Should those praising absteinance be banned from complaining about porn and sex toys?

Question

Should those advocating absteinance be banned from complaining about pornography, strippers, exotic dancers, sex toys like didos and vibrators etc. As surely thats why you tell someone to abstain as you want them intro that and not sexaul relationships with real people instead.

If nobody had to abstain from early teeange onwards and had a good sex life then there would be little need for the above.

You can't expect to repress people and expect them to have no release for the frustration...

What do you think the abstaining would do? play tiddlyinks?

Erm... absteinance does not stop unwanted pregnancies and stds, thats what sex ed and contraceptives are for.

Scientific research showed that kids trying to abstain tended to turn into pressure cookers that exploded with all the tenstion and had sex later only without condoms or proper contraception so it back fired whils the dutch expecting teenagers to get sexaul teach things right and never promote abstenance and it works. their pregnancy rate is a tenth of the yanks and so much lower then the uk.

Why hate abstenance? I have seen first hand it totally destroy peoples lives and only cause them hurt, whilst those brought up by open minded informative parents grew up fully independant from mid teens, without problems with STDs or pregnancies and had high levels of social skills.


Abstenance means you NEVER feel love, warmth, affection, cared about, wanted, respected (as only those who are active are respected, get friends and get treated right). No dates, no hugs,

Nobody to feel close to. You are judged by your prowess... ie if nobody wants you you are worthless.

You hear dies...


You are needy, shy, and lack confience therefore not attractive... Whilst if active you are confident and pull...


Bit like poor get poorer rich richer.

I saw friends practically suicidal as thining nobody would want them, others cutting and burning themselves. Others commit suicide.

Those who abstain early on will always be behind those who started early.

Therefore as most jobs are all social relationship skill no more career, can't sell, cant persuade, cant manage people.

You cant get close to anyone as designated bloke girl mate or gay brother type.

Friends who got fed that **** are still stuck at home into late twenties and 30s (one an alcoholic)


Whils tthose with open minded hippie type parents moved out with all the parties and flat sharing and relationships from 16 +.

And therefore are more settled in late twenties onwards

Taught them how to seduce, flirt, chat up etc.

You end up only being able to relate to those with similar levels of experience many years younger and that only gets worse as you get older...


etc ...

With nobody to keep you warm at night or wake up with...


What the hell is good about that?

Then these idiots complain about girls using vibrators or guys porn as there is nothing else.

As said what did they expect as thats why they suggest and push such lies to hurt people...

If you care about someone you want them happy and to fall in love and be with others to make them happy and develop...

And you teach them how to defend themsleves and everything they need to be independant...

Absteainance is like hacking off a birds wings and saying nody flies only bad birds fly and makie them live a life where they can only see other birds fly knowing there is nothing they can do about it... Flight school and being allowed to make mistakes only happens in school

To answer south gap...


Simple... Either you are having sex with separate peopel, the same person , or doing stuff on your own... end of story...


So absteinance means you are all alone and therefore wwill be under amsses or pressure and frustration unless masterbating all the time as have nobody to have sex with so therefore DIY.

Humans have needs.

Therefore sex toys and porn (ie toys for girls porn for the lads) , along with going to see strippers and other stuff those on own do are the only alternative to bing in a couple or sleeping around.


Therefore it makes no sense for those into absteinance to complain about sex toys and porn as if you are forced to abastain as ugly or shy or lack social skills

Then you must be into sex toys, porn or strippers as what else is there?

Answer 1

I think that's why those religions freaks get married so young... they wanna have sex!!

Answer 2

While I understand what you're saying, I think you're getting the wrong impression on why people are telling teenagers to abstain. It's not because we don't want them to have pleasure or we want them to start using sex toys. It's because we don't like to see young people throw away their lives by having a baby at a young age and we don't want to see the poor children suffer because their parents either can't get a job because they are too young, didn't want them or have a lack of education. I strongly believe that this is a big part of why we have so many uneducated people in this country. Just thought that I would point out the reasons as to why we promote abstinence.

With that being said, there's nothing wrong with sex toys or porn in the place of having unprotected, premarital sex.

Answer 3

You make a good point there and have Logic on your side.

I agree that with a more natural attitude towards sexuality many of our modern problems would not exist and many unnatural toys and sex aids would not be needed.

But banning people from complaining is not a good idea. First of all it would not work and could never be policed, secondly people do have freedom of speech, and that includes complaints about anything one dislikes. There would be more important things we should ban people from doing, but then again, we would have a police state and could kiss good-bye to freedom and liberty in general.
I would make my contribution to a normal and natural sex life and a similar sex education for my children, and simply ignore those complainers, since their lives are obviously miserable enough.

Answer 4

Why are you "throwing together" the seedy part of sex with sex toys. No where in the bible does it say "thou shalt not buy a vibrator." Actually, many men prefer to not take "sex pills" or are unable to. Sex toys can be used between two partners as a way to "love" and "feel" each other, without going outside their marriage and without replacing the partner. Just like men who need "visual" stimulation - women wear Lingerie...women prefer sensual touch, I ask...does that a "porno star" make? I think "thou doest protest too much". Abstainance is biblical and moral. Does that mean it's "Fun"? Nah, not really, but wait 2 years until marriage, do it yourself, or live the rest of your life with the guilt of "not abiding by the law of the bible".

Answer 5

nicely, I abstain from sex because, God designed it to ensue between a guy and his spouse. i'm a more than chuffed individual because i do not ignore that i'm in God's will. I through no skill sense repressed or annoyed as an argument of actuality, i think extra like an overcomer, because I easily have administration over my own body and that i do not fell the favor to succumb to any peer rigidity. it really is extremely unhappy that you imagine that the in uncomplicated phrases way someone can stay a fulfilled existence is in the experience that they are sexually lively. through the way i'm optimistic maximum folk of those who have interaction in those behaviors you stated are not those who've made an self sufficient decision to proceed to be abstinent. because i in my opinion do not have any favor to get desirous about any of that mess.

Answer 6

What is your problem with abstinence, anyway? You were blaming it for someone else's case of depression and low self-esteem and now you are blaming it for porn.
I know plenty of people who are getting plenty enough action but still watch porn. It is not caused by teaching abstinence.

Answer 7

People have the right to complain about whatever they want.

Though, I get your point.

Answer 8

yeah that would be a good idea