I want to ask this girl out but i have no idea what to do. I am 16 and very shy. I also have basically no confidence. She is already my friend and has been for years. I dont want that to go away. I would love to ask her out but i have no idea how or when. She already likes this one guy. But he ignores her and she knows it. It makes her cry. Can some one please help me? i have no idea how to ask her without ruining our friendship...
2006-06-29 09:35:42 · 32 answers · asked by helloboredom28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Moving from a friendship to a relationship is tricky but can be done. Make sure that you talk to the girl and let her know how you are feeling about her. Let her know that you think very highly of her as a friend and would like to date her and see where it goes. If you are shy, why not write her an email that tells her how you feel.
Let her know that you respect the fact that she may not feel the same and that if she doesnt, that that is fine and you still very much want and need her as your friend, but as a friend (this coming from you) you had to be honest about the feelings that were developing.
Since she is a good friend you already know some of the things she likes and dislikes, so if you do get to go out with her on a date, make sure you play up to her favourite things.
The other way is to just ask her to go to (a concert, an art event, a fair) with you and show her how great it would be if you two were dating. then at the end of the night, let her know that you had a great time and were wondering if you guys could go out again one on one. This should open up the discussion about possiblly dating.
Just take it slow and let her know how you feel in your own way. Make sure that you tell her and show her what a great a boyfriend you would be, but that you would will always still be a great friend.
Good luck!!! AND STOP BEING SO SELF CONSIOUS!!! *hugs*
2006-06-29 09:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by *meh* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say write her a letter telling her exactly how you feel and let her know that if she isnt interested in u that your friendship wont change cuz the last thing a girl wants is an awkward friendship tell her that u will always be there for her if she needs advice even though u might not beable to give the best advice. talk to her and tell her she doesnt need the guy she likes if he keeps putting her though so much misery and pain. but again dont let telling her that u like her change ur relationship and write her a letter thats the best advice i can give and it might not work out the way i think it will cuz i dont know the chick but it looks like u need some good advice since no one else is givin u any.
2006-06-29 09:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, I'm gonna quote what you said. "I basically have no confidence and I've known her for years." bad combo. Confidence is key bro, and if ya don't got that you don't have anything, girls hate it when guys are too needy. second off after you work on making yourself more confident, don't just go and ask her out. if you've been friends for years you're going to need to work up to that point, considering how friend/girlfriend is incredibly different, so start slowly, little touches on the arm or waist can do wonders, just don't make it obvious. just work on those two things and you might have a chance, no promises though bro, cuz the friend zone is one of the hardest places to get out of, but heck, give it a try.
2006-06-29 09:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by The Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look I know your a shy guy. What do really need to do is call her and ask her if she would like to see Nacho Libre with you on a Saturday Night.Why, this movie because it will make her laugh and you will be happy to see her smile. Then you start from there and win her heart over the other guy thats hurting her feelings. iT'S TIME FOR YOU TO STEP UP. Don't be shy, girls don't like shy guy much it's not interesting to them. Believe me it will work out for you.
2006-06-29 09:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really like her and u can see yourself with her in ur future go 4 it and ask her out...but maybe u should 1st kinda flirt around so maybe you'll be able to tell if maybe she could like u too...or maybe she'll start getting the picture that u like her so it wont be so "out of the blue"...i was in a relationship with 1 of my best friends recently and it didnt quite work out :'( , we dont talk that much anymore and when we do we fight constantly, so just kno things might be a little different if it doesnt work out...well i hope u make the right decision and good luck!!! :)
2006-06-29 09:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her when that guy that she likes hurts her, and show her through supporting her that you are just as good and better than that guy. When she begins to call you, and smile at you a lot, and touch you frequently, that would mean she's beginning to like you too. Be a great friend first by helping her with that guy, then see if you can move forward. Good luck!
2006-06-29 09:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Breakdancer Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she would feel if you knew someone that liked her alot but didn't know how to tell her but there scared of one thing. Dont' let her know yet keep her dangaling she might figure it out and ifso good if not then you will see and hear what she's saying and if she dosen't guess you than you know to just remain friends for a little longer
2006-06-29 09:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you have to think...is friendship more important...or is having a girlfriend more important.which ever you choose..just go for it. but honestly if you care about her friendship..i would keep it that way. i have lost a lot of guy friends b/c they ask me out. when i turn them down..i dont ever speak to them again. just follow what you believe would be the best.
2006-06-29 09:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude once your friends with a girl thats it when u go to ask
her out this is what she will say "i dont want anything to happen and ruin our friendship" so first u should distance urself then go in for the kill
2006-06-29 09:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you've noticed that shes interested in this one guy but that apparently isn't working out, then ask her if she might let you take her to lunch, or baseball game, pool, movies, etc.. If yes you'll be fine, if no tell her after she can't take anymore rejection from her current crush she'll be able to call you.
Good Luck-Keep you peepee in your pants for now tho.
2006-06-29 09:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by mcfly878 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋