I got this thing where if a guys package is small I don't want to date them because I just won't be happy sex wise. It turns me off and I won't get anything out of it. So I wont date a guy unless he has 6 inches or more, because then it will actually do something for me. I will be unhappy end of story. This guy I met all my standards which aren't really too hard to meet. We haven't done anything together and have been dating for over a month now. The thing is we were cuddeling two weeks ago, and I noticed he had a wood and his penis must have been like 3 to 4 inches. Ouch!!! That sucks. Now that I know how small his penis is it turned me way off. I dont want to be a shallow person by breaking it off just because he has a small penis. He can't help it if he was born like that. Should I still keep dating him? If I stop dating him what should I say to him? What should I do ladies? Help me out here. I'm 22 and he's 26.
2006-06-29 10:45:50 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth that you aren't happy with the package...
And move on... You have to have standards!!!
2006-06-29 10:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that important to you, why did it take you a two weeks to get him hard and check out its size (and another two weeks to worrying about it)? It would have been a lot kinder to him (and a lot quicker for both of you) if you'd given him a good groping on the first date, and then not called him back if you didn't like what you felt.
Has it occured to you that, if he is small in the package deparment, he might have gone out of his way to become good at pleasuring women some other way? If you dump him, one of your girlfriends takes up with him, and then you hear that he's giving her incredible oral sex for hours, you're going to feel pretty dumb. Why don't you give him a full test drive before you assume he can't satisfy you? That way you'll know for sure. (At the worst, you have a rather boring evening and have to take matters into your own hands afterwards.)
Also, that way you'll be a lot surer exactly what size he is than you seem to be now -- it sounds like you just felt it through his jeans; it'd be really sad it it turned out he was actually 7" but just wasn't fully hard when you felt him.
Also, has it occured to you that if you ever wanted to try out anal sex, if this guy is the size you think he is then he's the ideal size for it?
If he really is small and you do decide to split up with him _don't_ mention his size. He's probably way too self-conscious about it already, the last thing he needs is another blow to his ego. I'm afraid, given how much of his time you've wasted, it's your duty to lie creatively, preferably in a way that makes it sound like it's not his fault -- because it isn't, he can't help what Nature endowed him with.
2006-06-29 11:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the crux of the situation. You say that you don't want to be a shallow person, so:
You are either a shallow person, or you are not. Which is it?
Successful relationships come from people seeing eye to eye on huge issues like Religion, Lifestyle, Family Values, Work Ethic, etc, etc. Penis size usually isn't on the list. If you are just interested in sexual flings, then you should make a point to say that right in the beginning and let him know of your "Requirements".
2006-06-29 10:56:06 · answer #3 · answered by always_up_late 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so shallow, he can get the job done, all the length does is make other positions possible. Also If you have high personality standard you need to think do you want a guy you can be with or just sleep with. You sometimes have to sacrifice some of your standards for your must haves.
I say date him see if his personality is a real fit, if so then decide what is the higer priority.
2006-06-29 10:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a B.O.B. or toys, he still can give you pleasure with out having a big thing. There a lots of ways to give pleasure than just sex with a penis. But if you are so unsatisfied and know that you are not wanting a serious relationship with him, then break it off. But there is something wrong with all of us. i think you just may be a little too superficial. Just tell him that you no longer want to date him, that you want to see other people. you are not ready to settle down.
2006-06-29 10:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging a man's ability to satisfy you based on the size of his penis is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. The average woman is only 4.5 inches deep anyway, so the notion that you have to have at least 6 inches is all in your head.
Grow up and learn the value of a good man. Or you will be forever dissatisfied in life.
2006-06-29 10:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, look sometimes there are guys not very big but are able to work you up right in the spot.
so give it a try, you might find that you like it(maybe) but if not and there is a connection between the both of you there are toys out there to satisfy the women a men sometimes can't.
I think when you find the one it won't matter to you how big he is, you will make the exception and live with it. But for now just have fun.......... FUC.... IT!!!!
2006-06-29 10:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he starts with a small flacid penis doesnt mean that when it get sbigger it wont be good size
it could have been restricted by his clothing
i say give him a chance and if you really like him
and give him a ******** and see how big you can make it
if it looks good and fat give him a chance to please you
if its still small then atleast you wont have a sore jaw from giving him head!
the emotional connection that you too have should make you be able to get aroused and wet and hopefully come with him
but if he is lousy in bed get a better sexual partner
if thats what you are all about
i would date a girl beacuse i liked her not beacuse she had a tight pussy or cause she had big boobs
i like big boobs but big boobs sag and in 50 years i want to be with a woman i love respect and am stimultaed and challenged by her mind
not a used to be hot old annoying dumb lady that could make me *** in my twenties
2006-06-29 10:58:57 · answer #8 · answered by Erdelac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I share your pain girl. I dated a great guy (good looks, $$, nice house, great personality), who was hung like a stud hamster and I had to break it off. My man now is very well endowed and I am a happpy woman. All these women that say "size doesn't matter" are full of $hit!! (or else they don't enjoy sex as much as we do!!)
2006-06-29 10:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by smarteepants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be ashamed of urself only worried about the size of a guys penis ,grow up u dont deserve to have a male companion,if the roles were reversed and a bloke did not like girls who had small **** u girls would call him an asshole ,get a life girl and look at other humans for the human they are not the size of his dick
2006-06-29 10:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad.You can just tell him what really turned you off. Maybe it won't be such a bad thing. Maybe he's more skilled in "other" areas. But you say your only a month with this guy? Well, it"s your decision so if the physical is what keeps you in then, do what you must.
2006-06-30 07:01:05 · answer #11 · answered by Man_With_No_Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋