she has ADHD and ADD she would rather get mad then do any thing i love her and she should be getting ready for audut hood "not" she even ditches school and get mad at her sister that does evey thing for her
2006-06-29 07:48:58 · 20 answers · asked by mrsqueentlc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You folks need counseling...NOW. If you can't afford it, call your local DCF agency and see if you can get referred.
Are you sure she has ADHD? Cuz she sounds like a typical teen. Make her get job. If she doesn't clean her room, throw out anything that has been on the floor more than a week and don't replace it. (They HATE when you do that!) So she has ADD/ADHD...SO WHAT! I'll bet when she is going to do something she likes her "condition" is not an issue or an excuse. Start treating her like you EXPECT her to act like an adult...could work. Good luck.
2006-06-29 07:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by tiggyman41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I would try inviting a lot of family / company and make her sit at the table with the others and talk, that way if you do tell her to go up and get something for the guests or clean your room so the people can see it, it just might work a bit, sorry i am not the best at this kind of situation.
2006-06-29 07:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by simfantastic2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she seeing a therapist, and on medication? She needs more than just family doing things for her and getting in her face. She's not understanding the seriousness of her situation, and probably can't, considering her problem. she needs other people around her to help her see how she's damaging herself, and that if she doesn't get serious about it now, it could lead to other bigger issues later. Ask her this, Does she really want to be living at home for the rest of her life?
2006-06-29 07:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by believer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do anything for her, i mean her house hold chores,
laundry, when all her clothes are dirty, she will yell why is my clothes not done, tell her, it is her responsibility to wash her clothes.
cooking, when she gets hungry, she will say where is supper/ lunch/ etc, tell her, it is her responsibility to cook her own food.
if she wants to go hang out with her friends, don't give her any money, it is her responsibiltiy to get a job to have her own money.
tell her sister to stop doing everything for her, since she has become so dependant on her and expects her to do it. tell her it is her responsibility not her sisters.
don't let her intiminate you with the guilt thing, example using the puppy dog face, tell her she needs to start being responsible for herself. as for school skipping, she will do it, and if she quits school, let her know it is hard to get a good paying job without an education, people are looking for the deplomas and degrees.
tell her life is rough, and it can give you hard blows,
for example, i did not finish college, i quit going to college when i started having trouble with my teen son and never went back. a year ago, i was in an accident and now handicap in a wheelchair. the only thing i did for 25 years was be a professional driver, i have not other experience and unemployed. now i need to go back to school, if i had went back to school after my son joined the Marines, i would of had my degree and would not be unemployed now.
excuse my spelling, spell check did not work
2006-06-29 08:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by sister cool breeze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to consult a therapist. If you have talked to her and don't know what to do maybe she neesds someone else to talk to. As for ditching school, if she doesn't go ground her or take things away from her that she finds important. You need to have an education, and if you don't have a high school education it's hard to make it in life.
2006-06-29 07:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by niknaack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can always just remove all her privileges and she'll learn to improve her actions, since that is how the world works. If you act like a jerk, you lose privileges. For example, if you act rude at work, there is a good chance you lose your job, which means you don't have money to go have fun. Works the same with you. Be a parent and show her how hard life can be.
2006-06-29 07:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son has ADHD. There are meds that can help her out. Having ADHD should not excuse her bad behavior so punish her if needed. She is old enough to get a job and would be made to get and maintain one.
2006-06-29 07:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help. No one on Yahoo Answers is going to be able to provide a solution. No one here understands the whole situation and how best to handle ADHD and ADD.
2006-06-29 07:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by intelligentaphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a support group for add families. i also suggest some reading on the subject, but also the 7 habits for highly effective families by stephen covey. my stepdad has adhd, and that book helped me set my mind in a way to keep arguements from happening and letting go of little stuff
2006-06-29 07:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is both ADHD and ADD you might also want her to be checked for ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). It is not unusual for and ADD/ADHD patient to develop this as well.
if she isn't already on medication for her ADHD/ADD, get her that way quickly!!! Concerta and Stratera are both excellent medications that have few side effects. You DO NOT want her to begin self-medicating in an effort to get thru life.
2006-06-29 08:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋