She's having serious problems with my Dad. And I feel its killing her and making her fade away from reality. She just had a nervous breakdown the other night, and we had to bring her to the ER. I felt so scared and me and my brothers didn't know what to do. I know she is stressed and everyone else is stressed out. I sometimes get irritated because she sleeps in my room and I have to sleep on the floor lately. I just don't like not having my privacy.
What can I do to help my Mom?
2006-06-29 10:52:50 · 19 answers · asked by dewdropinn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can make your mom not feel worse by making her more comfortable in your room for now.I know you really don't want her to be there(Especially if your a teen) but she needs that right now.Take all the blankets you can and make your self a comfy bed too.She needs that space away from your father and if he's a controlling person she will feel better away from him.This is a very hard situation for your family to be in.I've been there also spent many nights in my daughters room because I felt safe there.Give it some time.Good Luck!
2006-06-29 11:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Dew,
I know it makes you and your brothers sad and scared when your parents are having problems. Maybe you can let your mom know how all of you are feeling by making a card saying I hope you feel better soon. When you give it to her try talking about it with her. She might cry but I think just letting her know that this affecting the entire family she will think about getting some help. It sounds like she is depressed and she needs to see a doctor. This is not your fault. Sometimes it takes a little while for grownups to work out their problems. In the mean time try to talk to them and let them know what's on your heart. If that doesn't work talk to someone you trust like a grandparent or aunt or your pastor at church. I hope things get better soon. You have better things to do with your summer like be kid and have fun.
2006-06-29 18:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems your mom is going through a very difficult time. Give her some time and try to be understanding. Just try to show her that you are there for her. For the time being try help out around the house with chores, she might feel a little better. As for her sleeping in your room, once again give her some time, it must be pretty bad for her if she has to sleep in your room.Just remember if something was wrong with you, she'd do all she could for you. I really hope things get better for you, your brothers and especially for your mom.
2006-06-29 18:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by whtecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweetheart. Im sorry you are going through this. Your mom is your mom not your child, there is nothing YOU can do to help her she needs to do it herself. What is she going through? What does your Dad say? How many other siblings do you have and what are their ages? Be careful with the little ones, they are so innocent to what is going on. How did you know what she was having was a "breakdown"? Maybe you can contact someone like a counselor and get her help that way but she needs to do it herself not because you want her to but letting her know that you are worried maybe a good pusher. Im here if you need me PrncssNiki@yahoo.com
2006-06-29 17:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by prncssniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is not your job to make your mother (or anyone else, for that matter) happy. You can be supportive and understanding, but nobody should have to carry the burden of "making" someone else happy.
Secondly, any problems within your parents' marriage are their issues to deal with. It is their problem to work out. In that regard, it may help for your mother to seek counsel in whatever feels most appropriate for her.
Finally, it sounds like your mother is just taking a "time-out" for herself because she doesn't know how to handle whatever is happening in her life. Learning to be patient, understanding and compassionate as she works through this will go a long way in helping her find a way to get back on her feet.
2006-06-29 18:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the hospital put her on medication, help her remember to take it.
You and your brothers could help out more around the house, without being asked. Buy her a journal and encourage her to write about what she feels. Encourage her to talk to her friends and/or a therapist. And tell her you need your privacy. By enabling her behavior in this way you are helping her avoid your father. You can't mother her, it's her job to mother you. And if you feel that you kids aren't safe, and/or that your mother isn't safe, call a shelter and get out right away.
2006-06-29 18:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Robin W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything. You're the child, she is the parent. Get professional help, talk to a trusted adult and they can help you find the right people to deal with such a situation. Your parents need marriage counseling, and you should probably talk to someone too. As for her sleeping in your room, that's kind of bizarre but try asking her to sleep in the living room or politely tell her you need more space. Again, please talk to an adult soon!
2006-06-29 17:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her happy before she makes herself happy. But you can be nice to her and talk to your dad about this, he has some say in things in your home, and you do too! Take her shopping or do something you both like to do Together. Don't forget to be positive and happy all the time. This is your mom's and dad's situation Not yours.
2006-06-29 17:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you are fairly young, maybe you could just listen to her. Does your mother have a friend she can confide in. Sometimes it just helps to let it all out, maybe that is what she needs. I hope the best for you and your family!!
God Bless
2006-06-29 17:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by BetsyF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear. If both your parents want to solve this problem, go find them a marriage consultant. if anyone of them doesn't want to do anything. i guess divorce and live separately is the best bet
2006-06-29 17:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by James A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋