Whats the difference between lust and love?how do you know if your IN love?Is age a factor in being IN love?

Question

Is 15 to young to be in love?
How do you know the difference between lust and love?
I've been told all my life I will never know what love is untill I am old enough (untill im past twenty), but something tells me that'is wrong.
and I don't mean "friendship" love, i mean real, like...
LOVE love. Where you'd give anything to just see or hear this guys voise or, you'd do anything so they'd be happy. and hes always on your mind. You think you see him in a crowd and LITERALLY your heart skips a beat and you hold your breath.And anytime you smell his sent you just...love it. And you know he has faults...but you think they're cute. and you love to see him smile and laugh and when he hugs you...you never want him to let go. and you dont really know how to word it all.
(chezzy i know, sorry!)
So what is it? is age a factor in being IN love? how do you know if your in love, when you think you are, but parents tell you your not?
Any stories, words of advice, or anything is appreciated,
THANKS!

for the record,
im not big on falling "in love" im not in love with the IDEA of falling in love, simply because i've seen so many people get hurt, its hard for me to WANT to fall in love, and the guy i (insert one of the L words) DID hurt me, but even tho we've made up...i still feel very strongly about him. for over a year now.

someone bellow gave a really good idea, trying to see other people?
i couldn't get close to anyone without feeling sick. and homesick to be with him.

SORRY! i didn't mean age between us, just me being 15!!

Answer 1

When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!

Answer 2

hehe, you're cute.
Look, no one on this planet can tell you if you're in love or not except you. By your description, it doesn't sound like "lust" thoughts. Otherwise you'd be saying, "I love when he is in sight and I can watch his buttcheeks sway as he walks..." lol. Y'know?

I am a personal fan of love without any age limits.
Consider a couple of things first, though.
1) how long you have been with this guy
2) how equal is the relationship? Does he seem to feel the same way about you or are you maybe "jumping the gun" with the whole love thing?
3) who asked your parents?? ;) Seriously. I would have asked my parents the same thing at that age, (and I probably did!), but in all reality, it seems like your parents are going to be the least of all to know if you are in love or not, because they are your blood and they don't want you to get wrapped up in the wrong person and run away to Rio or something! I always got the vibe that my parents thought every relationship was something silly when in high school. It wasn't until college that my parents started taking my boyfriends seriously.
That's not to say that no one from high school is serious!

Take it one day at a time.
If you love this guy, that is amazingly wonderful, and you should be overjoyed. Do everything you can to make it work between the two of you, and don't get discouraged when you argue or fight down the road. Trust me, if both people love and want to be with one another, they can make it work if they put in the needed effort.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 3

It's a feeling that's hard for me to describe but you'll just know when it happens. The only thing I'm concerned with is what kind of an age difference are we talking about here? Be very careful even if your parents are fine with this situation depending on where you live the state can pick up charges against him if he is no longer a minor & you don't want that to happen to him it will wreck his life with jobs, college, almost anything these days. The best advise I can give you is to that there is no age requirement, and take it easy & try (although I know it's hard) to let nature run it's course, if this is meant to be then it will be. Good luck :-)

Answer 4

True love is being unselfish. It's not a feeling or an emotion. An example of true love is Jesus, he gave his life so others could live. Are you willing to give your life for this guy? I know it sounds extreme, but when you truly love someone you will give the world for them. I think age and love are used together b/c people feel that the older you become the more you experience life and know what you want. Time is the true answer in matters of the heart.

I think a person can be in love at 15, but give it some time. The puppy love phase will wither and you'll be able to tell if you're truly in love or in lust with this person.

Answer 5

Love is entirely possible at 15. I dated someone from the time I was 15 (he was 17 almost 18 at the time) to the age of 19. We probably would have gotten married had life not thrown us a curve ball, but how can you ever know what is in store. As for the age thing, my husband and I are 9 years apart, as are my parents. Age can be a factor when you are much younger, but as you age, it becomes less important.

Answer 6

age is not always a factor but it does come into play sometimes.. U feel like u are going to melt everytime u see him so u may just be lusting for him or it could be love and if it is u need to grab him up and keep it simple and see were it goes and if it is love u will see the difference from lust it will be so simple to see just give it a chance to grow because it takes more than a day or night to be in love u shall c

Answer 7

well first off you're a bit young to be in love imo. i think you just have a huge crush on this guy so i would have to say lust, but if i myself really wanted to find out if i was in love i would seperate myself from that person and get into other relationships and see if i still felt the same way. but you should stay with him and see if you still feel the same way down the road and ask yourself the same question because only you can really answer that one.

Answer 8

15 is about the right age where you find your first love. Everything that you said describes how I felt about my first love. She took my breath away and I could not imagine the world without her in it. I wanted to be near her and just feel the warmth of her every chance I got.

To this day I still remember her and ache a little bit when I think about her.

If all you want to do is jump on him and do the horizontal mambo, then it is just lust and it will pass.

Answer 9

No there is no age requirement with love. What others mean by "you'll know when you get older" is that young love, although powerful, is frequently a flash in the pan. I burns with an intensity but quickly fizzles. The love they are speaking of, what would be considered true love, takes time, and experience.

Are you in love...sure. Would I advise you to commit your life to this relationship...no.

Answer 10

i think your parents told you that so you wouldn't rush into anything, or close doors too quickly. but no, there is no age factor in being in love. it's a feeling and you have absolutely no control over when it happens or who it happens with. it just happens. you are young though, so the first time the possibility of love comes into your mind as a possible reality, there are many questions that come with it.best advice i can give you is to not believe your parents when it comes to the age thing--bc they're your parents and they feel they "have" to say that to protect you or something. but go with your instincts and listen to your heart. good luck!