I work with someone who has to have the last word. She doesn't let you speak without interupting and always has to be right. She steps on everyone and tries to take control even to her superiors. It's so annoying. It's a small office so do I just ignore her or say something..I want to be kind.
2006-06-29 07:51:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Oh and she has had the nerve to lash out at everyone with swear words. Myyself included. Even the boss telling him to f*** off. Yep, she kept her job because my boss is weak. Wants to be the popular boss.
2006-06-29 08:30:13 · update #1
When you know she is wrong about something, get the proof and put it on her desk 9don't let her know wher eit came from.) Or, get a couple of people to work with oyu on this, but when she is beeing to interruptive, take her to the side (liek a professional should, witha stand by if need be, then she can't freek) and say. I am sorry to tell yo this, but I do not apprechate the way you talk to me or the way you interrupt (really anyhting that is on your mind.) She wil be embarressed, promise. Also, have other people do the same. Be sure to stay professional. Also, the best thing is when you knwo she is wrong about soemthing and you have proof. If you can stay consisten, stay professional, don't back down, and have other people do the same, I promisse she wil stop that soon (she wil be more uncomfortable than she makes you). That is not beeing rude, or not nice, it is beeing professional. You have a job and it seems that your interrest is in having a good work environment and therfore, for the better of the business or job. Remeber, take her to the side, with oneother person max, if you do it infron of people she will might get divensive and it can back fire. She might anyhow, but just start aut your conversation with:
"I am just taking you to the side to tel you something and really do not want a reply, but rather have you think on it. So please listen and no hard feelings. This is a work place and it is for the best of the business (Unit, Team, whatever it is) that we have a good work environment and this and that is not helping. SO please think on it and maby we can talk about it. (Always best to havea third person there, just so she cannot say you did or say something bad or wrong to her.) Hoep this helps,
Cole
2006-06-29 08:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by deutschnic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I always try to be kind as long as possible,but eventually that gets really old. When kindness fails, I turn to my trusty friend, sarcasm. Sarcasm can be rude,but so is being a know-it all too. I think the art of sarcasm is that it helps to make your point clear, all the while disguising your rudeness as a joke. However, to master the sarcastic approach, you have to know when to stop, and how much is too much rudeness.. Maybe you can be sneaky with your sarcasm and choose some way of saying a sarcastic comment that has a possible double meaning. This way if all heck breaks loose over your comment, you can claim that you really meant something else by it.
Hopefully I was helpful. Personally I really can't stand know-it -alls, they are usually very ignorant people, who think everyone else is ignorant and that they are incredibly intelligent. My mission is to ignore them whenever possible,but occasionally try to put them in their place, without putting your self in a negative light, if that is possible.
2006-06-29 15:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring a jar in and tell her that everytime she interrupts or cusses that she has to put money in it. Then everyone can go out to lunch on her. Label it the "whatever her name is rudeness and know-it-all jar" Or if everyone ignores her and doesn't speak to her, she should get the point. Don't include her in conversations. Or when she is speaking, everyone else should just start talking about something else. She should eventually learn that her behavior gets her nowhere.
2006-06-29 17:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My youngest brother is a know it all and I just ignore him. Sure I live far from him but when I'm with him I just listen to him and laugh inside. Don't answer anything that will contradict them and just stare at them in annoyance. It will annoy them that you don't care about their ramblings and eventually leave you alone. At the end of their rambling say "Are you done?" then walk away without saying a word. Do this as much as needed and they'll leave you alone, trust me.
2006-06-29 15:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm, but polite. Don't let ugly people bring out the worst in you. Eventually she will annoy your boss and get fired, you don't want to be next for "not getting along with coworkers". Don't give her any leverage to complain to the boss.
When she interrupts, listen to her finish, pause, then ask "are you done? may I finish now?" Say it very sweetly and politely, she will get tired of hearing it. If she asks you about it, just tell her flat-out that she interrupts you but you don't want to be so incourteous to her. Do your job and don't let her push you around.
2006-06-29 15:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a better person than me. If someone swears at me they better be prepared. I would be immature and do to her what she does to you. Talk over her, get the last word in, take control, just like she does and maybe she'll catch on. Throw a bad word or two in there if you have to.
2006-06-29 17:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by pinkprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person doesn't sound like someone you can be nice to. She would only see niceness as weakness and trample all over you.
You have to go to her level so she will understand you and talk to her as she would talk to you. Strong, confident and brutally honest. Tell her to back off of you because you don't need her to tell you what to think.
Sounds mean but it's the only way short of sabotaging her so she gets fired or quits.
2006-06-29 15:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignor her.If you give her any attention you will be giving her just what she craves. She sound like a drama queen!!! If it helps you mutter something under your breath, like Big *** I told you so, Wipe your *** for me anyways.These are nonsense sayings that sound like because I told you so and why ask me for anyways.You can makeup some more of your own that fit the situation. It's better to laugh at her then to be pissed by her.
2006-06-29 15:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I laughed when I read your question. There is always somebody like that no matter where you work at. Just ignore the annoying byotch. The more you argue with her, the more she will get to you. People like that thrive on attention.
2006-06-29 15:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be the way she is her superiors will catch on and they will probably end up firing her. She will one day say something stupid and make herself look like an ***, then you can laugh at her. Or just let her know how you feel
2006-06-29 14:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Zach's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋