the 3 gys that cheated on me had these traits tell me if im at fault for not seeing the signs & then continue to see him. this way I can make better decisions. what do u think guys, i really need your help.
Guy 1) He never had time For me would only see me on Sundays, once a week.
He told me in the beginning... he had a dark heart. i though he was joking, obviously not.
he saids stomachs were baby machines.
Guy 2) After dating him for 2 months I discovered tatoos all over his body & they were of demons. When I aske him why he said it was just art & stop being so judgmental. Soon after I found out he was a pot head.
2006-06-29 09:20:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guy 3) my current BF of 4 years cheated on me as well. He told me in the beginning that I found a real man & my search was over, and that it was me or nothing that he loved me an no one else & that he is not the type that cheats or hits women.
I believed him at the time I thought he was the one, finally. until we moved into together 2 soon 3 months later... i found out he was in a gang, was in jail for 1 year--a felon. then when I lost my job he started to cheat and beat on me. i was stunned why didn't i see this coming.
2006-06-29 09:23:50 · update #1
THE ONLY REASON I LET I WASNT SEEING HTE SIGNS CAUSE EVERYONE TOLD ME I WAS TO PICKY AND I NEED TO LOWER MY STANDARDS, BUT WHEN I DID LOOK WHAT HAPPENED TO MY LIFE,I GOT SERIOUSLY HURT...
2006-06-29 09:28:42 · update #2
we don't all cheat
2006-06-29 09:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it is obvious you are picking the wrong guys to date that is a given, but sometimes you have to run across those type of people in your life so they can teach you a lesson and make you stronger. The lesson is this you need to take more time gettingg to know these guys before moving in with them and gettin into serious relationships. Now when you go out and meet other guys you have to look for those signs, and remember the three guys that cheated on you and learn from the experience
2006-06-29 09:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by dorleejohnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that isn't your fault so I am on your side on this one. All of my men cheated but I found the perfect one and we broke up cause he cheated but when I got over him he called and said he missed me.Now were thinking of having kids but not now.Are you asking the guys everything about themselves first cause if not then thats why your finding out things late. Well all I can say is the next guy that comes along be his friend for awhile then get to know more about him and if so to know he is not lying ask him the same question everyday or every other day like his age or if he is in a gang or has tattoos or ever been to jail.Well wish you good luck on the next guy hope he is perfect for you.
2006-06-29 09:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Hotmom1216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not ALL guys are cheaters, I think that you are just going after the wrong kinds of guys( the users, abusers, and all over losers) if you want a good guy then watch for
How he dresses: look to see how big he thinks of himself( if his clothes are a showoff he probably is
His friends: if they seem bad most likely he is too
His attitude: watch how he treats people 'cause you want a guy that'll treat you right
How he talks to you: try going for guys with less pick up lines and more genuine personality
If you do that and you still end up with a guy that is acting like your other guys ,hating and doesn't give you the respect you deserve a.k.a. spending time with you not only once a week and being there for/ standing up for you, then don't be afraid to dump him 'cause he is just a waste of your time. Stand up for yourself and don't give a guy a 2nd thought if you don't think that he can take care of you the way you deserve.
2006-06-29 09:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by black_n_pinkd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men cheat. They sort of get tired of being with the same person but after a while they will realize no one else is like you and they will come right back and start acting like a real man and not a hoe in the street.
2006-06-29 09:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by babyface_719 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make better choices in you selection of guys.
If a guy says he is a player, or says he's keeping his options open, this means just that. Stay away from those types.
Start meeting guys at places, other than a bar or raves. You can meet a good guy at a gas station putting gas into his vehicle. Just look for what you want and you will find it.
2006-06-29 09:26:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys don't cheat. I don't think it is your fault they cheated because not all guys with those descriptions are cheaters. However, if a guy doesn't want to spend a lot of time with you, makes crude jokes, says they are bad, or gets defensive easily I would say those are signs of someone not to get involved with. Unfortunately most people are attracted to people who are a bit dangerous or wild, and it is those same people who cheat and break your heart.
2006-06-29 09:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All those guys are pretty much the same, they all had something to hide from you. You need to find someone that will be more open and honest with you.
I just found out that my boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me.
2006-06-29 09:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you're definelty picking the wrong men... think of it like this. Only go out with a guy your Dad or Grandpa could sit down and have decent conversation with. I'm not talking about someone like either of them, but just that they could talk to about baseball or even little league when they were kids. I know all men don't like these subjects, but, do you get my drift?
2006-06-29 09:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have bad choice in men, find someone you think is generally a NICE GUY, but be aware of the signs from your past. Be genuine, and honest, and he will be the same. Dont rush into anything, but take things nice and slow.
2006-06-29 09:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not you. You need to find out more about these guys before you start dating them. Try being their friend for a while and you will learn lots about them. Then make your move. I hope you find that special guy!
2006-06-29 09:26:01 · answer #11 · answered by missdavis1206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋