He is a great father and a great man, who made a huge mistake!
Things have been GREAT once we started repairing the damage he caused and I have no reason to beleive he's doing anything anymore nor will he. He really wants me to be his wife.
2006-06-29 07:21:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We were together 7 years when it happened!
I still havent gotten a real reason as to why it happened, he always said he dosent know why he did it. YES i know thats not a very good reason.
He has done everything possiable to make up for what he has done and has been very considerate to my feeling of anger towards it all.
Since the affair we have been threw ALOT of things that we have gotten threw and all of it has made us so much stronger as a couple and family!
2006-06-29 07:34:45 · update #1
We can't tell you what to do because some people do change and if he regrets what he did maybe he does mean it. But I would give it more time before I would decide to marry. You can't go wrong with a little more time. This way you know for sure. And some people don't change at all. So it would be in your best interest to wait a while then commit to marriage if it works out.
2006-06-29 07:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_thinking_&_smiling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you been tgtr 7 years - SO WHAT? You hav yr whole life ahd of you, and plenty of lessons yet to learn. Even if he has realized his mistake and even if he never will make that mistake again, there are plenty of other mistakes he will make - and you'll make your share too.
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I think there is hope for you, that you can make a good marriage together, but you have a lot of work ahead of you. I strongly suggest you seek premarital counseling or family therapy or some help from a relationship professional. You need to work through some things that you may not have gotten through together yet.
Best of luck!
2006-07-05 03:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ok, if you repaired things and revitalized the relationship after the affair. I think it's fine to marry him if you want to. You give no reason to think it's a bad idea. I believe in forgiving if you really worked through the reasons for the affair and have changed things so those conditions won't happen again.
2006-06-29 07:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that he has given you sufficient proof of his faithfulness to you, then you should go ahead. We all make mistakes; the important thing is to learn from them and move on. You should ask him, if you haven't already, what caused the affair to begin with, to make sure this situation does not come up again. Good luck to you.
2006-06-29 07:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by theanswerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your choice carefully- a man who has one affair is far more likely to have another when things start going badly.
2006-06-29 07:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why did he cheat in the 1st place? Leopards do NOT change their spots. They only learn to hide better in the tall grass, as they grow older.
2006-06-29 07:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Quietman40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to counciling first, he'll hate it, but it's a good way to see how committed he is. I'd make him wait a while, just so he knows youre not gonna die w/out him. You don't want to seem weak.
2006-06-29 07:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater - always a cheater! Staying with him now is like saying = Sure walk all over me - you did it once and got away with it.
2006-06-29 07:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by gaiagurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What affair?
You weren't married.
If you are married, then you can have an affair
2006-06-29 07:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.... ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT. IT'LL ALWAYS BE ON YOUR MIND WHEN HE "WORKS LATE " OR "GOES OUT WITH THE GUYS"
2006-06-29 07:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by gslvsls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋