SHE IS SINGLE AND SHE WANTS ME BACK... I LOVE MY SON AND I DONT KNOW IF I STILL LOVE HER. I DID AND I DONT KNOW ANYMORE. I JUST MOVED BACK TO CALIFORNIA WITH MY SON. I WAS IN TEXAS WITH MY SON WHEN SHE WAS IN CALI AND FOUND OUT SHE WAS BI. I RISED MY SON WITH OUT HER FOR A YEAR AND WHEN I MOVED BACK SHE TOOK HIM AWAY FROM ME BUT I GET TO SEE HIM WHEN SHE OUT WITH HER FRIENDS OR WORKING OUT. WHAT TO DO???
2006-06-29 06:04:42 · 11 answers · asked by trungnguyen115 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Simple as this!!! : Figure out if you really love her or not and go with your feelings. Don't by any means get yourself into a situation you're not happy with. Spend some time with her and then you can make your decision.
2006-06-29 06:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by miss_gem_01 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can have a wonderful friendship and co-parenting arrangement. It's interesting, but these type of relationships get better over the years. My ex (father of my first child) and I have a friendship and "co-parenting" partnership now that we didn't have in the early years. But over time, we've learned to be patient with each other's faults and we actually can get along now.
Look into coparenting -- it may be the solution. I've posted some links to more info, below.
As for your ex being bi, maybe if you have an "open relationship" where she can date women but you're the only man, that would work out for you. Frankly, that's how my current husband and I have arranged it, because i'm bi too. And we've been married for 23 yrs now. But it would work only if you want to get back together with her. Otherwise, don't bother. Just be friends.
in my opinion, she has no right to take your son away from you. Coparentnig might be a good options, because you are in the same situation as a divorced couple: two parents in two separate households, one child. And your son NEEDS YOU.
2006-06-29 06:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by realmomof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it Man!
What is to stop her from running away again? And like, bi means she won't be faithful (If faithful means 1 partner). Do yo want your son in this environment?
Anyways Why invite more hurts? Get your son back ( if you love him, miss him and at the same time feel that he would be much better off with you) and move on.
PS-Plz avoidwriting everything inCaps.
2006-06-29 06:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by shrek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thought you couldn't raise your son. Now she's jealous that you stepped up to the plate. I wouldn't take her back and I would get my son back cuz I believe your the better parent. She's just playing head games.
2006-06-29 08:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out whether or not you really love her and want her back, if you do, then go back...if you dont, then dont.....if you dont get back together then you should go to court to set up visitation, it is not right for her to take him from you and only use you as a "babysitter" when she wants to go out and do her own thing...you are his father, you have a right to play that role, not the role of a babysitter!!!
2006-06-29 07:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO; if you dont know, then you really dont love her. That should be a question you are able to answer if you did still love her.
If it were me, it would come down to what was best for my son.
2006-06-29 07:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberlynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Just don't. You know it's a bad idea or you wouldn't be asking. Just keep in touch with your son as much as possible...letters, phone calls, e-mails, visiting him when you can. That is the love that counts.
Don't do it. Honest.
2006-06-29 06:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Meredith L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just leave her alone...First of all I dont know any real Mother that would not want to be apart of raising their own child...and how do you know that she wont leave again...Tell her that you are not willing to be with her but you guys can both be there for your son!!
2006-06-29 06:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. The fact that she's bi means that she is confused. You have to put your son first. Ask yourself what's best for him. I think you know waht you should do it's just hard to do it.
2006-06-29 06:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and get your son back. and move on
2006-06-29 06:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋