I am familiar with how the major costs of the wedding are divided, however, all the small incidentals such as toasing flutes, cake knives, bridal books, etc. I do not know who pays for what!
2006-06-29 08:08:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The bride or her family.
2006-06-29 08:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the brides parents pays for everything, but with bridal books and special things like that the bride could probably just pick up over the next couple of months to the wedding. Go to your local library and check out books. They have tons on all kinds of wedding things.
2006-06-29 08:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Brandot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I paid for everything, and if the inlaws wanted to make a donation to the cause, they did.
You can also not get all that crap. Don't get caught up on the wedding hype! You will spend money you don't have to spend. I paid for 90% of my wedding, and suddenly, certain things just did not make a difference for my wedding, lol.
Your wedding will still be wonderful if you DON"T spend money on the following -
You don't need napkins with your name on it. Nobody at the reception cares. They just want food and liquor.
Speaking of food, my friend got married a few years ago, and had a huge spread of food in the area where we waited while pictures were taken, then served a full dinner at the reception. We were so stuffed from the pre-reception food, that the dinners were barely eaten. We are talking sirloins... I felt awful for her! It wasn't just me, it was every plate I saw in the place.
Save money by having lite snacky stuff like nuts and cheese while pictures are being taken (or nothing), then go for it at the actual reception.
You don't need little take home things on the tables, like photo frames, or chocolates or jordan almonds. Half will be left on the table and the other half will be picked up by one of your cheap relatives. I spent hours doing jordan almond bags for my sister's wedding, and half of them were left behind!
You don't need to buy special toasting flutes. Ask around. One of your friends, co-workers or relatives has nice flutes. Borrow them, stick a ribbon on them, and you are done. If you order engraved ones, they will just sit in your cabinet unused forever.
If you really want something personalized, buy the special drink at your honeymoon resort that comes with the tiki glass. You'll remember your honeymoon better anyway, LOL.
Ditto the cake knife. For heaven's sake, the caterer should have a knife. What are you paying them for? Again, stick a ribbon on it and you are done. No one at the wedding will be paying attention to the knife, other than when you are cutting their piece of cake.
That little bag that holds your gift checks (assuming you are doing that)? One of your artsy crafty friends can make you one. Unless you find one really cheap, don't spend the money. You will never ever use it again. You can also set up a box for gift checks. I started seeing that when I went to some weddings in the Northeast. Again, think artsy crafty friends....
About the videographer. Either spend the money on a really, really good one, or spend no money and just ask a few people you know to tape the wedding for free and edit all the tapes together later. THERE IS NO IN BETWEEN when it comes to the video. If you go cheap with a videographer, you will be sorry. I've heard this from a zillion women, plus my husband used to do wedding photog, so he has seen the best and the worse of the videographers. I did the latter (free and friends), and surpisingly, between the 3 free tapes from friends, I got everything I wanted and then some.
Unity Candles - I just think it is corny, but that is more opinion then a money saving tip. Personalized vows are much cooler and cheaper.
Seriously, think about what you really, really need at your wedding. I guarantee you will save a few hundred dollars if you don't put so much importance on the little crap and put the money into your rings, pictures, your videographer, your dress and your honeymoon.
Addendum: I know that was not your question, but I couldn't help it!
2006-06-29 10:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is the man and woman decide what kind of wedding they can afford. This includes the big stuff like the food to the little stuff like the bridal books. Everything should be paid for out of the "wedding fund". A wedding is just one day you shouldn't be paying for it after the day is over. It's the marriage that's important
2006-06-29 08:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the brides family take care of everything except the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon which are the grooms families responsibility ...but in today's age all that traditional stuff has been thrown out the window
2006-06-29 08:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by asilk820 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride or her family
2006-06-29 08:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by eboss_sweeps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride, but maybe if you are financially strapped, you can mention them as being shower gifts.
2006-06-29 08:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
father of the bride picks up all the extras
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-29 08:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride pays for all of those.
2006-06-29 08:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride, or her family.
2006-06-29 08:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by patience3987 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋