I am happy, 'cause believe it or not I wanted another child sooner than later, but now that I am actually pregnant I am concerned a little bit , for my own health and the baby to be, because I guess it would be hard to being pregnant and take care of a newborn at the sametime, plus I don't even know how to tell my mom about it, 'cause she is very the "Preaching" type, I know my husband is OK with it which is the most important thing, but my mom is my family also, any suggestion of what should I do?
2006-06-29 06:44:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh God,
I'm so glad I found your question!
My son is four months old (this Saturday) and I think I'm preggo again too. Same symptomns I just can't force myself to go out and buy the test :((( Cuz, I already know what it will say...
My son will be a year old when this one is due...
I feel so quilty...
My mom is preachy too. I'll know she'll flip - she had my sister and I 18 months apart. So, she does know how its going to be. But, I doubt she can say too much. I mean, its not like I planned this...neither did you.
Besides, every child is a gift from God no matter when they arrive. :))
Best of Luck.
2006-06-29 07:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First off, congratulations! I got pregnant when my first son, ( a c-section) was almost three months old. His brother was born one year to the day later, another C-section) I did fine, they did fine.... when I found out a few months later that brother number three was one the way I didn't want to tell my mom either! 15 months after brother 2 brother 3 joined the family though, another section, and he, his mommy and my mommy are just fine. (although he was a premiee) Personally, I loved having my kids close together. We did all the baby stuff at the same time, we did the toddler stuff at the same time and now we do big guy stuff at the same time. (actually I homeschool and my yougest son is right up their with his 5th grade brother, he should be 2cnd to 3rd grade by state standards) I think they learn from each other and that can help you. Potty training was funny, multiple potties lined up as they competed against each other to make ca-ca in the potty first! Motherhood is such a gift. Soon as you get over being really tired, (that should be.......well, my oldest is 11 and I can take naps now), you will be fine. I had waited until I was 31 to have kids, I didn't want to wait between. Good luck, you wil do fine
2006-06-29 16:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Greencastle PS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I wold like to say congrat on both of the new babies. I had my son when I was 15 then I had my daughters when I was 16. It wasn't hard because my son was only one. No one ever said that parenting would be easy. Now that I am 25 years old and my son is 10 and my daughters are 8, I wouldn't change anything about having them so close together. My children are very close to each other and they always have someone to play with, sometimes they like to be away from each other but that's normal. As far as telling your mother, I feel that you are grown, yes your mother my feel different about it at first but she may just want better for you and your children all mothers do. Give her time to take it all in. She will still spoil them both. As far as your health as long as you keep up with your prenatal I think you will be fine. Again let me say congratulations and good luck.
2006-06-29 14:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by xcstbabygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations honey. Hopefully you stayed on your prenatal vitamins since you wanted to get pregnant. If you did all should be good. The advice is to wait at least a year in between pregnancies but if it happens it's what God wanted so everybody mom included should be happy. You do need your rest the first trimester so maybe if your hubby could take a little more responsibilty for awhile that would be a great help. Good luck and enjoy your babies
2006-06-29 13:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my third when my second one was 8 months old. I had a c-section with all three. I know the concerns you are thinking about. It is close together, but I think things will be just fine. I was concerned about my stomach stretching with the fresh c-section scar, but my doctor assured me everything would be fine, and it was.
And why are you concerned about your mother? Yes, she is part of the family, but not your immediate family. Your mother has no right to butt into your family's issues and affairs. You can talk to her about it, but she shouldn't be helpin with the decisions you and your husband make. Even the Bible says, "You leave your father and mother, and stick to your wife/husband" You should be concerned about you and your husband, and your children.
There really isn't anything you can do but accept it. Everything will be ok, don't worry I was once worried like you as well.
2006-06-29 14:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising two small children at the same time is a very difficult job. I congratulate you and yet, I'm glad it's not me LOL. Mine were 8 years apart and that was fine. Remember, you're going to have 2 in diapers for a while - it's expensive. But you need to just tell your mom and let her preach. It's not going to make any difference other than upset you a little and you can speak up too.
2006-06-29 13:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That actually happens a lot. It happened to my sister. Atleast you are married and have a husband to help you. Your new born does need a lot of care, but there are some things your husband can do now and once you get further along. This will help ease the stress. Talk to your doctor about things you can do to help both babies. By eating healthy, resting as much as possible etc. I am sure many women have done this though it is no small feat. Congratulations and God Bless.
2006-06-29 13:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by missesbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you and your husband are happy that is really what matters. Yes, it will be difficult to be pregnant and have a newborn to care for but with support from your husband you'll do just fine. I know your mother is family and mothers love to offer opinions about everything sometimes. Just tell her that you respect her feelings if she starts to preach but that she in turns needs to respect your feelings as well. Try to hear each other out and maybe even agree to disagree about it while keeping peace. Good luck.
2006-06-29 14:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by lisa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off congratulations you have a long hard road a head of you. Your mom has every right to voice her opinion but that doesn't mean you have to listen to it. I know you love her and value what she has to say but really what can you do about it now. I'm not to sure about being pregnant right after having a c-section but I'm sure your Dr. will be able to watch over you and make sure things go good for you and the new baby. I couldn't imagine having 2 babies that close in age so Good Luck to you. I'm happy that your happy.
2006-06-29 13:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by belli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are eleven months apart.. he is 20months old and she is 9months.. they are the best of friends... it's great.. it's hard at first but it's worth it... I wouldn't worry about the c section I had a c section with both of mine and my body was fine.. You just have to take it a little bit easier this time because your stomach muscles aren't all the way healed yet so just be careful but you'll do great.. Tell your mom I am sure she will be thrilled
2006-06-29 14:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋