She thinks she knows EVERYTHING and she farts all day long. If I even mention that I smell something, she goes OFF on me. We have to share an office for 'team building' and I just can't take if any more! Her last name is something that I can't pronounce and when I try to say it, she yells at me for saying it wrong. I really don't know what to do. I tried to talk to the boss and she thought that I was being childish and immature.
2006-06-29 10:41:42 · 25 answers · asked by Melissa C 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It sounds like you are being bullied in the workplace. Seek advice.
2006-06-29 10:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by lmegrath 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention how the rest of the office is treating her and you. If she's isolated, then join the gang. If you're the odd person out, then I would walk. You always have the option to walk.
If this is an abusive situation, talk to a lawyer about harassment charges. The farting isn't really in question, but yelling is not appropriate in the workplace. If the boss lets it happen, then shame on her. You might start with the EEOC, although that's not the best place to start - they might direct you elsewhere.
2006-06-29 17:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like both of you might be doing some transference here. Granted, it is extremely rude to make no attempt to manage our bodily emissions, but she could have something medical going on, but regarding her behavior toward you, try running the situation by an impartial individual in the office if possible. You want to do a reality check to make sure you not overreacting. I was wondering if she acts this way with others as well? You might try an intervention of sorts, again, with someone impartial acting as mediator provided you co-worker agrees there is a problem. Lastly, it has been my experience that office know it alls are often grand standing in the only place they can feel superior. This person may have a really pathetic life, or indeed no life at all outside of work and so will act with lots of false bravado with you at the office while being someone totally inept in their outside life.
2006-06-29 17:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAGGGHHH! TEAM BUILDING??!! Why can't they just leave people the He&& alone? why should you have to smell her curry farts all day? take a can of air freshener and blast it now and then, just saying you like the smell of it...your second problem, your female boss...I am a female adn sad to say, I'd rather haev a male boss. they are more likely to take care of Sh88 like this....I am sorry for you, there is no solution to your question to be honest...you can't say that much without seeming racist, but lord have mercy, those bean and weird spice farts really reek!! MAybe you could just vomit nicely without complaining when she does it again.?? Sorry to go off, but your question raises so many issues...
2006-07-01 07:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really do understand what you feel.
I went through the hell with some co-workers : it did affected my health, not just stress me.
Sleeping and eating disorders.
I complained too, well, they talked to them and what was the result, they hurted me more.
As it wasn't enough, others with whose, I didn't had any problem, made alliance with them.
I found myself in so negative environment that I lost confidence and trust in myself.
I you can ignore her, and move on, it will be great.
I you really can't take it anymore, look for another job.
Wish you Good Luck.
2006-06-29 17:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by nadira456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chris Rock would probably give better advice but..
Try eating a massive load of beans and drinking beer the night before you go into work
I hear garlic will improve the oder some too
maybe she will learn a little.
2006-06-29 17:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by profit0004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean....it can really be a problem....ugh I really don't have any advice but...here is a humor link maybe you should send it to her...anonymously...(did I just say that?) I am really not evil here's a link it is kinda funny:
http://www.break.com/movies/firedfart7.html
Have a good one...hope you get some fresh air bad gas sounds like a trivial problem but it really can be a problem in a workplace.
JammieG.
2006-06-29 18:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by jaded_illusions78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Wear way too much perfume, and have an air freshener if you have to. Don't even try to pronounce her last name if you can't get it right. Its all about attention seeking. Don't give the attention, cos you're rewarding her everytime you do.
2006-06-29 18:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by aliantha2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her some beano and call her smith, she'll get over it. other than that there probably isn't much you can do except learn not to let it bother you. the world is full of annoying people. the gas thing should be cause for relocation due to adverse health conditions or something though.
2006-06-29 17:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn how to say her name. A persons name is sacred to them. Take the time to learn how to say it, she will appreciate your efforts and maybe cut you some slack.....instead of the cheese.
Keep some Fabreeze spray handy, if she does her thing, you do yours.
2006-06-29 17:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋