Ok...it has been 5years ...we are in seperate relationships...How can I get over him... I think about him everyday... I have for 5 years ... they say it takes time to heal a broken heart.... How much time... I know he still cares about me ... He is always there when I need him .. to talk to or if I need him for a reason ...He is in another relationship... I am not sure if he loves her but I know he will not leave her even though they are not married, because he has a child with her...What do I do... How do I make this heart ache go away!
2006-06-29 06:06:07 · 13 answers · asked by simplytruelove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make his heart ache go away. If you still care about him and you think he still cares about you in that way then you need to sit down and talk to him and find out what he wants. even though he has a child with her he doesnt have to be with her if he doesnt want to. Maybe try explain that to him. He can still be a great father and be there for his child with out forcing himslef to be with her because in the end if he is not happy with her and is only there for the child it will only hurt the child later in life. Here is a question for you can you handle being a step parent and loving his child unconditionally also. Can you handle her being there for the rest of your life. These are all things that you have to consider and talk to him about. Mainly the only thing you can do now if you still love him is talk to him and find out what he wants and go from there if he loves you make it work if he still thinks he needs to be with her then you need to accept that and be his friend but move one....
2006-06-29 06:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be woman enough (although I know it's hard) to stay away from him. If he has a child with this person then the only thing you are doing is being a home wrecker to his current relationship. Time does mend a broken heart but there is no set amount of time that goes by before you start feeling better you just all of a sudden notice that things seem a little easier everyday. Try to get involved with a social club or two, at least you'll get out of the house a little and maybe make some new friends. Good luck to you :-)
2006-06-29 13:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have past relationships that we will to some degree never get over. The key is to simply accept that as part of life. In the end you may need to further end this relationship by stopping the talking because that is what keeps drawing you back in. Plus it is also stealing time and emotion from each of your current relationships.
2006-06-29 13:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your going thru it hasnt been 5 years but 3 for me and the only thing that helped my (and believe me it was hard at first) I ended up after 2 years of missery and hurting to just brake the contact to him 100% I deleted his phone number e-mail etc..... and we just started speaking again (as friends) a few month ago and only because we have a lot of mutal friends! So anyhow did my love for him go away no, but the pain isnt as bad I dont want to just cry everytime I see him because I cant be with him, the year of not seeing him helped me enough to maybe not be over him completly (and to be honest I dont think I ever will) but it helped me enough to be less enough to live with it and except the fact we will never be 2gether in that way again and open up enough to fall in love again with somebody else. Good luck to you and hang in there it will be ok but you have to try to not spend anytime with him.
2006-06-29 13:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by connys1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart ache will go away eventually. Like you said "it takes time to heal a broken heart"...I'm sorry you have to be in this tough situation. I've been there before so I know how it is.
2006-06-29 13:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sad for you!! Have you tried keeping yourself busy and maybe dating other guys? I know how you feel and it does take time but its not healthy to dwell on things you cant change. I think the best thing to do is tell him exactly how you feel ( the whole truth ) and see what his response is. If he doesnt feel the same way as you theres nothing left to do but make yourself move on. Meaning... Keep yourself away from him completely. You are only hurting yourself by being in contact with him. No calls, no seeing, you will move on eventually!!!
2006-06-29 13:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Candycane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it take as long as you need. don't feel like its going to be forever. when someone that you have loved so much in yr life goes from you it can take along time to settle the feelings of hurt anguish and loss. try to go out and resume yr life do other things meet other ppl. it wont take away how you feel but will help you to move on a little more you have alot of life and loving still to come
2006-06-29 13:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is supposed to be the most wonderful thing..it should inspire you and give you joy and strength,, but sometimes the things that can give you joy can also hurt you in the end..Heartbreaks will last as long as you want & cut deep as long as you allow them to go.. but it is better to have found the courage to love even if you lose it in the endrather than finding love bcoz u were too afraid to face its challenges.. gdluck!
2006-06-29 13:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by @>-VyNe--- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him don't even call. He has his own life and if you mess that up then you never really cared in the first place.
2006-06-29 13:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by angelpockets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your heart still heal you'll get over him i was the same way you'll be fine
2006-06-29 13:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by Thick Haitian Mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋