I work for a state child support enforcement agency and I've heard a wide variety of excuses. However, Yahoo! answers has provided a unique forum from which I may, with your assistance, learn something new.
2006-06-29 07:34:20 · 10 answers · asked by Tad Dubious 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because our government lets them get away with it......I have 2 kids I never recieved child support for...Oh...we went to court...and they were told they better pay.....but...thats it.....no losing license or fined...or made to go to jail....just a long drawnout process for the courts to use taxpayers money. There was always an excuse.....I work seasonal..and the weather has been bad...or....I was sick..or....I lost my job....alot of bull****....but it works for them.....Why is it ok?....even though that mother isnt recieving that support...she is still supporting that child.....and the father or absent parent just seems to be ok with that....no gulit or concious or worried if his child is ok....It amazes me...that two people created this child and one of them can just walk away...like its nothing.....then that child deals with the abandonment and lack of respect for the rest of their lives. So SAD that we allow it...By the way...I did raise those kids alone...they are now 25 and 22 years old.....wish I had all that money now......Please since you work for an agency.... tell us what needs to be done...what do we need to do to get things rolling on all these deadbeat parents?
2006-06-29 07:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
The bottom line is that people in general seem to forget that child support is for the support of a CHILD that they were involved in creating. A child who never asked to be here. They make it personal, and it isn't personal. They use it as a tool or device to get what they want, get even or to punish the other parent. In the end, the only person who gets hurt is the child.
2006-06-29 14:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by MJL613 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself, they have too many excuses except to step up to the plate like a real man would do. Read an article about excuses men use to not pay child support. The "best" one was when some guy said he couldn't pay his child support because he valued his cable TV and had every channel available and he wasn't about to go without his cable TV, his top priority.
2006-06-29 15:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is because the non-custodial parent thinks that whoever has custody of the child will not use the money on the child, but will waste the money. But in my opinion paying rent/mortgage, utilities, buying groceries and clothes for the child is what child support should be used for and most people do use the child support money that they get for those reasons.
2006-06-29 14:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband doesn't pay because he is a deadbeat loser, AND there is no one to make him pay. He works for his dad who pays him in cash...therefore not reporting any income. He gets a letter saying "pay up...or this and that will happen" but so far nothing. He even has an arrest warrant for missing our court date...that has been a little over a year now...nothing. I have even called the Constables office to let them know where he is and nothing has come of it. I guess it's not a priority in Texas.
There are no ramifications for his actions...or lack thereof. Isn't that why people do things that they shouldn't...or in this case don't do things that they should.
2006-06-29 15:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by mitanbarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex claims that he will give our daughter all the money he owes HER when she turns 18. She is 12 now and he owes close to $ 50,000.00 so it will be interesting to see how much he owes her once she turns 18.
Never once has he thought that to pay it now helps her along the way. His excuse for that is " She ain't doing without " No she isn't but it sure has nothing to do with him. And that makes a sorry excuse in my book.
2006-06-29 14:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how many people will answer this that are currently avoiding paying child support.
I have talked to several guys when I used to manage a bar and two of them gave me their opinions.
One - Is afraid mother is spending it on herself. Wouldn't mind paying rent or buying clothes for son, but laws won't let him do that. (He is current and sees his child.)
Two - Ex tricked him into having second child, then 'stole' child and moved 10 hours away. Won't 'let' him see the child. (Has only made one attempt.) Doesn't feel he should have to pay b/c of these reasons. (Dunno if he pays or not, knows he never sees the kid and makes really lame excuses why he doesn't.)
2006-06-29 14:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue. My dad is quite a bit behind, and there is really no excuse for not supporting your child!
2006-06-29 14:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by laciarlene89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the answer is pretty simple, they are cheap uncaring bastards.
2006-06-29 14:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE THEY ARE BIG FAT DEAD BEAT LOSERS!!!!!!
2006-06-29 14:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋