My ex left me to be with the girl he had been having an affair with for two years. I was with him for 6 years, he says that the reason why he left me is because the passion died. I was with him while i was student and yes its true that after a while essays exams and the fact that i was broke did take its toll on me, He said that he felt that i was like a christian girl and that the girl he has gone to be with is more fun and exciting its more passionate he compares her to cocaine. My ex also revealed that he had cheated on the girl hes now gone to be with he says that the reason he did that was because he wasnt committed to her! The girl knows he cheated on her she told me that he would never love me like he loves her. He told me that he could vision a future with me and that with the girl he cant really see it lasting more than 6 years. He says that i satisfy his mind but his emotions are not there for me. Should i forgive him if he comes back to me saying he made a mistake?
2006-06-29 10:26:24 · 22 answers · asked by Lena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK let's think about this... a man you were with for six years left you because you were in school trying to educate yourself and have a better future. Instead of supporting you while you were in school he chose to forget all about the six years you were together and get with someone who got him off more often. You mentioned before that you are a Christian so I am assuming you know what the Bible says about adultery and sinful lust so we won't get into that. But I think you're a smart girl so just ask yourself... do you really want to settle down with someone who compares his women to illegal drugs? Women are queens and should ALWAYS be treated as such. You need a King beside you... not someone like the man you described. If he is not willing to stay by you through school how would he handle you having a job, or children, or other things that require your attention. This guy does not even seem worth a second thought. Don't sell yourself short. And I know it sounds cliche but if he did it before, he'll do it again. He didn't make a mistake... he knew what he was doing and he thinks he can just keep you dangling but you're worth so much more than any lie he could ever tell you. It's good to forgive but you don't need someone like that holding you back.
2006-06-29 10:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dr_Helpful 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I can tell you are already have a bias. How? You are already thinking about the "if" world. The world where you imagine he comes back and begs you for forgiveness. But we are not in the "if" world, nor has your imagination become a reality.
It is not wise for you to forgive him. It is going to be a mistake that you kick yourself later for. However, it would be wise for you to completely forget about him and find some passion for yourself. The idea is not to make him jealous or to write scripts for your girlfriends that know him flaunting how you've won the lottery and married a French man that had 11 restaurants around the world. You need to start thinking in the present world. If he is cheating on the woman he already left you for, what makes you think he's not going to cheat on you after he comes back? If he loved you and stayed with you for six years and couldn't tolerate exams and papers, he can't tolerate the rollercoaster ride of love. Move on. He has.
GOOD LUCK!!
~Mimi :)
2006-06-29 10:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by girliegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, well-nigh you most effective forgave your ex GF in 2008 or 2009 while your spouse discovered, given that your spouse took you again. Now your spouse's left you, you explode at your ex GF and most effective now come to a decision in charge her. Even even though so far as I can see, not anything has occurred among you 2 for the reason that you break up in 2008/nine. Nice man.
2016-08-20 10:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My response, it's going to hurt but he left you for another woman. broke your heart and told you what another girl meant to him!! He wasn't planning on coming back because he would have just left and gave you a crazy reason. Instead he compare you to someone else. If th flames died then, what would be so different now!! But then again it may be better than ever. Things would be very ackward for a while. I guess it really to have loved and have your heart broken than to never have loved at all. He called you a little christian girl. Now you do the right thing, because he sounds like the devil to me!!!
2006-06-29 10:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Porsha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, sincerely you best forgave your ex GF in 2008 or 2009 when your wife discovered, considering the fact that your wife took you again. Now your wife's left you, you explode at your ex GF and only now decide responsible her. Even though so far as i can see, nothing has occurred between you two considering you break up in 2008/9. High-quality man.
2016-08-08 23:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. and the fact that u are asking this question and he hasnt even came back means that u probably will forgive him. if yall have already broken up, cut ur losses now and move on. i know its easier said than done because i have had to do the same thing myself and it hurts like hell. you have all this proof that he is a cheater and has serious commitment issues. dont continue to put yourself thru that.
2006-06-29 10:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by MsNic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the chump! He's treating you like dirt, don't take that from anyone. You can do better then him. It may be scary at first, but there is nothing you can't do if you set your mind to it. Stand up for who you are. Take some time and look around, you may find out that someone out there has been waiting for you.
2006-06-29 10:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by pwklickman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if he did it once he will do it again.
It is suppose to be for better or worse, not just when everything is just right and if he has cheated on the new girl already what makes you think that you could keep him from cheating on you again.
2006-06-29 10:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY!! he left you for the girl he cheated on you with.. that is juss so messed up. why should you give him a second chance when he made up his mind that he would prefer to have a hotdog instead of a filet mignon? honestly hun, you know you can find a man who will treat you so much better than he did...
2006-06-29 10:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by angelchic1706 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! don't even give him a chance to ask, start living again. You don't deserve to be his leftover, his comfortzone. You deserve to have someone who loves you for yourself, Start loving yourself, give yourself some positive affirmations and go forward, away from him, don't go places you may run into him. Don't talk to him, he threw you away. Don't left him throw you down the garbage disposal too and push on. Hold your head up and smile and say hello to people, join groups, go places where you know singles are meeting, ask friends to introduce you to someone nice, you are ready to move on. Let them know.
2006-06-29 10:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by whispereronline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋