Should I wait for him?

Question

I have been fooling around with my best friend for about three months now...He has a son from a previous relationship with baby mama drama...but always is honest with me about everything...sometimes a little to honest. to sum it up...I am falling for him...When the topic came up in the beginning about relationships he said that he has been in relationships for the past 5 years and wants some time to his self...but it doesnt feel that way...He used to work with me but now is at another job...He is the sweetest guy and the best friend that i could ask for...The best thing about our friendship is that i know everything about him...He holds me when i sleep and kissed me on the forehead this morning when he stopped by my job.. i am trying to figure out a way to talk to him about us without not making him aggitated... what should i do.. .should i just be along for the ride and take it as we are just best friends and leave it alone or should i really do what i feel in my heart...i am confused

Answer 1

You are wasting good years of your life if you are not at least honest with him about your feeling (and your concerns).

Are you enjoying the s e x and afraid that it will end? If so, go along for the ride.

Answer 2

it seems that he has interest in you but isnt ready for a relationship right now.....from what i see you have two choices...you can either talk to him and let him know how you feel...so you can keep the relationship open and honest, or i think maybe you should stop sleeping with him if thats all he wants, when you want more. you need to find out what he wants because if you get too involved you might end up with your heart broken and lose a friend at the same time!!

Answer 3

when you stay on for the ride, eventually the ride stops. and most of the time you never know when it does. give him SOME time to sort out his mama drama stuff. you used the word friend and friendship in your question so it seems you're a bit hesistant as well. for now, go with the flow and see where it goes, when you see the fork in the road, make sure you know which leads where before you make any moves. give him some time and just be his friend for now.

Answer 4

If you just go along for the ride you will never know what could of been. See how he feels about you. You dont want to date some one that thinks of you as his sister. But from what you are saying he is interested. You can try making advances towards him and see where it takes you though. Good Luck.

Answer 5

In my opinion, "friends" don't sleep with each other so I dare say you are past this point. You mentioned a daughter and the drama with mama. How long have they been apart? Are they married? What are his feelings for the ex?

I definatly would bring up the subject of where you two are heading and how you feel about him. You never know, he might feel the same about you.

Answer 6

If you love him then go for it, but remember if it doesn't work out. your friendship will be gone forever, it always happens. Maybe he doesn't see you as more than a friend. I would wait for him to make a move, if he doesn't then maybe he just wants friendship only.

Answer 7

If he told you he doesn't want to be involved, then you have your answer, so regardless of what the future holds for you two right now you already know it's not gonna be permanent. I would enjoy being his friend unless you want to lose him altogether. Sorry :-(

Answer 8

tell him how you feel but also let him know there is no pressure, just let the relationship grow...it seems you are having a good start so let it be

Answer 9

.follow your heart..... just bring it up slowly but surely don't rush it. it sounds like he has feeling for you too. so see what happens

Answer 10

if i were you i'd give it more time, i realize thats hard, but just spend time feeling fortunate for him, and enjoying what you have.........no need to rush