2006-06-29 07:01:53 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you have to ask, you don't want to and don't do it
2006-06-29 07:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been going out with a guy for over a year and you have not had sex with him and he is still there than that is wonderful. Todays society does everything in reverse. I will assume you are a virgin and if that is the case than I say Why? Save yourself for your wedding night You did not give your age and that does make a difference. My opinion you should always abstain, it makes the situation worse not better in most cases. Never use sex to get a guy and definetly never use it to hold on to a guy. You want him to want YOU and not a booty call. Men tend to get very irratible when you turn them down but if its you he likes he will not only get over it, but he will have more respect for you than ever before. Better to loose the guy before you have sex than after you have had sex. Sex is a complication you do not need, it is a beautiful thing when you tell your husband to be that you have waited all these years for your perfect match, the man you want to give the gift you can only give once and you will be very happy for waiting and he will feel proud and honored that you did. ( Not to mention the night of the wedding he will run down the asle or maybe sprint. Either way starting a marriage this way gives you a much better chance of making it. I know, I did. Good Luck
2006-06-29 07:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by joejo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your age is important, If you are very young then you have no real understanding of love yet. It is still to new. If you are matured some and old enough to understand it a little then considering sex is OK.
That being said...
Sex is between to people reserved for marriage. Marriage is the love between the two, not a religious custom and ceremony. That is just for letting everybody know you are already married in the heart. If you two are dedicated to each other and wish to live your lives together there is no sin.
If your families are overzealous religious people then this may cause you trouble.
Any problems you have will come from man not from God.
Follow your heart, that is where the true answer is.
Great Question.
Peace to you and your love for each other,
Bondservant
2006-06-29 07:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Bondservant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you a Christian? What are your beliefs about sex? If you have waited for sex this long, what has changed in your life and relationship that should make sex now appropriate?
You didn't give enough information to help us answer appropriately, but that's ok!
I don't think you should have sex before marriage. My wife and I waited until we were married to have sex and we haven't regretted at all.
It is ok to be a complete rookie at sex when you get married. That way sex is like an adventure that keeps the marriage spicy. Once you take sex outside the context of marriage, it becomes just a physical activity divorced from the committment of a marital relationship.
Yet all my comments only make sense within a certain worldview, mine happens to be the Christian faith.
2006-06-29 07:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by christian_mennonite_pacifist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you need to ask strangers, then you're not emotionally ready for this. Don't let him make you feel like you let him down either- It is best for both parties to be equally ready for all consequences--remember that just once can give you a disease or you can become with child.
2006-06-29 07:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by BB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age. If you're over 18, go ahead but keep in mind- do you really want to? If you're younger than 18, just wait until you're a little older and more responsible. You'll be glad that you did.
BTW, would it be your first???
2006-06-29 07:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by casey_leftwich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you Miss Hotti? There's a big difference between being 14 and 20.
2006-06-29 07:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's Very Patient I'll tell u that 4 sure but once he gets it he might say see ya byeeeeeeee some guys are like that no joke
2006-06-29 07:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask then no you shouldnt plus the marriage bed be without defilement. Meaning no sex before marriage. Im my opinion I think you should wait.
2006-06-29 15:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by hispeach128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask the question to strangers, rather than feel it naturally, do not do it. and 1 year without sex is not a bad thing. and if he's saying it is, dump him.
2006-06-29 07:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously aren't ready to be having sex yet is you have to ask strangers whether you should or not.
2006-06-29 07:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋