Who does not spank their kids?

Question

if you dont spank them what do you do to punish them

Answer 1

Every once in a while, we give our son one spanking for running out in the parking lot. The last time I gave him a spanking for that, my son imitated me by hitting me on the arm and shouting "Stop". Needless to say, we use a time out. Hitting, kicking, biting, and anything physical is an automatic time out. Otherwise, he generally gets a warning. Usually the warning is enough to get him to stop. The time out is 2 minutes, 1 minute per year of age, and generally works. I also use logical consequences. For example, if he kicks his ball into the street, the ball gets a time out. (aka. I take away the ball for a while.) I also praise him lots and keep him busy so he doesn't have time to get into trouble. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

My son is 21, my daughter is 15 and my youngest is 7 and I have never spanked them. Time-out, grounding worked as long as you are consistent with the punishement. I was abused by my parents and vowed never to spank my children. Pretty much broke the cycle, I hope.

Answer 3

Technically, spanking is child abuse. If you get into the habit of spanking your children they will have a great fear toward you. They may obey you more... but they will also be scared of you, and may even consider running away from home. Try other methods of punishment, such as canceled playdates, toys taken away, or time outs.

Answer 4

well my daughter is only 10 months old so of course i dont spank her. and i dont plan on ever spanking her either. i plan to give time outs and when she gets older i am going to use a love and logic technique thats really complicated to explain, but basically you ask the child how THEY are going to fix the problem and let them come up with a reasonable solution.

Answer 5

I don't spank. I do time-outs and I take away privileges. I reward good behavior and I spend a lot of time talking to my children to get them to understand when their behavior is inappropriate. By the way my children are only 1 and 2 years old.

Answer 6

my peanut is 3-1/2 yrs old, no spanking but, "time out's" and an ear grab once in a while. I won't hit, I was hit, and abused, and mentally tortured as a child (and my father was a Dr), THE BUCK STOPS HERE ! Hitting/ spanking, doesn't solve anything, and no little child deserves to be hit, THEY'RE ONLY LITTLE DAMN IT ! give them a break, you did the same thing that they're doing !

Answer 7

Well, its harsh, cruel, mean and your kids will dislike you! Grounding, no TV,(or dessert, computer, phone, shopping, video games, or MP3 ) all work as long as their fun probation doesn't last for 3 weeks! Its harsh to do all of those things, but spanking leaves your kids happy if they graduate away from you in college and you will have no one when they move away except your spouse!

Answer 8

I got two boys I never have spanked them, They get the old corner from me, worse crime they do is the longer they stand in the corner, seems to work

Answer 9

i dont have any children yet..but i know that if they ever got out of line or truly utterly disrespected me, or tried to hit me (this is for when they get older)....i would whoop...not "spank"...my children...like the bible says "spare the rod, spoil the child"....

now not EVERY child needs a whooping and if you teach them from INFANCY to respect you and obey you , you will probably never have a real discipline problem...some kids though really need a butt whooping because obviously "time out" or "stand in the corner" is not doing the job for some kids....i mean you got 6 year olds killing other 6 year olds..i dont think saying"dont slap anybody or I will put you in the corner" got through to kids like that...

i know from personal experience "time out" never did much for me....i was the type of kid who just didnt listen so my mom had to pull out the ol' belt once in awhile to get my attention....lol....but like I said every child is different....and no it is not child abuse...

theres a DIFFERENCE between hitting your children on their butts with a belt and burning them with cigarette butts or burning them with irons...... now THATS child abuse....everybody so afraid to hit their kids nowadays thats why you got 15 year old killing their own moms and little girls slapping their moms in the face etc because they dont want to hear want their mom has got to say.......hmmmmm....that wont be happening with moi........

Answer 10

What ever you decide to do, you have to be consistent. Use a time out chair or room. You keep doing it until it works. My oldest has to go to bed early as punishment. He hates it!!! Figure out what bugs them the most and use it!