Is divorce a sin ?

Question

I live with my son ( 12-y.) & I'm divorced... so what u think, is divorce a sin ?

Answer 1

In recent years, some have asserted that “sin” is not committed at the time of divorce, but that “the sin” is committed at the time of remarriage. The unspoken implication in such a statement is that it is alright to divorce, as long as one doesn’t remarry. Now, it is true that the sin of adultery isn’t committed at the time of an unscriptural divorce, however, sin does take place when someone divorces their mate for an unauthorized reason.

The Bible teaches us, that when we pursue an unscriptural divorce, we put asunder what God hath joined together (Mt. 19:1-9). In the third verse, Jesus was asked if it was lawful to divorce for any reason. In verse 6 He responded, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” This is God’s rule! [The only exception to this rule is revealed in verse 9, in which infidelity then becomes the reason for a scriptural divorce. Except means, “if and only if.” cp. w. Mt. 5:20; 18:3; Lk. 13:3; Jn. 3:5]

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Answer 2

Wow... I am really, just... wow. All these people talking about God "hating" divorce. MY God is loving and forgiving and doesn't "hate" anything. There are some things He certainly doesn't approve of, but He doesn't hate.

In answer to your question, I don't believe the actual divorce is a sin but the actions leading to it are. Adultery, abuse, betraying your spouse in one way or another ~ those are sinful actions. If you're divorcing simply because you are no longer willing to work at the relationship, you are sinning by not honoring your vows ("for better or worse"). But if you divorce someone who is abusive to you or has betrayed your trust... in my opinion you are an innocent victim of their sinful act.

Answer 3

Divorce is a product of Moses that God reluctantly agreed to.

Divorce can be a sin if it is part of physical, emotional or mental harm done to the people directly and indirectly involved.

Divorce is God gift when it grants freedom to people in abusive relationships.

Only God can tell you if your divorce was/is sinful. Ask God. God will answer. If God says it was/is a sin apologize and move forward. God will forgive you and not hold it against you, nor should anyone else. So don't beat yourself up about it. That is a form of self-abuse and is a sin. Just don't celebrate divorce either.

Answer 4

Scriptural it is , but God granted it for one reason-adultery.
However, if you think there are no other reasons for divorce you are wrong....point blank wrong...

I believe God will forgive the person who divorces their spouse for abuse, drugs and alcohol addiction (providing the spouse refused to get help), sexual misconduct other than formal adultery- which could be porn addiction, child molestation, incest, gay relationship, etc...
I think that divorce for financial irresponsibility which constantly puts a family or other spouse at risk is also grounds for divorce.You can't live when someone is always taking the family earnings and blowing them. Doesn't matter on what... if it puts the family welfare at risk it was wrong.
the Mosaic laws were written for a different society... we must conclude that the allowances would evolve with the circumstances of more complex social needs and reactions.
We don't stone people to death for adultery do we..?
that was part-n- parcel to the divorce allowance...punishment for the deeds...

Answer 5

i do not know your situation. The Lord gives a way out if someone was unfaithful. I think because that would be so hard to bring back the trust again. We are as one when we marry and to tear that oneness apart is devastating. (Although many couples have mended through the help of the Lord). Because we are one, The Lord hates divorce. It says that in the book of Malachi in the bible. I encourage you to read the bible- it says a lot on this subject... I will pray for you and your son.... This must be a tough time..... for you and your son and your ex-wife....

Answer 6

Jesus and the Judeo-Christian bible says you are not supposed to set aside a spouse except for adultery.

If you ex-wife was in real trouble would you help her out or is she a non-person?

Are you intending to start having realtions with other women and have you resolved your own problems that cause the current divorce? If not will the pattern repeat itself?

Every woman is someone's daughter. You may not understand that because you have a son.

YOu took her, you did her, you made babies with her. What went wrong? Did you make the wrong choice for the wrong reasons? What makes you think yu're wiser now?

Is she evil? Truly evil? A drug addict, a killer, a robber, a rapist.

You woke up on day and found out you didn't LIKE the person you screwed every day because the sex was pleasing?

You gonna like the next person?

Did she become evil, join a cult.

Maybe she just got tired of someone climbing on top and saying "was it as good for you as it was for me."

I don't know your reasons, but did you SET HER ASIDE or did she set you aside?

Will you set your son aside if he goes too far? If he becomes, god forbit, a murder, rapist, robber, homosexual. You gonna divorce him too?

Where does it end.

HOW you conduct your life now, determines the sin.

Your wife spread her legs for you and made babies. She did her part. Are doing your part?

She became a vessel for your pleasure and did her task in life.

Are you doing yours?

It's a fine line and you have to walk it.

When you decided to take her to bed you made a committment, otherwise you shouldn't have taken her to bed.

Ultimately you have to do what is "right" for you and your son, but if you cut her lose for no good reason other than you woke up and realized you made a bad choice, that was your choice. Free will. Like eating the apple!

Do you divorce your own parents?

I don't know your crimes or situations. You have to decide just how Evil this person you made babies with is.

Is she evil?

Did you have sex with the devil, just because it was FUN!

Does your son think she's evil?

Is your son stuck in the middle.

This doesn't mean reconcilliation, it means taking responsibility. You took her away from her family and home and said lets make a new home and now that is all changed.

You gonna tell your 18 year old son, get the F out and never come back?

Dwell on things and, as Spike Lee said, Do the Right Thing, for you and your son first, then for others whom you have made promises to.

Promises like to love in sickness and in health, for better or worse, til death do you part.

It sounds like you're somewhat responsible and I seem to be coming down like a truck load of bricks.

You have to do some soul searching. God is watching and wants to see how all of you behave.

It's about KNOWING right from wrong.

Answer 7

No. Divorce is not a sin. What is a sin are the issues that led to the divorce.

Answer 8

As somebody who is divorced, I'm afraid to tell you that it is. However, Jesus overcame death through his victory on the cross and has offered to forgive you if you will just ask. Just as I (and many others like us) asked for forgiveness, so must you, even if you feel like you were the wronged party. Unless you are the one in a million case where the divorce was in no way anything that was in the least little bit your fault.

Answer 9

wow, you are getting lots of answers here, it seems that everybody is involved in this matter one way or another.
well, according to my faith and believes,which is completely different from yours, divorce is not a sin, are you supposed to live a miserable life ,or to go crazy ? because this will happen to anyone who continues to live with the wrong person .sometimes you just stay in a marriage for the sake of your children ,but you can get out of it if your children were suffering due to constant arguments which they sometimes watch their parents do.
to cut it short, no ,it's not a sin.
just be careful the next time ...
good luck ,and best wishes.

Answer 10

I was always taught that divorce was a sin except for it bringing to an end an adulterous marriage. If one of you ran around on the other, the Scripture gives you the right to "put away" that person for defiling the sanctity of your marriage.