My dog passed away this morning. Any suggestions on how to get over her death?

Question

I woke up yesterday to find that my dog (2 1/2 year old dachshund) was not feeling well. I took her to the vet yesterday afternoon and they kept her overnight to do some tests. They called me this morning to tell me she didn't make it through the night. Vet said it looked like she had been poisoned and her lungs failed. I loved her so much and I've been crying since this morning. Any way to get over the pain? She was a family pet for us and our two boys.

The vet said it looked like antifreeze poisoning, but we don't have any in the house and Molly (our dachsie) is never in the garage. She wouldn't even go past the laundry room cause she doesn't like the noise. I don't know who or where it came from or anything. She woke up and was just sitting there, not moving much. Later on she threw up and then at the vet she started having seizures and coughing up blood. She was such a sweet and playful puppy and I just miss her so much.

Answer 1

This happened to me just last year. My dog died, and I didn't know what to do. I didn't feel like doing anything; I wanted to sit around and cry. But I realized that you can't let yourself get too caught up in it. The day my dog died was the same day that my grandfather died. This was pretty much a big day of sadness. That night I was supposed to do a concert with my band. While I really didn't feel like doing it, I did anyway, because I realized that my grandfather (and my dog) would WANT me too. I do not believe that the departed, humans or animals, want us to grieve. So the solution....get up and do something!!! Go out to dinner with your family, play on the beach. Plan day trips or other such fun activities to take your mind (and your kids') off the tragedy. It is important to realize that this is NOT in ANY way neglecting the memory of your parted family member. Nor is it somehow implying that you don't care for your dog anymore. The truth is that your dog was wonderful and truly a member of your family, connected emotionally to every member of your family. This, of course will not just "go away," but it will get easy, for life really does go on....

Answer 2

I lost my two year old dog almost a year ago, and it is the most difficult thing to loose a dog that young. For me, I only waited a month to get another dog, I know there is no such thing as a replacement, but I was so sad no to have him greet me everday when I got home for work, I wanted something to fill that void. Take some time to grieve and heal and remember that there are so many dogs out there that need a good home with someone to love them. I am so sorry for your loss.

Answer 3

When dear ones pass, it can help to remember all that you treasure about them. You'll find yourself listing spiritual qualities like loving, enthusiastic, loyal, gentle, joyous, life-filled, playful, etc. Then remember that these qualities that endeared your dog to you were/are coming from God and your precious dog expressed them. But God gives them to you too. You can honor the dog's memory and take much of the loss away if you commit to living the very qualities that made your dog so special, and as you do, your dog (in a very real sense) is still with you. His/her specialness will be touching your day, present with you, not absent at all. When your sorrow passes, forgotten in your commitment to an on-going living of all that made your dog so wonderful, and gratitude to God who was the Source of all that was magical about your dog, you will feel convinced that death isn't the end of anything you really love, and you'll be ready for another dog to love and learn from. It can also help to remember that the last thing your dear dog would want is for you to be unhappy, and let your grief overcome your joy in him/her. Keep the joy that dear dog gave you alive!!! That's the way to honor the dog and all that it gave you, and move on. All the best in reclaiming your joy.

Answer 4

I am so sorry i lost my rottie to bone cancer, hardest thing in the world, then this month i had my cat put down.Here are a couple sad but feel good poems.

May I go Now?
Do you think the time is right?
May I say good-bye to pain filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be.
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?
I didn't want to go at first.
I fought with all my might.
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go.
I really do.
It's difficult to stay.
But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day.
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and afraid,
because I see your tears.
I'll not be far,
I promise that,
and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you,
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I love you too,
that's why it's hard to say good-bye
and end this life with you.
So hold me now, just one more time
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today.
By Susan A. Jackson

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
(Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!
Mary Frye (1932)

Answer 5

I'm SO so sorry for your loss...My mother and I lost our family dog that was my brothers before HE died....So needless to say we grieved hardly over her since she was the only living memory of him. Losing a pet is very difficult as I'm sure you're already expierencing....My mother and I actually got Jasmine cremated as we did my brother. We plan on going as a family to spread both of their ashes somewhere. My advice to you is grieve, it's okay and it's needed....This is something that your whole family is experiencing together...Make sure you really talk about it with your children...Not sure how old they are but just try and ask if they understand what's happend.....and be in no rush to look for another pet...a lot of times people do that thinkin it's a healthy thing, when in actuallity losing a pet is like just getting out of a 5year relationship. You need time to process things and get your self ready to do it all over again.....I hope I've helped...Best of luck to you and everything will be okay :)

Answer 6

Hello, so very sorry about your little girl not making it. I know only too well how you feel, as I lost my little poodle after 14 yrs. I was so devasted, and like you, cried for weeks. The only thing that helped me was another little poodle that was a rescue. It didn't make up for peppy, but it was a warm body to love and hold, and to know I had saved this little one from a very bad life. Hope this helps, Sincerely, Jane Vanderbush ps you may also want to check out the web for pages on the loss of a pet, it helped too.

Answer 7

I'm really sorry for your loss; we had to put my dog down about a month ago. The best thing to do is stock up on kleenex and cry for a day or so. Whenever we lose a pet, my family spends the whole day together, just thinking about it. It really helps.

Answer 8

oh my god! i am so sorry! do you know what could have caused the poisoning? hope you find out. anyway, give it time. you loved her and lost love is never easy to get over especially when it was so unexpected. remember the good time and memories you have of her with your family. maybe in a few months after the pain has sofened you can rescue and homeless little one from the shelter in honor of her life and the love you all shared. animals are so precious and can help us get over alot of trauma in our lives. make sure there isn't some sicko in your area who did this before you put another animal in your yard though. good luck

Answer 9

Just cry, and cry, and cry. That's the best solution.

Then go get rid of anything that could be poisonous; watch out for things that might kill anyone.

I'd recommend also getting another dachshund as a surprise for your kids and spouse.

Good Luck and I'm very sorry :(

Answer 10

I have three dachshunds, i really feel sorry for you.. Mine are just like babies to me... Our Golden Oldie passed away and we went straight to the pet store and bought one, then all of a sudden we have three. Go now find another, Before you know it you will be laughing again...Dauchshund's are the best.....