Am I wrong for making mention to a new acquaintance not to "hug" my girl for his greeting?

Answer 1

you sound insecure. hugging is a general reacting to meet someone. now kissing is a little different, but that's not your problem here. i would just see it as a greeting as you would if they shook hands.

if you have other doubts about your relationship, i'd ask her or move on. but seriously, its just a greeting everyone does. now if he's pressing himself against her boobs, i'll refrain my previous sentence.

Answer 2

Tough question. Some may say you have jealousy issues. But this is a new acquaintance and I can see why it would be awkward. You don't have the trust with a new acquaintance that you would with an old friend. Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable with it either but I'm not a touchy-feely person. I think you are within your rights to mention that you or your girl aren't comfortable with it. They should understand that. It's called respecting others boundaries and unfortunately some people have to be told. A more tactful way to do it would be to have your girl put out her hand for a polite handshake when she sees him coming. That's what I do. It's gets the message across without having to say it.

Answer 3

If you were doing it for the right reasons, then you were not wrong.
If you did it because you knew your girlfriend did not want to be hugged, then you were just watching out for her, and you aren't wrong.
If you did it because you were informing the new acquaintance about some sort of socio-cultural norm that he would not otherwise be aware of, then it is also okay.
If you were doing it because you were jealous of another guy hugging your girlfriend, that is probably a little too obsessive, and you need to back off a little.
Unless the guy tried to hug her and was being overly-friendly and innapropriate, which obviously is not acceptable and you would have been right to tell him not to.

Answer 4

Your girl friend is capable of making up her own mind. Give her some credit. Some people are just huggers. Some nationalities hug more thatn others. If it is a brief greeting - great. If you see some kind of a prolonged intimate hug - you need to evaluate your situation.

Answer 5

It depends. If he was being all flirty, then no. If that is how he is and he hugs a lot of people to greet them, then yes. And it also depends on how your girl interpreted it. I mean, did she seem upset by it? Try not to be so jealous about little things.

Answer 6

Hugging is something that is okay for a girl to do when meeting a new person, but a guy should introduce himself with a handshake, even if it is an informal environment.

Answer 7

Well, first of all, "your" girl doesnt belong to you. You dont get to decide who she hugs or anything else she does for that matter, unless you are a sniveling, jealousy ridden, insecure coward, in which case I cant understand why a woman would be with you to begin with.

That being said, unless its her homie she probably shouldnt be huggin him, unless shes over-affectionate or something like that, cuz I cant imagine huggin someones girlfriend unless she was my homegirl before her boyfriend came along.

Answer 8

Hey it is all good, you sound very jeolous, but sometimes a boundry has to be set for your own protection. You know there is guys out there that use hugs to their advantage. I am telling you this for a reason, because it has happened to me. Email me at [e-mail] if you wnat to know what happened. I bet it will help.

Answer 9

No. I assume your girl doesn't like to be hugged, thus you are doing everyone a favor by pre-warning him. I would love it if people knew ahead of time about my idiosyncracies!!!

(If you did it because you're jealous and insecure, that is entirely different and wrong though!)

Answer 10

Not at all. Depending on how well you know this person, touching your daughter could be crossing the line. Could your acquaintance be a child molester? You may not know so, your caution is well deserved.