why is it that when you have your 2nd kids they are worse then your 1st 1?

Answer 1

i have been thinking the same lately i think i felt a little guilty that no 2 did not have a 1 to 1 with me so when no 2 started crying for something that my no 1 had i used to persuade no 1 to let them have it BIG MISTAKE now no 2 thinks he can have what he wants

Answer 2

Theyre not worse than your first its just that you've been through all this before, and this child has never had your full attention/been an only child. You also seem to get a lot more famiily help with your first than your second. Just hang in there...this will sound crazy to you now but these are the best days of your life and if you calm down and step back a bit you'll have a great time

Answer 3

It doesn't always happen that way. I kind of know what you mean though. My first was always a really good baby, he's a bit of a pain now he's six but he's still really good mostly! My second, he's only one and he is such a pain. He shouts. My first learnt to move around first but my second learnt to use his vocal chords first(he still won't move!). I know I have been a lot more lenient with my second than I was with my first. I was very protective with my first when he was tiny. That may be why 2nd child is usually worse. I mean, my first was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and only ever woke up to eat until he was about 6 months! My second was 4 months when he slept through and he has never had a lot of naps. I think it is partly because he always wants to know what his big brother is doing! So I suppose because you realise with your second that you don't have to wrap them in cotton wool, they have more opportunities to be a pain in the backside from an earlier age!

I am the second child too. Apparently I am the evil one, hence the name!

Answer 4

When you have your first one you have all this time to spend with them. The second one comes along and you don't have the same time because you have an older child to take care of as well as the baby. You don't put up with as much from the younger and you don't laugh at the same things because you have already been there and dealt with it. The little one is competing with the older to get more attention. The older one thinks you spend too much time with the baby. It is a never ending cycle. LOL

Answer 5

Okay, IF I understand this question, the answer is the studies on "birth order".

The first borns are almost always conservative.
The last borns are almost always more radical.

WHY?

Here's a typical scene at the dinnner table:
"What did you learn at school today first-born?"
"I learned long division-it was amazing! I didn't know you could just keep going like that."
How does the last-born compete with that when he's finger-painting? By putting straws in his nose and shouting "Look at ME - I'm a walrus!" He steals the attention for a second.

Answer 6

are you saying your second kid is worst than your first? how old are we talking because it could be attention seeking, as they are in older siblings shadow maybe?

though in most cases i have found that the first one plays up when a second comes along as they feel neglected as now they are sharing their parents....
or it seems the first one is playing up as they seem to make noise whenever other is sleeping and so on and more people worry about the baby....

if your second kid is playing up you need to work out why, try spedning time doing things with just second child and then just first child, and then acitivities together. you need to show them both there arent favourites, i used to be jealous of my little sister as she could never do anything wrong, if she hit me it was always my fault for letting her or for winding her up...she never got told off (and now truth be told she is an utter brat!)

parenting is tough, just make sure you are doing your best for both children equally

Answer 7

I would guess it is because they don't get your undivided attention like your first child did. Plus you have less energy and patience when you have 2 kids. I don't have children but I am the oldest in my family and my parents say I was an angel and my little sister was SO much trouble.

Answer 8

Your first kid has to work out everything by themselves. That includes how to get into trouble. The second one only has to watch their older sib. I know my youngest son is much more of a handful than the oldest, so you're not alone.

Answer 9

My second child is an angel compared to my first. Of course she's only 4 months. Already she sleeps, naps, and eats better. She's content to just play by herself. My first was just the opposite.

Answer 10

it's got to do with the older one... it turns into a competition whenever the older one turns out to be right in something and smarter/better than the younger one, the young one becomes jelous. It's quite often that it's like that but it may become easier once they get older and more mature.