he always opposes me, criticises me, argues with me :(
2006-06-29 08:14:40 · 23 answers · asked by Babz M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he is living with you don't allow him to treat you this way.It's rude and disrespectful!
I think I would have a talk with him or tell him to leave my home. if he isn't at home pull away from him until he grows up and learns how to act like a man
2006-06-29 08:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son opposes you because at 18 he feels that he ought to be given more freedom, he feels that he is very responsible and wants to dothings his way. Nothing parents do at this age in their children lives seems right. But you as the parent have to really get down in some serious prayers and ask God to break this spirit of disobedience and the spirit of opposition and of confusion in the lives of your children. I am telling you from experience that I have seen God work in the lives of my own kids, when they start acting up I start some serious intercession.
2006-06-29 08:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by the talker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My almost 18 year old is at that time now too. He hates me for things other people did because I supposedly allowed it (and I didn't). We've been close his entire life up until now. My heart has been in a lot of pain over this - past 2 weeks have been hell. My heart goes out to you as I can relate.
2006-06-29 08:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is going thru a phase of some sort. That only way he can express it to someone. Is thru anger and resentment. Ask him what going on. Is he showing any signs of drug use ? Does he have a girlfriend, If he does maybe him and her having relationship trouble.
Or maybe that he thinks he is consider an adult now. Then he don't have to follow by the rules any more. That he is free to do what he wants to do. Also says what on his mind now.
Maybe him and his friend have been into it. Try to get him to have some time to talk to you. If he refuse to talk, ask someone else to talk to him for ya. Like his dad, brother, best bud, or anyone he is close too.
2006-06-29 08:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is 18, that is why. Don't you remember when you turned 18? You were an adult, no more rules, nobody could tell you what to do, you could smoke, you could drink, stay out late and on and on. Most kids turning 18 go through this I'M an adult now phase where they are really nasty to their parents. It will get better. Wait it out.
2006-06-29 09:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by loveseat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he is going to marry someone who is just like you. Set the example. Tell him you love him, you will always love him but will not put up with his behavior. Teach him how to treat you. If he can't, He is old enough to take care of himself. Let him leave if he thinks he can do a better job. My parents did the same to me and I love them for it. I found out how hard life really is on my own. And I gained a whole new respect for my parents.
Be Tough with love.
2006-06-29 08:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by seekingknowledge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mutual mom of an 18 yr old girl. Don't feel bad. My daughter lives on campus and calls me 1 a week if i'm lucky. And when she does it's for 5 mins. He's in that stage that he thinks he knows it all.
Feel like chatting some more email me.
I feel your pain.
2006-06-29 08:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be part of him being a a teenage male. It might also be because of things you do that set him off - like nagging, and things that most moms do. If you aren't treating him like an adult then you should really start - he isn't a kid anymore. You should also talk to him and let him know how you feel. He needs to know how much he is upsetting you and how much you love him.
2006-06-29 08:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most men either show regression towards mom or are mama boys. he is acting that way because he doesn't appreciate you. ungrateful,selfish boy. make him grow up do chores, if he is still home, and pay rent, wash his own clothes, and give a curfew. at his age he should be in college of going . and he needs a job or he is going to take over your house and you wont be able to get rid of him.
2006-06-29 08:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER YOU ARE THE ADULT..YOU ARE THE PARENT...AND WETHER HE WANTS TO OR NOT HE HAS TO LISTEN AND RESPECT YOU FOR THAT...
TALK TO HIM.. ASK HIM WHAT THE PROBLEM REALLY IS..
DRUGS
FRIENDS
GIRLFRIEND..
SCHOOL..
MANY THINGS..COULD BE THE ISSUE.. BUT DONT LET HIM WALK ALL OVER YOU..
THIS IS WHAT I THINK..
IF MY BOY WANTS NEW CLOTHES..OR WHAT EVER HE WANTS...
HE HAS TO EARN IT..HOW? GOOD GRADES..GOOD ATTITUDE..
IF HE WANTS A PIRCING OR A TATTO...
HE HAS TO EARN IT.. HOW? exellent i mean exelent grades...
outstanding attitud.., and a part time job.. im not paying for it...
NOW IF HE DOESNT LIKE IT..AND HE THINKS HES GROWN UP.. HE CAN GO OUT AND SEE WHAT LIFE IS REALLY ABOUT....
BUT WILE HE LIVES UNDER MY ROOF...HE WILL AND MUST LIVE UNDER MY RULES!!!!!
GOOD LUCK... DONT FORGET TO PRAY...
ALSO THERE IS PARENTING CLASSES... FIND OUT.. BEST WISHES...
2006-06-29 08:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋