just i want to say that i m married man . i had a ARRANGED MARRIAGE .I wanted to do a love marriage . once a day i was chatting .That time i came in contact with the girl (whom i love now ) first she proposed me for that and i accepted it and she is my lover now .She loves me too much . she is very far from me
and i dont think that there is any chance of meeting wtih her .
so our relationship will grow just on emails and thru chatting .
she hasn,t any objection about our marriage happens or not
She says to love each other forever till the life is there in both of the souls . She is my first love .
Now i am thinking that what i m doing is right or not ?
Should i end this relationship ?
i love her and her talkies so i can,t live without her mails ?
what should i do with the matter ?
please try to understand my problem with considering ur heart .
2006-06-29 06:46:24 · 10 answers · asked by Manoj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are still currently married your are CHEATING.
It is unfair of you to start another relationship with someone else before you have the guts to finish the first one.
Be a man and decide which woman you want to be committed to!
2006-06-29 06:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people have a strange way of looking perfect from a distance. you are not in love with your wife (understandably so) so this other woman may seem perfect but at this point you are in love with the idea of this lady not the lady. if you have never met her in person and spent any time with her then you couldn't possibly love her. it may feel that way but that's not love. if you aren't happy in your marriage and don't feel that there is anything you can do to change that then be fair to both of you and end things. then perhaps you can pursue a relationship with the other one. you mentioned that "you can't live without her mails". that's not a very healthy attitude to have about anyone. nobody needs another person to make them complete. take a long look at your current relationship and settle things with it before you start thinking of starting another one. you aren't doing any of you any favors by staying in a marriage and being unfaithfull even if it is just emotionally.
2006-06-29 07:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since this was an arranged marriage, talk to your wife, she's your partner, you can't help the way you feel...healthy relationships need honest communications between the both of you, otherwise, what's the point? What's marriage anyways if 2 people can't be honest to each other? I don't see how it can work if you're feeling the way you do..just talk to her, maybe she'll feel the same way you do - great..if not, you are married to her..respect the marriage...ultimately you decided to marry her, arranged or not...
2006-06-29 07:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by dragon76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged or not, you're married. You may not be cheating in flesh, but you're cheating in spirit. Try to find the beauty of your lover with your wife. If that doesn't work, you may want to try counseling.
2006-06-29 06:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a total, one hundred percent idiot. Can you not see through the mist that you have formed over your eyes. All she wants is your money, home and anything else you have. Love, don't talk rubbish. Long distance email romance - don't be stupid................I am sorry, but you leave me totally speechless - just repeat after me, one hundred times: 'I am an idiot'.......
2006-06-29 06:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my mom always told me to follow my heart...but if ur never going to see the person u love, ur never going to actually be with the person u love...than how can u know u love her. I know it might be hard...but just think about your wife...maybe she has nothing but love 4 u, even if u dont love her. Just think about ur wifes feelings...and I dont know...a relationship based upon emails...how funny does that sound 2 u....what would someone say if u told them that u had a loving relationship....but its through email
2006-06-29 06:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMHO, you are not doing right. The emotional efforts you are expending to sustain the online relationship would be better spent improving the marriage. Love does not happen; it is built.
2006-06-29 06:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are heading for trouble.
Respect your wife and your children.
It is your family that needs you not your lover.
Family comes first.
2006-06-29 06:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by howcoolcanub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with your wife so end both until you know yourself.
2006-06-29 06:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your heart.....i also think you should talk to your wife. she is your wife and you should talk with her about how you are feeling, you should see how you can make your marriage better, your wife deserve that much.
2006-06-29 06:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by LASHANNA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋