Why do so many rate honesty as the most desired quality in a friend?

Question

I was just idly watching Big Brother and it seems that they all seem to think the I-do-what-I-want, say-how-I-feel, communicate everything I feel the very moment I feel it, is a desirable personality trait. Isn't "I say what I think" another way of saying "I'm a rude a**hole"?

Answer 1

Saying what you think without being asked is not honesty but intrusion.

A friend is someone that holds you to a higher standard. Wants the best for you and is honest when answering questions that can impact your decisions and actions.

there is a right way and wrong way when aswering a question. Insults are not part of the right way or method...

Answer 2

i do think that some people use what they call honesty as a way of excusing rudeness or not using filters between the brain and the mouth. honesty is an elusive thing and one person's truth can be very different from another. I think what we really mean is someone who is like ourself and has the same interpretation of honesty.

Answer 3

Because that's the way most of us feel. Most of us would like honesty. Those shows on TV are nothing but hyped up garbage made for our viewing pleasure. (and yes, I somewhat agree with you in your last statement, however, there are instances where a person should say what they feel at that moment).

Answer 4

if one is honest even if it is not politically correct then the friend knows where that person stands. the friend then can see issues through that person's perspective or mind set. he is no longer the perfect person but a true person. if one does not have the same views, it does not mean the person is bad or wrong just has another opinion or belief. by starting off honestly, then and only then can a discussion really have meaning. so when talking to your friend or friends be honest with them. we want our friends to be who they truly are not morph into what they think we want or need. that way we don't always have to be "on" we can just be. enjoy your friends, you get to choose them unlike family. so be nice to loving to your friends. and yes, i have an amazing posse of people i call "friends" from all walks of life.

Answer 5

if your friend would not be honest with you who would. You can be honest and not rude about it definitely but do not underestimate the power of honesty. You should be tactful with your speech but say the truth for what it is. The truth helps us grow and flourish. Flattery is rubbish and never gets one anywhere.

Answer 6

For some reason, with the help of reality tv, out of control celebrities who rarely answer to anyone, and just too many people" Rudness is becoming the norm.

I confess, I often fall into this trap. Thank goodness, I come to my senses and recognize it for what it is.

Answer 7

Because those not REALLY close to you will tell you only what they think you want to hear. They may not care, may not want to rock the boat, may not want to get involved, etc. A REAL friend is someone who may have to tell you things you NEED to hear but may hurt you or cause you to turn against them. They take the chance because they really have your best interest at heart. These are rare people.

Answer 8

well I do want honesty from my friends

but you can be honest without being offensive or obnoxious, for example you don't have to say things right away, bite your tongue until a more appropriate time and setting to say something

I am someone who says what they think, but I try not to step on any ones toes, say for example I don't get along with a friend of a friend, I won't say anything to them unless their behavior was completely unacceptable (like shouting at someone or being aggressive and insulting to someone) or if they asked me (I wouldn't say "you're an ****" but I won't lie to them and say I enjoy their company)

Answer 9

But they're only an rude a**hole if they're saying something that you don't want to hear.

Otherwise they are an honest person.

Answer 10

Because honesty is linked to a lot of other qualities.