if my parents treated me bad , will i treat my kids the same way as i was treated?

Answer 1

if you blame your parents for your misery and behavior, yes, if you are accountable for your actions and take responsibility for how you react to situations, no

Answer 2

No you will not. You will have learned that you do not want to treat your kids the way you were treated and most likely give them all the love that you should have had. You will make a great parent. Very caring. and Loving. You must talk to someone and get the hatred out of your system. Don't carry it with you.

Answer 3

My parents treated me bad and I sometimes treat my kids the same way. Mostly I treat them better because I don't want them to feel about me the way that I do about my parents.

So I would have to say that the answer is no, not always

Answer 4

Not unless that is what you choose to do. If you know that your parents treated you badly you can stop that cycle and start over with a better environment for your children. Now there are also some that know it was bad treatment and don't change it. This will lead to more unhappy children thus repeating the cycle.

Answer 5

There is people in my family, that has treated their kids wrong. When they got older, one or two would do the same to their kids. The chain kept going on and on and so fore.
But no matter what, your parents did to you lord knows how long. Your kids are your flesh and blood. If you hurt your kids, you are hurting yourself along with them. Seeing hurt in a child eyes, is one I can't stand for.
You want to be better then them, you want to be the best mom/dad you can be. You want to raise thoses kids up to respect other people. Be there when they need you the most. The best parents/parent is a good loving parents/parent.

Answer 6

Not if you choose not to be a statistic and change.My mother was not a good one at all,never had time for us kids it was all about her men!I broke the mold and decided to be a goo parent and so far i have made it,my kids r 14 and 11 so i have a ways to go yet but i try every day to make sure i dont do the same things my mother did to me.So just be strong,you can make a difference in your children.Good luck,God bless:O)

Answer 7

That depends. We all have a tendency to recreate our childhood relationships when we become adults. The key is to recognize what our parents did that was "bad" (the behavior), attempt to understand "why" they did it (the triggers) and realize when we have the potential to behave in similar ways as our parents.
Usually, it is when we are stressed, tired, and emotionally challenged, etc...., that we are at most risk of behaving "badly" toward our kids. Parents are human and make a lot of mistakes. The smart ones admit when they are wrong, get help when they need it, and resolve to change their "bad" behavior.

Answer 8

Not necessarily. Remember, you make the choices in YOUR life. Your parents, though they may have been abusive, are no longer a part of your life, or, if they are, play a minimal role. Every generation has the option of either benefitting from their forefathers mistakes or achievements or overlooking them. Even though your parents were abusive YOU have the option of changing. Believe me, most people overlook their issues and later on down the road wish to god they had done something about it. For those of us who have life harder, it only makes us stronger. So, my answer is no. No you won't raise your children like your parents raised you. You will be a good father/mother and your children will love you for it.

Answer 9

If you were raised by being treated badly you won't necessarily repeat the conduct.
You are a free human. You can make the choice not to do to others what was done to you.

If you are in doubt look in your community for help, clergy people, etc.

Answer 10

I agree with the first answer. Braek that cycle and treat your kids like human beings. After all that's what they are just smaller :) Kids are great and they are not always going to do what you want them too so keep that in mind

Answer 11

only if you have dealt with and resolved the things your parents have done to you. if not you will just repeat the cycle . and you will have always have to conscience of the way you treat your child doesn't mean you show no discipline but just the right amount at the right time.