Am i too young to think about getting pregnant?

Question

im 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, getting married. but i have always wanted to get pregnant he wants a baby too and it has come to the point where i dont want to wait what should i do?

Answer 1

if you have a decent job, enough money to raise a child, enough time to spend with the child, can you raise the child independently? (no help from your mother or anything) -- then go ahead.

i know babies are cute but think twice before you jump into it. think about the BABY's future, not your future.

Answer 2

There's no perfect age. Everyone is different. But think about it....you can certainly wait, but once you are pregnant you cant' take it back. So enjoy your time with your new husband and learn how to deal with each other, before you learn how to deal with a baby. A baby changes your relationship almost instantaneously. If you are a stable couple with a solid foundation and have weathered the "new marriage" stage, then usually the changes a baby makes are wonderful. Some people though, learn a whole lot of not-so-nice things about their spouse when a baby comes. It can be stressful, and lack of sleep and stress brings out the flaws in each other. Some people can't weather this change. I'm not trying in any way to point out the negative. I am simply suggesting that a little time for just the two of you is something that's important and precious......you wont' get that back until your children leave home. So think about that before you let that "baby fever" take over.

Answer 3

Hey! I am 23 and 38 weeks pregnant with my second. I had my first son 27 days after I turned 18, I too, was married. Children are a blessing.Please... make sure that you and you're fiance are not only financially,but mentally and physically ready. I was always great with kids and couldn't wait to have one,I have waited 6 years between children and after my first I really do know what people means by wait until you're ready. But A little secret... You will never be ready.....Kids can't be explained, They are the most precious and the most nerve wracking all in one but I would not take anything for my babies!!! If you think you are ready then go for it and GOOD LUCK!!! I hope all goes well for the both of you!

Answer 4

Age isn't much of a factor for you now. You are an adult so you aren't too young to think about having a baby. The real question is, are you mentally and emotionally ready for a baby? Also, are you financially ready? Now, most people will NEVER be financially ready but somehow they still make it. I didn't have a baby until I was 28 but I had wanted a baby for a really long time. I am glad that I didn't have a baby when I was your age because I don't think I would've had the patience for a baby. It takes alot of patience and love to take care of a baby. Just make sure you have plenty of both and you will be fine. Good luck.

Answer 5

I got pregnant when I was 18, now I'm 21 and I'm pregnant again. I say, if both of you are financially and mentally ready for it then go for it. The only advice I can give you is make sure your boyfriend is willing to committ not only to you, but to the responsibility. Maybe you should try living with your boyfriend for at least a year or two before you get pregnant. I can tell you from experience, people are different once you start living with them. Just make sure you are choosing the right person to have children with.

Answer 6

Make a list of all the other things you want to do with your life and, if you can do most of them with a baby, have a baby.

If you can't think of a way to do what you must with a baby, wait a few years and do those things first.

Just make the best use of your life that you can and make your decisions together.

Answer 7

My grandmother started having children when she was 13 yrs old. Some people start at the age of 18...so I don't think 20 is too young especialy if u have a mate....just make sure you are prepared financially and mentally bcuz it's no joke!

Answer 8

I'd wait until you got married, but that's just me. If you are financially stable and this is the guy for you, go for it! You are not too young, I think you should have kids while you're young enough to remember what things were like so you can relate to your kids (and know all the tricks)

Answer 9

you should do what YOU AND YOUR FIANCE want to do..ignore everyone else.....your not TOO YOUNG to have a child,....

if Bush can put our 18 year old peers out to war to get their heads blown off...then you are NOT too young to have a baby.....

as long as you have a STABLE home for the child, and you and he are working and have your finances together then go ahead and have a child..just make sure that YOU BOTH are ready...go read a couple of parenting books, get your body prepared, ask your mother questions etc...but if you feel that YOU BOTH are ready to have the child then do it...

best wishes to you..remember ..THERE IS NO RIGHT AGE TO HAVE A CHILD.....wait i take that back...AFTER THE AGE OF 18...(i had to say that for all those little teeny boppers who trying to have babies at 11+)

Answer 10

I am 21 and I now have two children by my husband of two years, I don;t think that you are to young to have a baby if that is what you want to do. But I think that you should wait until after your married to save yourself from unneccessary hardships that come from being a single parent.

Answer 11

Talk to him and the two of you should make the decision together. If he's not ready and you are persistent that it's time, then maybe you should re-evaluate things. If he's ready and you're ready then go for it. But don't trick or deceive him and make the decision yourself, that will only lead to issues of dis-trust and problems down the road.

I was 24 when my son was born and I agree that it's great to have the kids when you are young so you can do things with them. But you have to both be ready.

Good luck!