"IT" happened 15 years ago. He exposed himself infront of two boys that were engaged in a sexual act and went to prison. He himself was involved in a sexually abusive relationship when he was a boy. The man I know is hardworking, generous, intelligent and treats me okay. I believe some of his "hang ups" are from the abuse as a kid and being institutionalized. I am crazy for this man. I'm not saying what he did was okay and I do think about it often, but only when I am alone. When I am with him all I can think about is how to make him happy. I believe that he has paid his debt to society and is a good man now. Putting it all out there to get feedback.
2006-06-29 07:35:16 · 10 answers · asked by Scarlett 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i have 2 say is old habits die hard
2006-06-29 08:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by shredder97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being abused as a child is the lamest excuse in the world for going on to abuse others in adulthood. Give me a break. If he is a pedophile, then he will always be a pedophile. Women who stand by men like this have more problems than what can be handled on a yahoo message board. I just hope to God you don't have children that you are exposing him to, if you do, I suggest you either ditch the guy or put your kids in the care of someone who cares about their best interests. I was molested as a child and it did not make me grow up to do the same to others, quite the opposite. I have a hatred of pedophiles and believe they should be shot. If you want to waste your life on a piece of scum, then do it, just don't have kids, don't have kids over, don't have grandkids..because the dirty pig will abuse them too, the minute your back is turned. Why would you have even gotten involved with such a person? Surely you could do better. You'll spend your life wondering what he's up to.
2006-06-29 08:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am married to a man that did something similar. I did not find out until after we got married. I left him because i could not think of him like that. But after counseling, i realized that this also happened to him as a child and he has paid his debt to society. He went to counseling for what he did and got all the help he needed to deal with it.
We got back together and have 3 kids. Our love is stronger then ever. So if you really want to be with this man, get get about the past and move forward.
Good Luck!
2006-06-29 07:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by misscanada_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years is a long time ago. I think I would give the man a chance to prove himself and if you love him then stick by him. Be alert though, not suspicious but just aware, in case something might happen again. I know that doesn't sound fair or very trusting but in the interest of children maybe it is appropriate.
2006-06-29 07:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he was sent to prison for merely exposing himself... There had to be more to that story! Once a pedophile, always a pedophile. The love of a good woman isn't going to change him. Move on.
2006-06-29 07:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really believe that he has changed and is a good man then you do what makes you happy. If you love him and he loves you back go for it. Just make sure that it is what you really really want. good luck. I hope he doesnt disappoint you and that he treats you as you want to be treated.
2006-06-29 07:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him and get lost fast... you dont need the problems at some point he will do it again i assure you... check out stats on people like that. Take my advice. I found out someone I dated once was one the hard way....
2006-06-29 08:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer: Yes, you've lost your marbles. Pedophiles cannot be cured. Run fast and run far and don't look back.
2006-06-29 07:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Is it only me? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want feedback. You want someone... ANYONE, to tell you this is okay. IT IS NOT! You need help as much as he does.
2006-06-29 08:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm......
has he really changed? It is possible to change and if he has truely changed, then go for it.
BE CAREFULL! proceed with caution
2006-06-29 07:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋