I am 16 and want to ask this girl out. I have never asked a girl out before. I am very shy. We are both friends already. I have no confidece. She likes another guy, but he ignores her and it makes her cry. I really want to ask her out cause it will make me feel so much better. I just dont know how. Can some one help me?
2006-06-29 09:09:47 · 17 answers · asked by helloboredom28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go about it from the friend stand point. Ask her out to ice cream and invite her to come play games (card games Tag, uno...make it interesting and invite other couples (just friends) The way to a girls heart is to stand up and be a man. I would definately get some other friends to go with you. Group dating at that age is much more fun and a lot less pressure. Get the book 101 group dates by John Bytheway (it's cheap) it has great ideas!!!
2006-06-29 09:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by EmmaGee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it will make you feel better, then go ahead and ask her out.
And that would make her feel better as well. If she is in a abusive relationship, I think a guy who cares and loves her will be a breeze at the right time.
Let me tell you about myself, could ease you off a little.
I met this awesome girl in my 2 job, she was gorgeous and we used to think the same 99% of the time.
Needless to say, we were best of pals, and I knew that she was in a long term relationship with this other guy. I decided to propose. And this was going to be my first audible proposal to a girl !! So you can imagine my sweaty palms etc.. But I called her inside to an empty training room and told her about the way I feel about her and then as she was still listening to me, not able to digest the fact that I was proposing to her, I popped the Question.
She shook her head in disbelief like she was seeing a plane crash. I told her its okay.. She didnt speak to me for a few days ( 2 days, to be exact ) and then we broke the ice and now 3 years later, we both have our respective partners, and we are the best and closest of friends.
Moral of the Story: I think you will need to express your love for her. There is not much that can go wrong in the long term. Dont be paranoid.
All the best!!
2006-06-29 11:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest low key, at first. And always, be the friend you are. Instead of making a big production about it, with a movie, dinner, flowers, whatever your budget covers, go casual. It may also be easier for you to ask her to something casual, since you say you are very shy and this is your first "date". For yourself, try to not think of it as a date.
What do you both like to do? If you guys like books, take her to a local bookstore and browse around. My little sister is 17, and she loves our local used bookstore. We also like to grab a cup of coffee, or go walking around the mall or an open mall. An open mall is a collection of stores arranged around outdoor footpaths, rather than inside like the traditional mall.
Take her for a walk in a park. If you live in the city, go by a street vendor for a snack, then sit around on some steps and people watch and talk. When you guys have done this several times, it will be much easier for you to ask her to something bigger, like a movie, dinner, or a concert.
2006-06-29 09:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by b30954 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, start off by asking her what she would do in your situation without giving yourself away. Then, ask her what kind of guys she is interested in. Then make your move. Simply explain your feelings to her. If she turns you down then its her lost. Still be a friend but try to move on. Maybe she'll get jealous and start wanting you. Best of luck!
2006-06-29 09:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by missdavis1206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out, but do it casually. If you are engaged in a conversation with her, casually ask her if she would like to join you for a cup of coffee or soda...at another time.
Since you are already friends it should be easy to ask her out. Don't stress about it, that won't help. Just do it already before she gets hooked on another guy.
2006-06-29 09:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her, or pay one of your friends to tell her you like her. You have to be the one to ask her out, or it will look like you have no backbone, and no girl wants that in a guy. Before you do that, comfort her over the other guy, and be there for her. She will find out that the other guy cant compare to you over kindness. Good luck, you sound like a nice guy.
2006-06-29 09:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - when you two are watching TV or talking and listening to the radio - and you hear an adverstisement to the movies - tell her you want to see (whatever) movie and you wanted to know if she would like to go because you really dont feel like going alone...
Dont make it seem like a DATE - that would seem pushy an rude if she knows you know she likes someone else. Let her like you for who you are - let her think the decision to cross the line from friendship to relationship was her idea...
Good luck!
2006-06-29 09:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bugs_Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should just be there for her. When everything comes down then ask her out like to the movies or just to hang out. I hope this helps. Good luck
2006-06-29 09:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are You sure You want to ask this particular girl out? Just keep in mind that the worst than can happen is that she'll say "No".
2006-06-29 09:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by M L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it, do not let anything stop you go to her and let her know how you feel and ask her. it can be a friend date to see how well ya'll hit it off. if it goes good then ask her out on a date date. take it slow. Good Luck
2006-06-29 09:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋