okay, so my EX boyfriend dumps me and then 2 days later he goes out with this other girl who is like my totaly envey and shes rubbing it in my face that shes dating him and i'm not. Well yesterday he decides to Instant Message me and says " you know i'll love you always and forever so dont forget that" please tell me im not the only one that finds something wrong with that because hes dating someone but still loves me?? umm yeah no.
confused and heartbroken
2006-06-29 07:10:54 · 53 answers · asked by lalaloveeeyou_x33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he tried to kiss me while he was dating her. but i pushed away cuz i didnt wanna look like a whore. =/
2006-06-29 07:13:37 · update #1
Of course there's something wrong with this, but it is pretty common nonetheless. He is basically keeping his options open. Why have one girl, if he can figure out a way to have two?
Guys (and girls) do it all the time. They shouldn't, but they'll do it as long as there are those who will fall for it. Let someone else have this "gem" of a guy. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
That's not a cliche but a commonly overlooked fact.
2006-06-29 07:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Thinkithtrough 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK well you must be in high school. I know what I am about to say is easier said than done, but you need to move on. What a slime ball. Yeah OK let me break up with you to date someone else two days later and then just to be on the safe side tell you that I will always love you, so I can have you on the back burner in case this other girl doesn't work out. Yeah that's a hard one to answer. Forget he exists, lose his number, block his emails, find someone else better. It's not that hard to find someone. Just remember that your life should never revolve around a guy. It is OK to date people and not be in a serious relationship. It's usually more fun anyway.
Good luck and I wish you the best.
2006-06-29 07:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex played a LOT of mind games like that with me too. You can love someone and not be "in love" with them. It is very confusing & hurtful. Try to do what is best for you, but you do need to have your space now. Don't let him manipulate you by playing your feelings. If he really does love you he wouldn't do that. If it's meant to be it will find a way, if not then you'll both move on to bigger & better things. After my ex & I split, I thought the world would end, but now I have the most amazing man ever! It's like a dream come true. I still have a soft spot for my ex and will always love him to some degree, but we weren't meant to be.
Good luck, just make sure you think about anything before you do it. Don't say hurtful things in the heat of an argument. You'll regret them later.
2006-06-29 07:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
boys are so stupid. When young boys are dating they usually find themselves in this situation. They met a girl they love (you) but feel like they are too young to settle down so they leave the girl they love (you) to date other girls to get into their pants.
If this is his case, then maybe it's for the best. Maybe both of you are too young to be settled. Don't be heartbroken, I know it hurts, but if he let you go then he wasn't the one. That means he is still out there and you will meeet him when you are ready. Until then go out with your girls, have fun, live life and don't cry too much on the wrong guys. Believe i wish i never wasted any time crying over guys who left me. when you find your one everything will just fall into place.
it's a great day outside go get soem ice cream with a friend and forget this guy. remember he left U.
2006-06-29 07:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by princesscutesmile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you that what i would say but i find out that people now a days follow the feeling that the have and not there heart so think about everything that has happen and everything that may come the mind well tell you lots of thing but you well hear only what you want to hear there for think of only three thing of what may happen in the future now if two out of the three thing make you sad mad your upset in any ways then you two were never meant to be but its hard because your mind well try to think of only the good that may come out of each one. if you still can't make up your mind then what you do is don't think of him at all but its a known fact that you will 8 out 10 girl try not to think about thing and they think of him any ways now the 1st thought that enters your mind think about long and hard why did it come up and the answer will be right there waiting for you
2006-06-29 07:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'Frenchie...' get even.
He is just dating her to make you green with envy.
Ignore him and go for a real man.
"Does he love me"?? Ofcourse NOT.
Get over the heartbreak fast, because he is not worth your time or your love. You should feel sorry for her because she thinks he is like madly in love with her, but is sending you a message like that behind her back.
You know what, you should totally snub him and then talk to her. Show her the message he sent you.
I can almost see what is going to happen. But i'm not going to tell you.
Go, wash your face, get a facial, manicure, pedicure and a massage. You deserve a change from scum like that.
2006-06-29 07:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very confusing. Perhaps there is something bothering him that he has difficulty talking about? This might be why he does such contradictory things, in an effort to get you to ask questions.... Barring that, He doesn't know what he wants (other than everything) and you should ignore him. Hope this helps a bit.
2006-06-29 07:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by miracol@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like there are a couple different possibilities. One could be that he realizes how much you meant to him, two that he does care but just wants to be friends and he is trying to say that he is sorry, or three the is just trying to string you along. I would go with the second one, because life is just too short to hold grudges and you deserve to have someone who will treat you right. Go out and have fun! you one live once Hun!!
2006-06-29 07:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by foxs4x4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a girlfriend that was like this. i dont know if it is on purpose or not but he is seriously messing with your head. I say try to make a clean break and call it off and stop communicating if you can. If you don't, then the pain will only grow greater and you will eventually want to kick youself for wasting time on the jerk. or something like that
2006-06-29 07:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by NO! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya that is very confusing. But maybe he is also very confused. Maybe he loves you and also this other girl. But then again,if he is dating this mean girl then he has made the wrong choice and so you nned to move on. If he keeps IMing you then tell him that you just can't live life this. (who can) And that he is putting a lot of pressure on you and so you just have to move on. Maybe you can possible be friends.(But that one is ur choice!) :)
2006-06-29 07:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by regina03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋