adults only....is it really a threat to a man if a woman has a lot going on for herself?

Question

i have a good job, my own place and a nice car and i would like to think i have a pretty good head on my shoulders. i know some men are intimidated by a woman and i know there are some men that want to be the one to provide their woman with the finer things, but at the same time dont men want a woman that can also bring something to the table? if i bring what i have and u bring what u have thats just more for the both of us right?

Answer 1

Unfortunately there are a lot of insecure men out there, and that coupled with society telling the xy carriers that they have to "provide for their family" doubles the notion that a woman with power don't want/need you. Speaking in pure generalizations, women often think on many levels at once and men, just the one, so a guy may think purely about the financial situation while not recognize that you have other emotional, mental, social and physical needs.

There is a guy, in fact, there are MANY guys who would love to meet a woman who is her own self, and not waiting to build her life solely around a man. You just have to be a bit choosier and make sure you got a man who is not only successful, but is sure of himself at his very core.

Answer 2

Any man that is intimidated by a successful woman should be a red flag to you. That type of a man is looking for a woman to control and obey him.If you look at most abusive relationships, it is the man trying to control the woman. these men do not know how to deal with a successful independent woman, and they feel that they have no way to control the relationship. Relationships should be about Love, trust and respect. If that is what you truly want, wait for the right man you can share those things with. Believe it or not, we do exist. If he is intimidated , move on, yes there are alot of cavemen out there, that's why they are all you meet, the modern men are out there, you just have to look. Be careful, if you see the early warning signs run, do not change who you are for a man, find one that will love you for who you are. then you will have found a real man. Good luck!

Answer 3

Not a threat at all, in fact, it's more of a turn on... Intelligence, and beauty - all wrapped up into one person, who can also be financially responsible? Most marriages today are made up of two income households due to modern times, expenses, inflation, etc... At the same time, there's a balance that needs to be struck when raising a family. For example, depending on how much you may make in your career, and depending upon the cost of child care, it may make more sense from a financial standpoint to be the at home mom. The only issue there becomes that womans own self worth sometimes I think, and their own desire for more mature conversation. In addition, they may also feel less worthy in the case where they are buying their significant other a present - using his money!

I say go for it girl! You do have a good head on your shoulders, and whatever comes on top of what you have in your life today is just an added bonus...

Answer 4

Some men aren't so much threatened by what you do and how much you make, it's more that they don't want to be in competition with you. Men are nothing but overgrown babies. How ever their mom treated them is the way they want to be treated. If their mom was a stay at home mom they usually want to have a wife who stays at home. If their mom worked and did everything around the house, that is usually what they want for their wife. The best thing to do when you meet a guy is find out as soon as possible what his mom is like. If she seems like she is a lot like you then go for it. As far as finding someone who will take you try to find a guy with big dreams. Even if he hasn't accomplished his goals yet if he has a plan and it seem plausible then he is probably a good catch. If you get in a serious relationship with someone remember to support whatever they do. Men need, for some reason or another, validation. I met my fiancee in a Karaoke bar. Now I don't sing but I like to go and watch people sing. He is an awesome singer and I love seeing him on stage. But if I don't watch him every single time he climbs on that stage he gets his feelings hurt. Men need to know that they are good at what they like to do. Just remember that even though you may be well off, to stay grounded and never let a man try to change you or your dreams or aspirations.

Answer 5

your right, but some men do find it difficult 2 deal with, i wouldn't necessarily call it a threat but sometimes men want 2 feel wanted, they want 2 feel that if they're woman wants something he's the one she can count on, they want 2 feel like the provider, kinda of falls back 2 when men worked and woman stayed home, but the thing is the world is a completely different place than b4, woman r more independent, they can manage just fine on their own, just sometimes we need 2 know that we r still wanted 4 something lol.

Answer 6

I think that alot of men want their woman to be "in awe" of him and if you have more than he does he probably would feel like he has nothing to offer you. Like you don't need him and you could just toss him away at anytime because you can take care of yourself. But I guess not every man would feel like that. Some would be proud that they have a strong, smart, and independent woman.

Answer 7

Finally!! I feel the same way and have the same questions. My fiance doesn't exactly make and issue out of it, but he seems to want to downplay my financial status and career position. He is a success in his own right, and I don't understand why he isn't more acceptable of mine. I have overheard him "bragging" about me at social events etc.. but when it is just us or we are with family it's a different story. I love who and where I am right now in my life and just wished he did too.. if I ever find out the answer then I will share it with all of the other women in our shoes.. Shalom.

Answer 8

As long as you share and share everything alike, and not make him look like your puppy it will work out just great,treat him just like a normal day to day person. If you go out for dinner and he offers to pay the bill,let him or even go dutch, means you both are respecting each others give and take mentality.Do not over dress but be on the same level as him.On the other hand you might be in his place,so just reverse the procedure.NO WORRIES: THIS THINGS COME AUTOMATICALLY;

Answer 9

I'm a Payroll Specialist, and I make pretty good money. My husband appreciates me for that, although he wishes I didn't have to work so much. We both work hard and have money all the time. I think that men who are easy-going won't care if you like to be independent in that way. I totally agree with you though.

Answer 10

i don't date chicks like you because for one your to high maintence and two everything is about money. chicks like you don't intimidate me at all, in fact, i think it's the opposite. i like more down to earth people, real people that do not judge based on this or that. you come off as not be approachable which is bad. just because a person has a good job, nice car and a nice place doesn't mean that they have a lot going on for themselves it just means they have a good job and make good living.