What are some good tips for my fiance on parenting our 3 year old son?

Answer 1

theres this really cool book i bought called 1-2-3 magic effective discipline for children 2-12 by thomas w.phelan ph.d i found that it really effective and works great on my 3 year old son .belive me my son was wild too and still is.this is a few tips from the book. 'when your kids are little your house should be a dictatorship where you are the judge and the jury.when they get older things should be more of a democracy. well pretty much what this book says to do is yoou count to one being the first warning if it keeps on then you go to two and if it keeps on u say three know take five takeing five is a time out in bedrrom or coner and since your son is 3 he takes a 3 m inute time out .but it also says when you are counting dont show any emotion like anger or anythiing and dont say between countings like im almost to 3 . and after the time oout dont say anything about what just happend like dont say now are you goiing to be a good boy?just drop it.but if your child hits or says bad words its a autimatic 3.i know it sounds strange but it actully works if you do it right it worked on my son not at first but he caught on real fast .good luck

Answer 2

Number one: Stick together in your discipline. Don't let your child think that the two of you will not react the same way to a situation. Present a unified front and your son will know he can't "play" you against each other.

Number two: BE CONSISTENT. Always make the punishment fit the crime. Don't lay down punishments you can't really stick to (i.e., "you can never ever watch TV again!") and don't let up on the discipline. Don't do it one way one day, and the opposite way the next time.

Number three: MAKE SURE YOUR TODDLER UNDERSTANDS WHAT YOU WANT. He can't follow rules he doesn't understand.

Number four: Make sure you lay down rules. Don't let him try to raise himself. Give him structure and discipline. Give him jobs to do, that are within his physical and mental capabilities. Give him a moral code to live by. (i.e., "we don't hit other kids, we don't kick the puppy," etc.) Make sure he understands that these are HIS rules to follow and it doesn't matter what other kids do.

Answer 3

Spanking usually doesn't work after a while and spanking isn't very good. In order for him to be desiplined when he does something bad tell him that was bad and tell him why. If he does it again put him in a corner for however old he is.He is three so put him in the corner for 3 minutes. Than explain again why he is in trouble. Say it in a nice way. Play games with your son. Don't just leave him to defend for himself.

Answer 4

Begin helping him learn to make decisions by offering him choices. If he is misbehaving tell him what the consequence will be if he continues to choose that behavior. Focus on the fact that he is making choices. He will understand this on his level and then as he gets older he will be able to handle more complex choices. Typically, teens and adults who have difficulty making decisions (from as simple as what to drink to as complex as career choice) were not taught this important life skill from an early age. Parents often want to just be in charge of everything because its easier. But the payoff for teaching this skill is phenomenal. It will make parenting easier in the long run and it will help your child bloom into a teen and adult who can enjoy success in life.
Let's say that 3-year old Joe is pulling his pants down in public to make others laugh. You can say "Joe, if you choose to pull your pants down again then ________." Fill in the blank with a consequence that is reasonable and appropriate for his age. And make sure it is a consequence you will enforce. For example, don't say the consequence is that "we will all leave the party" unless you really are going to leave. Because, trust me, he will pull them down one more time to see if you really mean it. And if you don't enforce the consequence he will learn early on that you don't really mean what you say. Try to figure out what has value to the child. For a toddler, the consequence might be that he/she loses time to watch a favorite show or video. Granted, this will make your life hell while he tantrums and cries but if you can bear with it the first few times, you should be on a good course after that. For a three year old pick consequnces that are immediate. He is too young to get the impact of losing his movie time at 6:00 tonight for his action at 12Noon. As he gets older, the consequence can be further from the time of the behavior. Now, let's say that he does not pull his pants down again, don't ignore that. Praise him for the choice he made. Tell him that you think he made a good choice. Children love to be praised, afterall it is attention that he was seeking in the first place.
Above all, please never tell him HE is naughty or HE is bad. Tell him that his behavior is naughty or bad. Don't put down his identity but comment on his behavior.

Answer 5

There's this author (a woman) who has made several books on "What to expect when your child is..." I bought "What to expect when your child is 5" and it was pretty accurate AND she gives you pointers on how to handle certain situations. You can use the search engine or....I can go home get the authors name and get back to you tomorrow. I was dissapointed when I saw my book was written in the early 90's but I just made the necessary up to date changes. Hope I was some help!

Answer 6

be patience with the child and check out the Internet for parenting web site tips are outline post it and use common sense. if you have time check out the P.R.I.C.E program. it's help when being a single parent.

Answer 7

love and enjoyment ....and never lose your sense of humor your going to need it.