife/mother? Do you think it is possible to give your 100% as a wife, 100% as a mother, and have a demanding career at the same time?

Why can't men stay at home instead and look after the child,... after all, they did not have 9 months of hormonal imbalance, and did not give birth to child?

Answer 1

Hell no, a woman shouldn't feel like she has to stay home. I grew up in a household where my mother worked, and except for a small stint in prison for manslaughter, I turned out great!
But seriously, no, I don't think a woman needs to stay home. Men should do their piece for child rearing. Many times, a woman has worked for decades to get a career going, she shouldn't end it just because there's a rugrat

Answer 2

The answer is yes women should stay at home the moment they have children if they can. I didn't stay home for long because I have a child with special needs who required therapy that cost $40,000 a year and had to work to pay those who were qualified to the job. It wasn't until I stayed home sick for two weeks did I really realize what I had been missing. I really enjoyed having the time to be with kids stress free and to be home when they came home from school, making snack for them and having them tell me about their day as soon as they bounced through the door.

Concept of wife and mother is by definition a woman who has family responsibilities and takes care of her family responsibilities- whatever that may be and as defined,discussed and agreed upon between the family members for the benefit of the family.

As a fulltime working mother, I don't believe it is possible to give 100% to anything and that is not a goal I would encourage any woman to try to obtain. That pressure is way too much and too taxing for anyone. men don't have to and women should not be obligated to. Giving 100% of yourself to anything means denying the most precious person which is you. I try to balance work, being a wife and a mother the best I can and I accept that I cannot be giving a 100% to all - took a long time, a breakdown and lots of therapy to get to that point. I have agreat relationship with my family and they know that no matter what they come first and my work now knows that to. I take time for me now also. I am finally in a happy place.

Answer 3

Mother hood is a job. and a full time one at that. Consider this: a child's personality is formed within the first 3 years of life. The first years are also the fastest learning period. Please don't think for a minute that just because you are a mom you have to give up your own life for the child. I stayed at home with my children (2) until the youngest one was in school, then I went back to work and really kick started my career. I found that I learned skills as a stay at home mom that I could really use in my job!
My honest opinion? Those babies need their Mommy until school time at the very least.

Answer 4

I think it's best to stay at home and raise your children and be a good wife. This is a much greater responsibility than keeping up with a demanding career, and you don't have enough time or energy to do both. Just think about it: you are responsible for helping mold your children into the next great members of our society. Don't you think you should be there to make sure it happens? If you don't have interest in raising your own children then you shouldn't have them in the first place, and if you want a family there is no greater joy than being there every step of the way.

Answer 5

I wonder why you're not asking the same question about men. Is it possible for a man to give 100% as a husband, 100% as a father, and have a demanding career at the same time?

Answer 6

O.K., this answer is not going to make ALOT of women happy, but I truly in my heart do believe that a woman's place once she has children is there, with them, in the home, teaching them correctly, raising them to be respectful and have morals. Having children means a sacrifice - alot of it. You can't just try to keep up with the Jones' - who cares about them, aren't your children more important than a camp or a fancy vacation or huge house??? The way you've asked your question makes women sound like we have 300% to give. Well, where can I find it, please tell me!? There certainly are exceptions - but very few. Remember, you DO NOT know what goes on behind closed doors. Children are a blessing, a miracle, a gift from God that he's entrusted to our care. I know there are many, many situations where it seems the woman has to work also - but step back and look at why, what do you have that you can do without? I'll bet there are many things. Best of luck either way!

Answer 7

I think you should do what you think you need to do. I have been a stay-at-home mom for 7 years now and its all worth it. Maybe someday I will go back into the workforce. I think it depends on how you were brought up too. My mom was home for us everyday and then was home when we got off the bus, and it meant a lot to me, but if your mom wasn't like that, it might not matter so much to you. I don't know if 100% is possible, but you can try your hardest and your kids will love you just the same, its all about what works for you and your family, remember no one is perfect!!! :)

Answer 8

That's why most work places have maternity leave.
You can give 100% as a wife and mother for the first year of your childs life (one of the most important) and then go back to work.
If you are obsessed with your job and can't see yourself giving 100% to both situations, then maybe you should sit down and think about having a child.

Answer 9

I certainly don't think it hurts. If my wife and I can make it work, she'll do stay-at-home mom, but we have to see if we can. Study results have given plenty of statistics that help show that a stay-at-home mother situation is much better in every way for the children compared to two working parents. I don't think it is truly possibly to give what you say.

Answer 10

I have friends that stay home and those that work full time. Some have to work to make ends meet, some work because they can't stand to be home with their kids. I stay home because I don't want some wierdo doing something to them. I want to be there for them to watch their first steps, say their first words, have their first Kindergarten program, get an award in 3rd grade for most improved in math, etc. It's not that easy to do if you work. I spent more money going to work than I do staying home. I love my kids and couldn't imagine leaving them with someone else unless I absolutely had no other choice. What is the reason for wanting kids if there are no plans to stay with them and form their morals, values and ethics? If you want them just to add it to your list of "things everyone expects me to do so I'll do it" then don't. I think it's ok for fathers to stay home and raise the kids if the mother makes more money. But one parent should be there for them at a moment's notice.