i still love the same now as the day she left, not a day goes by when i dont think about her, i let her go because she wanted to go and it was the hardest thing i have ever done.
2006-06-29 09:30:46 · 29 answers · asked by willow29uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find some one else, it worked for me,i was stuck on my baby momma for a looooooooooooonnnnnnnnggg time, then i met some one else and forgot all about her( and tell jo that its wounds, not wombs)
2006-06-29 09:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by nate diggitty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey
well, im in the same kind of situation, it hasnt been a year though, its been around 4 months now since my g/f ended our relationship and not a day goes by like you said when i dont think about her. i dont really think there is an solution or straight forward answer to this, other than let time clear things up. and it might take a lot longer than you ever thought or expected, it does show however how much you trully loved and still care about this girl.
it has been a year for you, and im assuming there have been no signs of you sorting anything out. if she has left you for real, and no contact with you i.e. indicating how sure she has been about your split, then you have to help yourself out a bit. get out of the house, meet new people. im not saying you are going to meet someone necessarily who you like more than her, and im sure you have been comparing any girl you have met with her.
i wish there was a right and wrong thing to do or to feel. but there are no answers that can really help someone who is heart broken. however much you talk about the situation with friends or whoever, its really only on the surface, something short term i have found that feels 'fixed'. but then it all comes rushing back like the worst nightmare, or as the worst nightmare.
i hope you figure things out soon. good luck with it. try and remember all the good things you can take from this relationship you had with her, how she has changed you and how im sure you are in her head and memories too. she doesnt have to be out of your life, or your heart for that matter, but you do have to do that little bit more and let go of her, for your sake. good luck
2006-06-29 17:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you is, keep a journal. Sure, most guys think those may be stupid or "cheesy" or think your not a REAL man because you share your feelings...WRONNNNNNNG. Nobody has to know you are doing it, it's none of their business.
Try sharing your innermost thoughts, whether on paper with poetry or a journal, in song with words or music, or just sharing with a female or male friend. Women may be more understanding. Join a health club, or book reading club, paint, just do things that will give you an opportunity to open up your social circle and you may find someone else who makes your heart skip a beat or two.
It's hard getting over a breakup. Most people probably think it's harder on women than men when a breakup occurs, but that is simply not true. Men have feelings too. It's just that they deal with those feelings differently as they are not your average "emotional" creatures for the most part.(not all men, just some) It's okay to go through all the stages of a breakup, (anger, sadness, betrayal, disappointment) but you have to deal with those emotions and move forward. Look to the future! There are plenty of fish in the sea, but you have to sit by the ocean if you'd like to catch one. :)
If you find that your feelings for this woman are interrupting your daily thoughts or you have a hard time concentrating on tasks at hand especially your work, you may consider talking to a professional counselor who can help you find a healthy path to letting go and moving forward.
2006-06-29 17:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Fiona70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i was you i would tell her how i feel ask her why she broke up with you .If she say she dont love u know more den you know she never love u remember love pose to last 4 ever . It maybe the hardest thing you had 2 do but they maybe another girl out there who want to be with u 4 ever some one who would give u that same feeling an more so move on
2006-06-29 16:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry. I am in the same exact situation it has been 2 years since me and my ex boyfriend broke up and I have been with other guys but everytime my heart always goes back to him. To tell you the truth I don't think there is anything we can do to get them out of our head because we love them so much our heart won't let us give up hope. But you can't let that stop you from loving another with the same devotion as you love her. So all I can tell you is just keeping loving life and never give up.
2006-06-29 16:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by i_love_pink_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was a very couragous and hard thing you did.
you are the only person i have ever heard of to do that. you know you here people say( and i say it) if someone doesn't want to be with you then why would you want to be with them. you made the right decision.
you are one strong person!!!
you did the right thing for her ,now do the right thing for you.
take a day to go through the things you had together. think of all the good and bad times. then at the end of that day, get rid of all of it. and start brand new.
you are only hurting yourself by keeping this love right there in your mind and heart. it sounds like you are the only one suffering and that isn't fair! only you can help you.
you need to move on now. there is someone who loves you as much as you love them. go out and have fun, go to church to meet someone, go to new places withyour friends.
it is when you least expect it that you meet the right person.
i wish you the best and if i knew you i am sure i would know someone to fix you up with.
2006-06-29 16:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by KAREN A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's rough. Maybe you should try dating again, or maybe you just need time for yourself. Find out what you like to do that does not involve her. Go out to clubs, if you are of age, and try to meet new people. Surround yourself with family and friends to help you through this difficult time. That is really sad and I'm sorry that you feel this way but you cant keep obsessing and stressing over your ex. It seems as though she has moved on and it is now time that you do the same.
2006-06-29 16:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Love-Me-Only 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The others have good advice, when they say you need to find yourself a new love. There is no guarantee that you won't get your heart broke again. But after a year, you got to let go and get your mind on another and your heart will follow.
2006-06-29 17:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love with a guy and it's a year since I asked him out and he blew me out. I still love him.
You're not a "Wuss", you're human, and very sweet.
You need time, that's all.
I was going to ask a question about whether guys still think about women when they go away - you've answered it!
I'd recommend you watch "Eternal Sunshine For The Spotless Mind", a film where a guy decides to have all memories of his ex girlfriend erased!
2006-06-29 16:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat even if I am a female. I was with my bf for two years then he just broke up with me. I know how it feels but believe me, there is life after that. Don't go looking for love, let it find you and you will be much happier.
2006-06-29 16:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you poor thing. My advice would be to move on to someone else. If there was someone you had your eye on while you were dating her, go back to them, or someone else. I know what it's like to have your heart broke, your sweetheart left, and Holy Jeez, that sucks. I broke up with someone a few years back. It was so hard to get over him, but I eventually did. Take your time, and find someone else. Good luck, and God bless.
2006-06-29 16:37:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋